crabs in a barrel

[reddgrrl]

I'm not saying that this issue is exclusive to black people but this is where the situation seems to come up the most.

There is an expression that we use often to refer to ourselves or rather, others who suffer from this affliction. "Crabs in a barrel." It's basically saying that if we see someone "rising" above us, "we" as a people want to drag them back down or prevent them from "rising".

I've been in situations where I've been looking for a job or other opportunities and thought "Hey, i know that So-n-So would be perfect for this opportunity." So I will let that person know and let them take it from there. Even if it means we are vying for the same thing, if I know that someone is looking for the available opportunity, I will let them know.

I've been told many times that this type of behavior is atypical for black people, esp black women. Do you think this is true? I was raised to believe that we will never get anywhere unless we help one another. So why are we so hesitant to do it? Why do we keep some information to ourselves when we know it would benefit someone else? Has anyone else encountered this?

[kia027]

Re: crabs in a barrel

it is atypical for people who have crabs in a barrel syndrome.. i think most people want to help others

[Suesumba]

Re: crabs in a barrel

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: reddgrrl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">esp black women</div></div>


it depends on the background, socialization and upbringing of the woman in question. from my experience.

[julie*mango]

Re: crabs in a barrel

ready for your head on a platter?

[diabolical_Tanya]

Re: crabs in a barrel

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: reddgrrl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm not saying that this issue is exclusive to black people but this is where the situation seems to come up the most.

There is an expression that we use often to refer to ourselves or rather, others who suffer from this affliction. &quot;Crabs in a barrel.&quot; It's basically saying that if we see someone &quot;rising&quot; above us, &quot;we&quot; as a people want to drag them back down or prevent them from &quot;rising&quot;.

I've been in situations where I've been looking for a job or other opportunities and thought &quot;Hey, i know that So-n-So would be perfect for this opportunity.&quot; So I will let that person know and let them take it from there. Even if it means we are vying for the same thing, if I know that someone is looking for the available opportunity, I will let them know.

I've been told many times that this type of behavior is atypical for black people, esp black women. Do you think this is true? I was raised to believe that we will never get anywhere unless we help one another. So why are we so hesitant to do it? Why do we keep some information to ourselves when we know it would benefit someone else? Has anyone else encountered this? </div></div>

I have heard of the &quot;crab in a barrel&quot; thing and it being attributed to the black community...but I don't think it is as predominantly a black thing as we are lead to belive. I think is only we who point it out as such. I see it happen more often in groups of women regardless of colour.

[Suesumba]

Re: crabs in a barrel

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nyata_tu_Rhatid</div><div class="ubbcode-body">but I don't think it is as predominantly a black thing as we are lead to belive. <span style="font-weight: bold">I think is only we who point it out as such. I see it happen more often in groups of women regardless of colour. </span>


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true. me. mi indian (from india) friend and my guyanese friend were discussing the &quot;black woman stare down&quot; and the indian piped up that indians were like that with each other as well.

aldoah, the head to toe inspection, dress measurement taking, and the hair policing among black women is very annoying.

[Gen]

Re: crabs in a barrel

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_n_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">ready for your head on a platter? </div></div>


why caw she figat fi seh <span style="font-weight: bold">some</span> ooman

[Gen]

Re: crabs in a barrel

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nyata_tu_Rhatid</div><div class="ubbcode-body">but I don't think it is as predominantly a black thing as we are lead to belive. <span style="font-weight: bold">I think is only we who point it out as such. I see it happen more often in groups of women regardless of colour. </span>


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true. me. mi indian (from india) friend and my guyanese friend were discussing the &quot;black woman stare down&quot; and the indian piped up that indians were like that with each other as well.

aldoah, the head to toe inspection, dress measurement taking, and the hair policing among black women is very annoying. </div></div>


dress measurement taking woieeeeeeeeee sue nuh kill mi in yah. a choo enuh.

[blugiant]

Re: crabs in a barrel

da ting iss blakk peeps ave a lang histaree aff puttinn aside dem interest fii da individuals wey sell dem out.

read da prince soo yu learn oww fii play da game bettar