so my daughter finally

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Re: so my daughter finally

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

i can't explain how it makes me feel...the mind thing deep; it's one thing the majority of other races have straight hair...but how to explain to them when they see the majority of black women also have straight hair...the way the human mind of a child works is to say 'that is the way hair is supposed to look'...they will start to question why they are different;
i feel very strongly about the hair thing...it's a straight up denial of our heritage; they always speak of getting their hair 'fixed' or some foolisheness about 'black women can't swim or go in the rain or sweat or blah blah blah...why??
because chemicalized hair is our norm?
sad indeed </div></div>





makes me think of the video with all those black girls saying the white dolls were prettier



aye sah...

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Re: so my daughter finally

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

i can't explain how it makes me feel...the mind thing deep; it's one thing the majority of other races have straight hair...but how to explain to them when they see the majority of black women also have straight hair...the way the human mind of a child works is to say 'that is the way hair is supposed to look'...they will start to question why they are different;
i feel very strongly about the hair thing...it's a straight up denial of our heritage; they always speak of getting their hair 'fixed' or some foolisheness about 'black women can't swim or go in the rain or sweat or blah blah blah...why??
because chemicalized hair is our norm?
sad indeed </div></div>

feeling you on this, JY. my daughters (one sixteen, one heading for 19) still have natural hair. however they hot comb it when they feel for a change. i hope they will maintain their natural hair for life. i tell them that chemicals not only change your hair they also damage your scalp, and that comes back to haunt you in later life (i know that first hand).

three things helped my daughters stay natural:

1. i praised the beauty and vitality of their natural hair, especially after it's just washed and it's nicely oiled and twisted. <span style="font-weight: bold">you're doing that with your daughter and that is good, it will help.</span>

2. when they wanted straight hair for a special occasion, i used to hot comb their hair. now they use the flatiron. so straight hair becomes a choice rather than a necessity. i don't think i hotcombed their hair until they were tweens (they preferred creative cornrowing for special occasions when they were younger). <span style="font-weight: bold">if you or your wife can be flexible about getting your daughter's hair straight once in a while without permanently altering it with chemicals, that will help, too.</span>

3. my daughters' friends who straightened their hair chemically experienced signficant breakage and loss of hair. the one or two who didn't was because they had access to nuff money to get their hair maintained at the hairdresser.

good luck with your daughter!