Invitation to the shower but not the wedding

[Fern]

Re: Invitation to the shower but not the wedding

and what if yu and everyone else say yes den shi ova har numba and affi now find di money fi pay fi di extra people which was di issue in di fus palce.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body">chroo..

..but as a courtesy could yu not issue an invitation anyway and let the person decide? </div></div>

[tsophra]

Re: Invitation to the shower but not the wedding

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fern</div><div class="ubbcode-body">and what if yu and everyone else say yes den shi ova har numba and affi now find di money fi pay fi di extra people which was di issue in di fus palce.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body">chroo..

..but as a courtesy could yu not issue an invitation anyway and let the person decide? </div></div> </div></div>

you're a better hostess than me..I would have expected them to pay for themselves...I have..in one instance the bride/groom arranged group rate discounts for the wedding guests who needed accomodations..that's about the most I would expect

[tsophra]

Re: Invitation to the shower but not the wedding

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fern</div><div class="ubbcode-body">si dere, a colleague yu wasn't close to tawt enuff fi include yu some how. regardless of her reasoning behind di invitation, it should have said a lot to you. plus based on yu relationship, shi probably didnt feel comfortable telling yu about her financial limitations. as fi yu fren and no matta how close, sometimes it's hard fi choose between frens and relatives. but den agen, as a fren shi shooda tell yu up front. mek yu wanda how much of a fren shi consida yu.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body">no offense taken Fern..when it was done to me by a colleague years ago..i thought it was tacky..and did not accept the invitation..a simple explanation dat she could not afford to invite me would have been fine..we were not that cloae anyway

when my friend decided to do the same for her wedding...i told her the same..more diplomatically of course and after the fact..the friends she did it to were offended </div></div> </div></div>

apparently enough of a friend to tell me she couldn't afford to invite me to the wedding

[Yvonne N.]

Re: Invitation to the shower but not the wedding

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body">...but is nat a scenario like dat me talking..me chatting one whey smaddy seh dem can only afford fe have X people at de wedding but want to include more dan X in dem celebration..so dem decide fe juss invite some to the shower.

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Stuff like this always causes problems especially when some people think that dem rank #1 on the list and come to find out , they have no ranking at all.

Tacky at best.

I'd prefer if the celebration was simply limited to the wedding guests.