The cost

[Nunya]

Re: The cost

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Scarface</div><div class="ubbcode-body">**** Lang ole kissteeth **** When the grass green ppl ride di gravy train Now tings a tek a slight turn an unno suddenly feeling &quot;burntout&quot;. A nansense dat, in every marriage one or the other partner gets &quot;burntout&quot; many times during the marriage... but dem noh bailout. A wonder how ofter him feel &quot;burntout&quot; trying to keep up wid fihar financial demand If yu compliment di man wid your so-call emotional strength in the begining, so what? Dats probly why him marry yu in the first place.

It would be interesting to hear HIS version!! </div></div>

I did put forth your viewpoint uppa tap deh eno - cause some friends see it from your viewpoint... somewhat anyway.

She's got a career too. So though they're financially successful and he brings in the lion share, as Nylah say, she oodn starve if he stopped providing materially.

She is starving emotionally though and prolly psychologically too (though I know nutn of dem tings deh ) All I know she's been looking and acting more and more tired lately... so while I was surprised at her announcement, I sorta expected it(actually expected it some time back :/)

He loves her. I know this. She loves him. But she feels like she's his prop and her legs are wearing out. Bottom line.

[Nunya]

Re: The cost

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DearJohn</div><div class="ubbcode-body">What was her financial status like in the beginning of the relationship when they first met?

I am getting the feeling that she has needed him to give her financial support from day one, which would explain why she hung in there so long? Do they have any kids? </div></div>

I don't know if I would say she 'hung in there'. She thought she was being a good supportive partner.

They were on an even keel financially when she first got together.

[Gen]

Re: The cost

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MGee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">sounds like she was hoping he'd change over the years to become more proactive about his own progress. meanwhile all was happening was that she was solidifying his dependence on her. guy doesn't seem to be a naturally ambitious man.


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this is what i was thinking. and now she juss plain tired a him. she has way more patience than me cause after the first 2 or 3 times I would have just been completely drained.

[Gen]

Re: The cost

mi wouldan juss tell him me need time apart and end it soon after. every couple years we re-evaluate our lives, what we want and where we are going. maybe she juss git up one day and ask harself what is the purpose of this relationship if she haffi a do all the emotional work.

and now she realize him is not what she really need.

[Nunya]

Re: The cost

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tek_weh_yuhself</div><div class="ubbcode-body">mi wouldan juss tell him me need time apart and end it soon after. every couple years we re-evaluate our lives, what we want and where we are going. maybe she juss git up one day and ask harself what is the purpose of this relationship if she haffi a do all the emotional work.

and now she realize him is not what she really need. </div></div>

You just said what she said! Although she neva verbalize de laas sentence

Hear ya: She figures that she's put ho much years eena de relationship an now if she git up an lef, all dat time she spend wid im a go jus be considered waste.

Him kina say de same ting to - but im a tun it roun pon har. Cause hear dis: when she a encourage im fi go afta a position or supm an im a second guess imself go an come, she used to tell im say de sitn dem whe im learn from de years im dideh is invaluable an de payoff is fi go fi de position (caw no new graduate nah go have dat deh insider info deh).

So im tell har say she a cop out afta dem come dis far an dat <span style="text-decoration: underline">dem</span> is a work in progress which will get better wid time. But if she lef now, she jussa dash whe de ho much years dem did deh togedda an how she a go undermine alla de tings dem whe she teach im \0/

So she conflicted. She no waa si im 'back slide' (cyaa tink of annedda word) but at de same time, she say she jus too tired fi care.

She say she tink she a lose har hair (some a har fren dem sugges say a de wedda) an she have constant heartburn - plus she jus feel fatigued.

Har docta tell har say she unda to much stress.

[mountaingal]

Re: The cost

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> But if she lef now, she jussa dash whe de ho much years dem did deh togedda an how she a go undermine alla de tings dem whe she teach im \0/</div></div>
weh di ...????? guy is clueless. so wah, she haffi teach him AND prop up di teaching inna him to? im cyaan tek di lesson dem and find him own way?

infantile.

and she's conflicted bout <span style="font-style: italic">this</span> guy?