emotional connections

[kia027]

do you feel connected wid all u relatives whe u have or just the ones dem weh u grow wid or dem grow round u?

what are your obligations to relatives if you doan have dat 'connection'?

[twiney]

Re: emotional connections

no obligation if u no feel connection ...

[kia027]

Re: emotional connections

but is something wrong wid mi cause mi noh feel no connection?

[twiney]

Re: emotional connections

never ... but then mi is the wrong smaddy fi ask dat since me chose my family and frens

[Nylah]

Re: emotional connections


which kind u feel no connection to? ones you know or dont know?

still dont think there is anything wrong with u even if it ones u know.

[kia027]

Re: emotional connections

i know dem but neva grow round dem.. visit dem moreso cause of mi madda but not because i feel a connection

mi just a wonda if mi emotionally distant

[Nylah]

Re: emotional connections



well I would venture to still say no b/c you didnt have a real chance to connect with them. Family members are people too and I dont like or vibe with all people. Simple as that.

dont fret yourself because you need to have common ground to feel for a person and being related by blood isnt enough.

[kia027]

Re: emotional connections

but what if you are in a position where you can help guide them but you not 'feeling it'

it is kinda the right thing to do but mi nat morally feeling the obligation

[twiney]

Re: emotional connections

if you can help them and it wont hurt u help them but not because u feel family obligation

[kia027]

Re: emotional connections

but what if you dont really feel fi help dem

[twiney]

Re: emotional connections

dont ... but if it going to bother u conscience do it and done

[Nylah]

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but why u not feeling it? if u think they wont listen to you or be receptive to your guidance, you shouldnt put yourself out there, IMO.

<span style="font-style: italic">Took me 2 hours to make this post</span>

[dahjah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mary_Sunshine</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
but why u not feeling it? if u think they wont listen to you or be receptive to your guidance, you shouldnt put yourself out there, IMO.

<span style="font-style: italic">Took me 2 hours to make this post</span> </div></div>

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mary_Sunshine</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
but why u not feeling it? if u think they wont listen to you or be receptive to your guidance, you shouldnt put yourself out there, IMO.

<span style="font-style: italic">Took me 2 hours to make this post</span> </div></div>

dat is what i am trying to figure out why I am not feeling it - cause I always thought of myself compassionate to those who need guidance.

[Nylah]

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I have no idea what dahJah needs to think about

anyway , ppl have to be open to your guidance and/or help and that is what I was thinking when I posted above. And your hesitation may be rooted in that they may not be in a place to accept help. But if you think they might be open for the guidance then still try in spite of your current feelings and see if those feelings begin to change. I think then the root of your sense of disconnect might reveal itself.