Children in "Non-traditional household

[Kurlie]

Do you think that children who were/are raised in non-traditional household (single parent, same sex marriage, raised by grandparents, etc) have a harder or more difficult time growing up?

[Pepper]

Re: Children in "Non-traditional household

The traditions help somewhat. But probably the overwhelming influuence are the values, love, attention, etc shown to the child.

IMO, a phycially, and emotionally abused child reared in a traditional family, is more scarred than one in a same-sex household where he/she is loved.

[Yvonne N.]

Re: Children in "Non-traditional household

All things being equal such as:

(a) love and warmth (b) spiritual guidance (c) parental harmony and (d) money, the differences would be minimal, in my opinion.

Love and the traditions really do overcome many things. I agree with Pepper.

However, if within the household, there is constant bickering, no reliance on words of scripture to guide and console, discontented parent(s), or one absent parent and money issues,
then that household will not fare well.
The more favourable unit will be one that consists of father, mother and children...
<span style="font-style: italic">as a team living under one roof experiencing daily struggles and equally, daily good times</span>...
trying to work things out.

The children of that team will fare better. They will be more emotionally secure and better able to deal with life's vicissitudes.

Sometimes parents from either side of the coin, in their quest for doing good, make errors.
We have to remember that also. They are not perfect.
They can become over-indulgent, they could be over-protective or they may even be inconsistent in disciplining the child especially when trying to make up for real or perceived failings of the home situation.
Additionally, they may demand perfection, or set unrealisitic standards for moral behaviour or even reject the child unwittingly( because shi look like di daddy dats gone)...none of which will help a child in becoming emotionally secure.

So since we know too well
that there is no blueprint for the perfect child
or the perfect family,
let's take our situation we have created or that we have inherited and make it work or us...
by aiming, as far as is possible, for emotionally secure children.

[jah_yout]

Re: Children in &quot;Non-traditional household

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsKurlie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Do you think that children who were/are raised in non-traditional household (single parent, same sex marriage, raised by grandparents, etc) have a harder or more difficult time growing up?

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depends on whose 'tradition'...if it is the euro-americo concept of the nuclear family of mom, dad &amp; 2.5 kids then i don't know;

but from fimme culture it takes a village

[julie*mango]

Re: Children in &quot;Non-traditional household

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs_Ahmidis</div><div class="ubbcode-body">All things being equal such as:

(a) love and warmth (b) spiritual guidance (c) parental harmony and (d) money, the differences would be minimal, in my opinion.

Love and the traditions really do overcome many things. I agree with Pepper.

However, if within the household, there is constant bickering, no reliance on words of scripture to guide and console, discontented parent(s), or one absent parent and money issues,
then that household will not fare well.
The more favourable unit will be one that consists of father, mother and children...
<span style="font-style: italic">as a team living under one roof experiencing daily struggles and equally, daily good times</span>...
trying to work things out.

The children of that team will fare better. They will be more emotionally secure and better able to deal with life's vicissitudes.

Sometimes parents from either side of the coin, in their quest for doing good, make errors.
We have to remember that also. They are not perfect.
They can become over-indulgent, they could be over-protective or they may even be inconsistent in disciplining the child especially when trying to make up for real or perceived failings of the home situation.
Additionally, they may demand perfection, or set unrealisitic standards for moral behaviour or even reject the child unwittingly( because shi look like di daddy dats gone)...none of which will help a child in becoming emotionally secure.

So since we know too well
that there is no blueprint for the perfect child
or the perfect family,
let's take our situation we have created or that we have inherited and make it work or us...
by aiming, as far as is possible, for emotionally secure children.





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