Sex Talk

[ILP]

Babygirl A just call to inform that she was coming down for the weekend. Obviously, them in the middle of the term, so mi inquire further.

<span style="font-style: italic">[crickets]</span>

So I ask few more questions when the crux of the matter come to light. Boy at school, she really likes him, but they just start talking (or mek them feelings known to each other) &lt;---young people and them language anyhew she wants to kiss him (she actually said &quot;get with him&quot; ) , but she doesnt know how long she should wait.


Oonu come wid di sound advisement. Mi tell har mi had was to mek har questions marinate fuss before mi ansa har. (to be read: mi tell har Hunter was fussing).

Mi neva sen har up deh fi daht you know

[Skelly]

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tell her to have her fun but keep her head in her books...dating but no bf/gf ting til she graduate...boys are such a distraction

[ILP]

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Yeah I was thinking about that, but she seemed to be fixated on timing and how long each stage should be. I am of the opinion that things should move naturally.

for some that is months others a matter of minutes.

[kia027]

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Congratulations on Babygirl A reaching college and still has not kissed! That is a rarity these days

I would speak openly and honestly and matter of factly

[Gen]

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I would love to say tell her fi keep her leg lock, focus on the prize (undergrad &amp; masters) but dat not realistic right

she is a sophomore now right ? Mi would lay it all out on the table from A-Z and nuh leave out nothing

[H_O]

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i started banging girls when i was 15
and it was someones daughter

[Skelly]

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If all else fail jus remind her dat her madda was a college student too...

[CeaBee]

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birth control, condoms chat

me not looking forward to it...cause is me had fi kinda start with BB ...i guess mr cb figure them will learn the same way he did...from dem friend

[ILP]

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thanks oonu. mi is still very conflicted. i called her this morning. she was up which is very, strange considering she ahn vampire keep company.... anyhew...mek mi rehash it:

1. <span style="font-weight: bold">she</span> likes this boy and finally told him. she's liked him since last year.
2. as a result im also confirm he liked her also.
3. them was both shy to tell each other, so they just attended the same parties, facebooked each other, and visited the same eating spots on campus
4. she wants to &quot;get with&quot; &lt;--(to be read: sleep with) this guy.
5. however she feels she need a span of time to pass before she does it, as to not seem like she is moving too fast <span style="font-weight: bold">she wants me to tell her how long that is. </span>
6. mi ask har if she blieve seh mi sen har up deh fi daht? mi sen har up deh fi study har lesson. why she muss do dem tings now? what so special bout this boy why she muss &quot;get with&quot;...which mi nu like them kinna talk bout &quot;get with&quot; wah daht mean? is slack term she using to me... sorry.
7. her response was for me to chill she knows all about condoms and drinking and &quot;doing it&quot; and only dumb girls do that. I shouldn't worry about her getting STD's or pregnant, she isnt her mother (mi nip that right deh cah she nu get fi cuss har muddah in them kinna ways) she just wanted to know how long was a good enough time to let pass before she does it with this boy.
8. mi interrupt har and ask &quot;what do you mean this boy? it sound like you've been down this road before.&quot;
9. har response, &quot;Duh?&quot;


smdh....

[CeaBee]

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tell her two years

lawd it not funny...why she come and ask u that? and me nuh like the duh part

how about the spiel bout &quot; when them in a committed monogamous relationship&quot;

[RichD]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CeaBee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

how about the spiel bout &quot; when them in a committed monogamous relationship&quot; </div></div>

good one

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RichD</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CeaBee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

how about the spiel bout &quot; when them in a committed monogamous relationship&quot; </div></div>

good one </div></div>

and both have them health certificate
and them both know where the relationship going sans the sex pawt

and what does he want from her? what does he bring to the table?

Who im people be? she meet him fambly? what are his goals and what are his grades?

ok gatta run

[Skelly]

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Mi belly tie up in knots fi yu ILP. Mi gwen be in ur shoes in di future.

[Gen]

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Why is she concerned with a specific time span ?

Why she can't go with the flow ?

Why she nuh wait till the boy mek a move ?

Obviously she gwine dweet suh mek she know &quot;how&quot; to do &quot;it&quot; responsibly, and that Hunter nuh need nuh playmate him have enough at nursery school.

[twiney]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Why is she concerned with a specific time span ?

Why she can't go with the flow ?

Why she nuh wait till the boy mek a move ?

Obviously she gwine dweet suh mek she know &quot;how&quot; to do &quot;it&quot; responsibly, and that Hunter nuh need nuh playmate him have enough at nursery school.

</div></div>

And as much as shi might know bout contraceptive them not 100% fool proof so how about waiting till she finish school and them have the relationship whe CB mention ... cause contrary to popular belief sex not going outa style and not everybody doing it. If the dude worth it him can wait.