...where is grandma?

[shondra]

I am the only child for my mother ...my kids, her only grandchildren. During my parents divorce I kept my distance becasue I was pregnant and on bed rest. That decision drove an invisible wedge between us. Before I gave birth she told my husband to call when I was induced and he did....left 4 messages...to this day she never called back. Although my father came to see me at the hospital my mother never did. It was a bitter divorce because big money was at stake but she should have understood my medical condition and choice to remain neutral. She never came to the Christenings, 1st b-days..eventhough we assured her that my dad would not be there. One time when I got injured and we were calling friends/family to help out because the kids were very young, when I called, she made some excuse..never came. Fast forward years later and I'm still reaching out for my kids to have a grandmother. I am the one calling, making the trips. Despite being accused of 'gold-digging.' She is very quick to send balloons and stuff animals but has excuses if she is to spend time with them. A recent incident occurred that was the last straw and so I've decided to cut her off. Being the softy that I am I feel bad becasue the kids ask for her now and again. Most importantly she is my mother. It hurts. But I am tired of the tug-a war, the insults, the bending and stretching. From what I can see she does not want to be a grandmother and so I'm done forcing her. I shouldn't have to....after all I am her only child.