If you had a husband/boyfriend and you

[MarieK]

had to search his phone every night because you don't trust him would you continue to stay with him

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Dear Pastor,

I have been with a guy for four years and we got married four months ago. During the four years we have been together, I always had women problem with him. At one point we separated because he told me that he impregnated a girl. After a couple of months, he came back and told me to give him another chance and that the girl was telling a lie. Now that I gave him a chance and we are married, the girl problem has started again. He has a girl calling him every day and he is calling her too. If she doesn't call one day, he calls her. He tells me that it is a lie, but I know it is true, because, every evening when he comes home, I search his phone.

Pastor, I am tired and fed up of this. I don't know what to do.

SC, Grand Cayman

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I am asking becauase more and more I am hearing of women who feel they have to do this to find out if there is honesty in their relationship my first question is where do you find the time and usually teh second is if you feel you have to do that to establish whether there is the presence of fidelity and trust in your relationship doesn't it mean that your marriage/relationship is in trouble.

Marie gawn enjoy har new pair a shoes [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img]

[kingy]

Re: If you had a husband/boyfriend and you

should the man not have female friends?

[MarieK]

Re: If you had a husband/boyfriend and you

huh? Kingy a wishpawt disya question come from. Yuh ooman nuh can have man friends, suh wan rang if di man have ooman friends

[kingy]

Re: If you had a husband/boyfriend and you

not really asking you marie. jus a push de question.

[diabolical_Tanya]

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If there is no trust in the relationship then mi a leff it, mi noh have time fi dem tings deh.


And by trust I mean both ways.....even if di man a stray there is no reason fi a search him phone, unless mi need evidence fi di divorce proceedings.

[twiney]

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mi always say make sure u can handle anything u find ...if mi feel mi haffi search u phone then mi will go mi ways

[MayPenYout]

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Dat juss tek tuh much energy fi always a check phone an a fallah up pan dis an dat.

Meed affi leff. Mi too lazy fi do dat evry day.

[MarieK]

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u know how much shoes mi cudda buy inna dat deh space a time deh.

It is just too much effort plus fi mi mental instability cyaan hangle dem tings deh smaddy wi dead.

[kingy]

Re: If you had a husband/boyfriend and you

just a general question. what if its her being too insecure?

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kingaling</div><div class="ubbcode-body">just a general question. what if its her being too insecure? </div></div>

an insecure person doesn't need to be in a relationship. Dat is recipe for disaster, the man gonna feel like he's in prison and vice versa.

[diabolical_Tanya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsMarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kingaling</div><div class="ubbcode-body">just a general question. what if its her being too insecure? </div></div>

<span style='font-size: 14pt'>an insecure person doesn't need to be in a relationship. </span> Dat is recipe for disaster, the man gonna feel like he's in prison and vice versa.

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AMEN Sistah AMEN

and juss soh yu know, a lot of abusive men (rule out drugs an likka) are abusive because they are insecure, not necessarily in the relationship but within themself

[dr. bones]

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That relationship is doomed. She doesn't trust him, he cheats, she searches and finds evidence of cheating, but she married him anyways. What's the point. Why does she snoop for info, then not do anything about it?

Plus, that man needs to wise up and clean his call log before he gets home.

[MayPenYout]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsMarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">u know how much shoes mi cudda buy inna dat deh space a time deh.

It is just too much effort plus fi mi mental instability cyaan hangle dem tings deh smaddy wi dead.
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Yuh an yuh shoe addiction. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/helpsmilie.gif[/img]
Mi agree wid yuh, too emotionally unstable. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/dizzy.gif[/img]

Why subject yuhself to dis?

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: May_Pen_Yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsMarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">u know how much shoes mi cudda buy inna dat deh space a time deh.

It is just too much effort plus fi mi mental instability cyaan hangle dem tings deh smaddy wi dead.
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Yuh an yuh shoe addiction. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/helpsmilie.gif[/img]
Mi agree wid yuh, too emotionally unstable. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/dizzy.gif[/img]

Why subject yuhself to dis?

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Lord id shoe ting outa control. I had a pair delivered dis mawnin mi nuh even need no brown boots ennuh but dem cute cyaan done [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/inlove1.gif[/img]

I dont know why anyone would subject themselves to this.

[neutral]

Re: If you had a husband/boyfriend and you

If yu have to search phone every night then that relationship isnt worth it.