Husband sleeps with friend to save marriage

[j-kid]

Wedda dem goh tuh ah counseling or nat, shi will neva figet it, soh him haffi decide if him waa fi live in misery fi di rest ah him life.

[j-kid]

Shi sey, him already tried dat an failed.

yes I can because for 9 months there were alternatives available.

[Tropicana]

There enough information here but it seems like the wife would have supported him sleeping with someone but her friend. That is a bit surprising. I was thinking if he had permission would it be adultery? I don't condone his behavior but it seems they maybe able to reconcile. I think the pastor suggested counseling because of all the nuisances that a few lines will not reveal.

Of course it would be adultery. To sleep with someone else when you are married is adultery. Remember those people who used to have key parties? Pure slackness. I don't think it ever hit Jamaica.

A "key party" is when a group of several married couples get together and have a party, and at the end of the night, the husbands all place their keys into a large box or something similar. The wives then pick a set of keys out of the box and whoevers keys they have is the man that they will go home with on that particular night. They were mostly popular in the 70's

..... in White middle class neighbourhoods in the US and Canada.

[blugiant]

Flippin unbelievable and you asked a while back why Black women are bypassing some educated Black men. With attitudes like this I wouldn't touch someone like you with a tuning fork..no matter how educated or intelligent you are.

As a famous Jamaican educator once said "genius without character".

butt tropi yuh shood kno bettar dan fe chatt bout attitude cah dat wat dem use fe stereotype blakk oomen

neva figgit mii made a sarcastic camment to wan oyinbo ooman phd ann shi told mii shi cyaan beeleeve mii wood say sintinn like dat cah mii iss wan aff da few aff mii peeps woo ovatand dat

[blugiant]

No, not right either way you slice it. If he had to do something hoping she didn't/wouldn't find out, it meant he knew it was wrong.


That was way back then; can't use that argument now.

yuh chattinn bout moralitee ann mii chattinn bout da ethic aff da situation. man add needs so imm needed fe be more discreet ann natt doo itt widd wifee friend

bible define adultery diffarant dan oww peeps usinn itt now so biblicallee iff da wife friend was natt married annoo adulteree butt da a way back argument too

[blugiant]

Also he was in disobedience and did not wait on God's timing so your reasoning is WAY off blugiant. I am disappointed that you would support adultery.

seereeusslee tropi

mii kno wan man woo wifee was sick ann imm took care aff ar fe like a decade. imm took ar to doctors ann hospitals neva cumplaininn. aftah five ears imm got sum wan pon da side all de wild awlso tekkinn care aff imm wifee. yuh tink inn da position mii aggoo judge da man actions as wrang

[Tropicana]

If you don't judge him as wrong there is something wrong with your moral standards.

The marriage vows say "In sickness and in health"..."foresaking all others". They don't say find someone else fe if your wife gets sick.

Shame on you blugiant.

This is yet another answer to your question about why some men are not up to standard even if they are educated. With a mindset like that, who needs him. You won't die if you don't have sex you know.

[j-kid]

Can yuh research suppen fi mi? Mi always hear sey, if yuh don't, afta ah while yuh seed-bag wi explode.

You won't die if you don't have sex you know.

[Tropicana]

Can yuh research suppen fi mi? Mi always hear sey, if yuh don't, afta ah while yuh seed-bag wi explode.

Total and utter garbage. You are supposed to be an intelligent man....surely you aren't serious.

[blugiant]

No, not right either way you slice it. If he had to do something hoping she didn't/wouldn't find out, it meant he knew it was wrong.


That was way back then; can't use that argument now.

does natt meen itt wrang. itt cood meen imm doan waan ar fe find out cah itt cood hurt ar? ethics sinting natt moralitee


awl diss thyme mii tink da bible storee aff sarah givinn ar husband ar blessinn fe sleeps annadda ooman was timeless

[Tropicana]

I repeat....Abraham was in disobedience to God. God is the same yesterday, today and forever. Don't twist things around to justify immoral behaviour.

Ditto for the story of David and Bathsheba...I hope you are not misinterpreting it to mean that God gave his blessing on adultery if a woman's husband is away at war.

Abraham and David both faced serious consequences because of their disobedience and immorality. THOS are the lessons that we are to take from these life experiences.

[blugiant]

If you don't judge him as wrong there is something wrong with your moral standards.

The marriage vows say "In sickness and in health"..."foresaking all others". They don't say find someone else fe if your wife gets sick.

Shame on you blugiant.

This is yet another answer to your question about why some men are not up to standard even if they are educated. With a mindset like that, who needs him. You won't die if you don't have sex you know.

yuh tryinn fe mekk itt inna moral sintinn wen itt more bout ethics. wat yuh chattinn bout is being bound by iigha power ann fallawinn da code aff forsakinn awl addar. dat iss ethics tings cah dat bout da rules aff wat da societee ann kulcha waan. da prablem iss dat forsakinn awl adder doan cansidar awl da variable dat might happen

dat y a man woo mine imm wifee durinn ar prolong bout aff sickness ann ave side piece can be cansidar a moral person

[blugiant]

I repeat....Abraham was in disobedience to God. God is the same yesterday, today and forever. Don't twist things around to justify immoral behaviour.

Ditto for the story of David and Bathsheba...I hope you are not misinterpreting it to mean that God gave his blessing on adultery if a woman's husband is away at war.

Abraham and David both faced serious consequences because of their disobedience and immorality. THOS are the lessons that we are to take from these life experiences.

tropi read da bible carefullee ann yuh will see dat itt does natt used da modern definition aff adultery dat yuh usinn

[Tropicana]

tropi read da bible carefullee ann yuh will see dat itt does natt used da modern definition aff adultery dat yuh usinn

Again utter and total rubbish.

[Tropicana]

4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a]5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]?6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

Notice our Lord says WIFE not WIVES. Notice the number TWO...He did not say "the TWO or more".