Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

[Tulip]

Re: Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

So this is what I have to look forward to?

My parents are aging as well and yes, I have noticed some changes in their reasoning ability. I notice personality changes as well that were minor at first but are more pronounced now.

I talked to a friend about it and he says that his sister gives his father B-12 shots. I believe that is the B vitamin, but it could be a different one. He says he is good after the shots for most of the month but starts being out of it a bit in the days leading up to the next shot.

I agree that the staff should be more familiar with the are of the elderly than you. I have no idea what they expect you to do. Also, I agree that reasoning with him is probably a lost cause. Maybe the lady help is the answer. Just tell them to go easy on him.

[applepie]

Re: Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

Reprimand a person with dementia will not work.....poor short term memory........although sexual aggression isn't a common symptoms of dementia libido doesn't necessarily decline with age.....sexual connotations becomes sexual inappropriate to staff when it may not be sexual behaviour at all....... need to understand the <span style="font-weight: bold">meaning</span> behind the behavior in order to implement redirecting of sed behaviour......arrange to have a careplan meeting with DON, SS,Activities and regular nurses (optional) who takes care of him and maybe able to see when this started, has it been ongoing since admission to facility, any change in meds and having a psych consult.

[Suesumba]

Re: Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

if he's on dopamine for parkinson's disease, that's one of the side effects.

[Dr.Dudd]

Re: Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

He could be manifesting symptoms of advanced Alzheimer's.

That is if he had Alzheimer's disease for sometime.

It could side effects of behavior modulating drugs.

If it is the former it will be transient, And he will progress out of it.
To a behavior much more innocent s d acceptable to ladies.

Incidentally in both cases he is not at risk of being a danger to Female staff.

If he is on antidepressants, a reduction in dosage may be necessary or a change in the prescription.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Curmudgeon_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I have never had to deal with an elderly parent or grandparent before so all this is new to me.

I have received repeated phone calls from the nursing home in which my father is a resident complaining that he is making verbal sexual advances and also touching both the nurses and female residents in inappropriate ways.

When I try to talk to him about it he says it is not a big deal and he just tries to brush it off. If I keep talking about it he just pretends he can't hear me.

Aye Sah (heavy sigh)!

I'm at my wits end!!!

Anybody have any suggestions? </div></div>

[SistahD]

Re: Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

Hey ((Milo)) yes do get your dad evaluated re possible dementia or reaction to meds. Once evaluated, his doctor needs to assist in getting him to understand that certain behaviours are not acceptable -and keep reminding him. Also, try get him relocated to a male resident section or facility (my mom is in a women only facility with only a few males performing certain functions).

I totally understand the frustration in dealing with the behaviours and effects of dementia, but 'understanding' doesn't really help in the broader scope. There are counselling sessions provided to family members (at no charge, although space is limited for their occasional sessions -I think through Community Care Access or even Alzheimer's)

[kia027]

Re: Help! Mi Faddah!!!!

not much to offer here but wanted to give you a fi dealing wid an aging parent.