I've thrown in the towel

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: St_Bess</div><div class="ubbcode-body">MGee - Ban you belly and try to accept their plans - you never know they may change them now that you have &quot;come around&quot;. As a parent of adult unmarried children I feel your pain. I know your daughter is young and still in school it is just a pity you could not prevail on her to wait until she graduates from Uni. Have they decided where they are going to live, work, etc?. It is a big responsibility for this young man being married with a wife sitll at University. (My older sis did not attend both her sons wedding and the elder son is still married after 16 years, the younger one (mama's bway) is also still married w/2 children. I know she regretted her decision because now I am the substitue MIL for one of her DIL. Aye sah the devil sure know how to pull a mother's heart strings. MGee be strong -- I'll pray that everything works out for your family. </div></div>

(((st bess))) thanks for your kind thoughts. i feel it for your older sister, and hope she finds a way to restore herself in her son dem/wives affections.

the plan for now is to have dawta and spouse live with me. for my dawta's sake, to increase the chance of her achieving her goal of finishing university. they do want to be independent and make their own home, though, so who knows what will happen a year from now.

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
I wish your daughter all the best in her marriage and try and don't stress too much, hopefully they will not have a family until they finish University/college. </div></div>

i hope so, too. i think that's what they plan for, but to tell the truth, life is a week by week ting these days. u never know what twist and turn things may take.

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
How are you managing with the gent MGEE? </div></div>

aye mi gyal. kia, had a chat with him this past weekend. he comes across as sincere, and wanting to do right by my dawta, so mi have very little grounds fi really hold gainst him. his situation was not how he planned his life. me'da prefer he solved it with smaddy else dawta, but essenially fimmi dawta choose him, so me cyaan quarrel widdim.

u know, daddy never put up di big objection dem dat mi was banking on. apparently, young gent keeping his pants waist at his waist instead of halfway down his butt was enuff to win im big points with daddy. that, and the &quot;mr. [daddy first name]&quot; ting.

i was truly alone on my side.

[twiney]

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Mgee

[mountaingal]

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thanks, Twiney. give dat lickle man of urs a big hug and kiss for me, he's so cute give a to big bredda to.

[Seveen]

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i say tie her up and send her to me!

i got married (the first time - lol) at 19 - didn't have any babies tho'

played &quot;house&quot; for a few months and then

exit - stage left

yikes ((((mgee))) i feel ya'

[Seveen]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">the plan for now is to have dawta and spouse live with me</div></div>



if dem grown they need their own place . . . with their own expensives

you setting up for grand pickneys living in your house

and dem being there forever

wid you babysitting

that's beyond the duty of mom and MIL

i remember my parents saying - and i'm not jamaican

you can't be grown in my house



that is beyond the call of duty . . .

ETA . . . i'd rather gift them their first month rent than have them LIVE with me - oh no!

[britisha]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MGee</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So wait, if dem waa go out, an she haffi pay fi dem? Whichawt im live? Yuh eva talk to any a im people dem?

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they've mastered the art of the cheap date - movies, walks, going to places accessible by transit. i don't ask, though, who pays.

nunya, i've been in denial so no, mi no talk to him people dem. to what mi hear from mi dawta, there are some complicated family dynamics, and mi waina pray mi dawta would come to her senses so mi wouldn't have fi get involve.

we have fiwi owna potential drama in her daddy. so a dat mi a brace fa now before mi get to the matter of boyfriend family. </div></div>

denial or no denial yuh haffie meet an talk wid im folks...so much can come out from such meeting and interaction...doan chrow di towel een yet...there is hope.

...n tink about it Mgee...dat no soun okay seh dem agguh liff at your place...

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">miss lady ... sigh ... your girls are so beutiful ... big sigh ... </div></div>

yes, thanks sue. dem fill mi heart.

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">what country is he from? has your daughter read the stories of inter country love on this site and others? perhaps visa journey? </div></div>
jamaica. my dawta don't frequent dis site, teng gawwwd, caw mi no know how she'd react knowing mi a discuss a biz in cyberspace.

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">the plan for now is to have dawta and spouse live with me</div></div>



if dem grown they need their own place . . . with their own expensives

you setting up for grand pickneys living in your house

and dem being there forever

wid you babysitting

that's beyond the duty of mom and MIL

i remember my parents saying - and i'm not jamaican

you can't be grown in my house



that is beyond the call of duty . . .

ETA . . . i'd rather gift them their first month rent than have them LIVE with me - oh no!










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Mg is not you and you are not MG brite

[Stormmey]

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MG whatever <span style="font-weight: bold">you</span> decide and I wish you all the best

Seveen and mi wone si wat shi sez until nex week or so

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
if dem grown they need their own place . . . with their own expensives

you setting up for grand pickneys living in your house

and dem being there forever

wid you babysitting

that's beyond the duty of mom and MIL

i remember my parents saying - and i'm not jamaican

you can't be grown in my house



that is beyond the call of duty . . .

ETA . . . i'd rather gift them their first month rent than have them LIVE with me - oh no!

</div></div>

(((seveen)))) been actually thinking deep on what u said.

confession time. i wanted them to live with me and i offered, because i thought this would be the way to ensure dawta finished school. my actual offer was that they could live with me till young man got straightened out and got a job and they could afford their own place.

however, truth is i'm having some trouble letting go of my dawta. even though she have her ways and we quarrel constantly.

both dawta and young man have said they want to live on their own. they've accepted my offer, but dawta says they'll leave as soon as they can.

[mountaingal]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">MG whatever <span style="font-weight: bold">you</span> decide and I wish you all the best

Seveen and mi wone si wat shi sez until nex week or so </div></div>

lol. stormmey, u mek me laff thru mi tears.

seveen is right, i think. i wouldnt have actually minded us all living together under one roof and babies being born here and ting. but for my dawta's own growth, i think they do need their own space to develop as a married couple.

[Skelly]

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MG her living with u is NOT going to ensure that she finishes school....u already know that it is ur maternal attachment that is preventing u from letting go.... i have no solid advice to offer other than to let u kno that i wish all of u (SIL too) the best