Little Brother

[Stormmey]

Well I am in shock.....

So little bro is seventeen and we have a really good relationship so he talks to me about everything. He told me last week that some girl (16) likes him (wants to be his steady girlfriend) but he told her we can be friends but I am not into you that way.

He says he tries his best to avoid her but she always follow him around. Anyway, what he said the likkle gyal said to him is I can do oral sex on you and make you feel really good will you be my boyfriend then

I am shocked she just turn (16) he said I told her I am not interested and she still keep following him around with the same proposition. Then she said is it because I am fat why you do not like me.

Well after he told me that I thought this likkle gyal have some self esteem issues going on. He says he has not told anyone else but he knows if she had approached some of his friends they would have taken her up on the offer.

I told him to tell her you are sexually harassing me and if you do not stop I am going to the Principal. I just want to drive up at his school and confront her and ask her what is her problem if she do not have any respect for herself. He said no stormmey I can deal with it. I just tell him you better not take that girl up on her offer.

What you think he/me should do, let him deal with it or do something about it. My Mom and his Dad is not the best people to deal with this type of situation.....my Mom will strait up call that little girl a HO and his Dad will ask him so what is the problem

[twiney]

Re: Little Brother

No you should not confront her...the fact that he confides in you means a lot ... continue to encourage him not to take her up on the offer and yes pull the sexual harassment card and hopefully it will make her wake up but don't be surprised if it doesn't.

Allow him to continue dealing with it.

[ILP]

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I feel bad for the girl in the sense that your brother sounds like he is cool, but it seems that "cool-ness" in her eyes can only be reciprocated with sex and sexual favours. I am not saying that things with your brother are not the way you say it is...but adolescents "like to bounce ideas off of" the people that they trust. So the fact that he is telling you about the girl and her "offer" means that the thought of taking her up on it has crossed his mind.

As for his friends, don't be fooled into thinking that one of them have not already taken her up on the offer. Males don't share ALL of there "conquests", especially if the conquest doesn't fit the mold of what the group says is attractive.

It takes two people to have sex and if your brother never takes this chic up on the offer...then she can never perform the favour (well...unless she rapes him and then that would be a whole other issue). If the pestering doesnt subside in a few, I'd instruct your brother to tell another adult (in the building). We have an "anonymous" reporting system in our school where kids can report concerns about other kids without ever putting their name on it. Some of the stuff we get is unfounded, but sometimes.... If your brother attends a school that has such a thing in place, I'd advise him to drop her name and what kinds of things she does...and then an adult can take it from there.

[Stormmey]

Re: Little Brother

Thanks ladies,

ILP I really do not know if they have the anonymous reporting system at his school I must ask him. I also feel that if he thought she was cute and approached him with an offer like that he would take her up on it. He says she gets teased a lot because she is a plus size girl so he always try and be nice to her.

[ILP]

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mi hear you.
and like i said...just because he has refused, doesn't mean it is the same for his friends (and non-friends).
a guy will chat her wid dem friends ahn then turn around "satisfy" them urges behind closed doors.

[Nunya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Thanks ladies,
ILP I really do not know if they have the anonymous reporting system at his school I must ask him. I also feel that if he thought she was cute and approached him with an offer like that he would take her up on it. He says she gets teased a lot because she is a plus size girl so he always try and be nice to her.
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Maybe he should tell her that her constant asking and pestering is what is the turn off. ...although that would only work for so long...

I've got a feeling that should he start dating someone else, this girl will go over the edge...

[Jazz]

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I feel for your brother - it is not easy trying to disengage yourself from someone who won;t take no for an answer - especially when you don;t want to hurt their feelings.
HE sounds like a nice guy.

I truly feel sorry for the likkle girl to - he says she gets teased because of her weight and she obviously feels that the only way anyone will like her is through sex

tough situation - I don;t think you should do anything Stormmey but just listen - I think he will be able to handle it - he probably came to you because he didn't trust any of his little friends... I am sure you have already talked it through with im and helped him to see all sides of the situation - bith hers and the girls - it's a compliment to you that he trusts you enough to talk to you about things like these.

As long as he's not feeling stalked.... I would say leave it to time.

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Thanks ladies,
ILP I really do not know if they have the anonymous reporting system at his school I must ask him. I also feel that if he thought she was cute and approached him with an offer like that he would take her up on it. He says she gets teased a lot because she is a plus size girl so he always try and be nice to her.
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Maybe he should tell her that her constant asking and pestering is what is the turn off. ...although that would only work for so long...

I've got a feeling that should he start dating someone else, this girl will go over the edge... </div></div>

I don't think she will now as my Mom heard about it and went to the school spoke to the teachers, much to little bro chagrin. He feels he is the big man that can handle stuff like that. Well I hope that is the end of that, his Dad is the only one that had a grin on his face saying so what is the problem...ole eediat

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I feel for your brother - it is not easy trying to disengage yourself from someone who won;t take no for an answer - especially when you don;t want to hurt their feelings.
HE sounds like a nice guy.

I truly feel sorry for the likkle girl to - he says she gets teased because of her weight and she obviously feels that the only way anyone will like her is through sex

tough situation - I don;t think you should do anything Stormmey but just listen - I think he will be able to handle it - he probably came to you because he didn't trust any of his little friends... I am sure you have already talked it through with im and helped him to see all sides of the situation - bith hers and the girls - it's a compliment to you that he trusts you enough to talk to you about things like these.

As long as he's not feeling stalked.... I would say leave it to time. </div></div>

Jazz I also feel sory for the likkle girl, I know being plus size at school wey everbody a chry fee look anoerexic (sp) cant be easy for her. I didn't get the feeling that he thought he was being stalked and if so I know he can handle himself. Just that sometimes he is too nice especially if he feels you not popular. He is mad at Mom though for getting into his business as he says....

[Stormmey]

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Well I take back all I said about feeling sorry for that likkle heifer, well she start again when school started back in September. He rebuffed her again and I guess this time he was not nice about it....the likkle gyal spit inna him face and likkle bro thump her dung.

I don't care who want to say he should have shown more self control personally think he should have bruk every bone inna her body damn renk. Good thing everthing was documented that she was harassing him.

I say is a good thiong I reform now or else the other day when I saw that gyal inna the mall parking lot I would have run her dung.....brite anyway she see me and she tek off running.

[kia027]

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and since the tumpdung has she now left him alone?

[Stormmey]

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Yes Kia, she has.

see my likkle bro is even keel and a total little gentleman, (6foot 3inch at 17) but when he flips is something to behold the parents did threathen to call cops....good luck to them with that and wanted likkle bro suspended all school board get involved but my Mom is a force to be reckoned with in this town.

Anyway the both of them had to apologize to each otherl....after she apologize for spitting on him....my Mom said likkle bro hesitate for awhile and then he said I apologize for hitting you because you spit in my face