Why white people should not adopt black children

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">They are adorable Peasie!

I mean who really cares if a child's hair is not perfectly parted at that age </div></div>



I am a black woman whose mother had NO CLUE how to do my hair when I was a kid Thank God for her that I loved afro-puffs on either side of my head put in clips otherwise she would have suffered even more

Subsequently, I didnt grow up knowing how to do cornrows or anything more complicated than afro-puffs as well. So the goal is to have all boys (semi-joke. I am just gonna build in a hair salon amount to the household budget if I have a girl )

I know this is all meant as a joke but I dont see it so funny for the sole reason that as Zahara gets older and is able to understand all this media attention over her hair, she will start to have issues with her appearance because now she is conscious of the world scrutinizing her.

The <span style="font-weight: bold">irony</span> of all these do-gooders that want to chastise Bragelina about the child's hair.

[Jazz]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: LINDA</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

ANYone that adopts a child should be praised, especially someone that can give a child a dream life! Geeeshhhhh... </div></div>

[Seveen]

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[Seveen]

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Do I have family and/or close friends of other racial, cultural or ethnic groups? If not how can I develop such relationships?
Am I willing to move to another community, change schools or join appropriate organizations to find adult mentors and peers of my child's race and culture, if necessary?
How do I feel about meeting the specific needs my child will have in developing self-identity and esteem?
How do I imagine supporting my child when he/she experiences racial prejudice and discrimination?
Can I accept the reality that adopting a child of color will mean our family becomes a family of color?

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Do I have family and/or close friends of other racial, cultural or ethnic groups? If not how can I develop such relationships?
Am I willing to move to another community, change schools or join appropriate organizations to find adult mentors and peers of my child's race and culture, if necessary?
How do I feel about meeting the specific needs my child will have in developing self-identity and esteem?
How do I imagine supporting my child when he/she experiences racial prejudice and discrimination?
Can I accept the reality that adopting a child of color will mean our family becomes a family of color?
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That would apply to anyone adopting cross culturally

[Bizzy]

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awww base don those pics. mi waan go adopt 2 ethiopian babies

[Seveen]

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B arack Obama may as well have been a transracial adoptee.

He grew up with white grandparents, without black role models. His Kenyan father and his Kansas mother were not constant presences. As an upperclassman in high school, he realized what it meant to be black in a white world and became sick with the particular loneliness of a transracial adoptee. His grades dropped, he smoked pot, he snorted coke, he came close to trying heroin with an acquaintance in a meat locker: In short, he nearly destroyed himself. To his family, he simply fell silent. &quot;I was trying to raise myself to be a black man in America, and beyond the given of my appearance, no one around me seemed to know exactly what that meant.&quot; <span style="font-weight: bold">So they didn't talk about it.</span>

[Seveen]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Do I have family and/or close friends of other racial, cultural or ethnic groups? If not how can I develop such relationships?
Am I willing to move to another community, change schools or join appropriate organizations to find adult mentors and peers of my child's race and culture, if necessary?
How do I feel about meeting the specific needs my child will have in developing self-identity and esteem?
How do I imagine supporting my child when he/she experiences racial prejudice and discrimination?
Can I accept the reality that adopting a child of color will mean our family becomes a family of color?
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That would apply to anyone adopting cross culturally
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an IMHO that includes being culturally sensitve about black hair

[Seveen]

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i hear that!




<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RichD</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

I mean who really cares if a child's hair is not perfectly parted at that age </div></div> bet yuh never mek dem hear yuh sey dat down a southfield </div></div>

[diabolical_Tanya]

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[Seveen]

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missy gonna be AMAZED at this thread . .

<span style="font-weight: bold">every child should be adopted </span>

but as an adoptive parent of a mandigo

i know he's happy he doesn't have to explain/justify me everyday

face his adoption every day - 'cause he looks so &quot;different&quot;

has a grasp on his culture - including the relatives dropped off in jamaica

and that the barber at the hair cuttery doesn't do his hair as good at &quot;who's next&quot;

[kia027]

Re: Why white people should not adopt black children

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Do I have family and/or close friends of other racial, cultural or ethnic groups? If not how can I develop such relationships?
Am I willing to move to another community, change schools or join appropriate organizations to find adult mentors and peers of my child's race and culture, if necessary?
How do I feel about meeting the specific needs my child will have in developing self-identity and esteem?
How do I imagine supporting my child when he/she experiences racial prejudice and discrimination?
Can I accept the reality that adopting a child of color will mean our family becomes a family of color?
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That would apply to anyone adopting cross culturally
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an IMHO that includes being culturally sensitve about black hair </div></div>

what is cultural sensitivity about black hair? the part should be straight in a toddler? i doan think so with afro puffs and curly locks as long as the child is happy &amp; free it is not an issue

[Marilyn]

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Official word from me. The thread was supposed to be a joke. See I missed the mark on that one. But I really think that if someone is offering a nice home to a child who did not have one then race is not the major importance. HOWEVER, that being said, I do still think that the best of worlds is for a child to be raised in its own culture.

[kia027]

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oops does that mean I have to move my child back to the country she was from?

[Seveen]

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abu said korean friend said &quot;yea mon&quot;