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Re: an alcholic
" I totally have the same issue with my now husband. Within 2 drinks I notice his demeanor change, he pounds them back one after another and voila it's a whoop up bash at 7pm!! Like come on, can you not drink socially...have one or two, chill, then maybe have another if it's appropriate. I feel your pain girl as mine too can get loud, obnoxious, silly, cavemanlike, crass, rude, and stupid, then the stumbling and falling, head hanging down where I can barely understand him guys shows up. If I'm real lucky he'll get so hammered that he either pukes or pees in random areas around the house but never in the toilet!!! That's if and when we are able to get home as I am now saddled with a 180lb drunken man with no clue as to where we are at, what our immediate goal is or what life's priorities are in general.
....deep breath...I too don't want him to have to quit entirely, but the only way he won't drink is if he is driving. So therefore I encourage him to drive and then this never happens, not much fun for him however. Although I usually have a great time because then I don't have to babysit him! If we cab it or go with a dd, then usually by 11pm the party is over and it's my job to try to get us home.
...I have been a [censored] about, always am and nothing changes. I've said ultimatums and they work, temporarily. That is the problem is that all fixes seem temporary to the point that I have realized that he won't stop excessive drinking because he can't. He says he wants to but his actions proof different over and over again. I know that the only way for him to stop is to want to stop and guite frankly I don't think he wants too. I really think he believes it's my problem and that I should just relax and chill out, not be such a clown as he call me when I get upset! He's not abusive physically but his attitude sucks and he can just plain be a ****en [censored]...
I'm getting upset just writing about this and it does suck and I don't know what to tell you except to never settle for his crap to the point that you are completely miserable. I've tossed the idea of leaving around and it's heartbreaking because it seems so extreme but I believe it may be the only way for me to end the cycle, to remove myself. It's to the point after over 10 years that I have to decide if this is something I want to live with for the rest of my life....? It's a big guestion and I know if he doesn't quit drinking period then my life will always be this way. So....now I'm just praying that he will get it, see it, figure it out and grow up already or [censored] do I have to leave, cause that ****en sucks!! He's such an awesome guy in all ways and I love him soo much, all except this. But it's happening one-three times a week sometimes more or less but the point it is still happening.
I gotta go, this whole thing just drains me, really it sucks the life from me...
Good luck, really and stay strong girlfriend cause another excuse to party lays on the horizon"
Disclaimer: Please note the quotes around the post.
I happened upon it somewhere else. I will not be needing sympathy, but I'm sure this woman does. 
" I totally have the same issue with my now husband. Within 2 drinks I notice his demeanor change, he pounds them back one after another and voila it's a whoop up bash at 7pm!! Like come on, can you not drink socially...have one or two, chill, then maybe have another if it's appropriate. I feel your pain girl as mine too can get loud, obnoxious, silly, cavemanlike, crass, rude, and stupid, then the stumbling and falling, head hanging down where I can barely understand him guys shows up. If I'm real lucky he'll get so hammered that he either pukes or pees in random areas around the house but never in the toilet!!! That's if and when we are able to get home as I am now saddled with a 180lb drunken man with no clue as to where we are at, what our immediate goal is or what life's priorities are in general.
....deep breath...I too don't want him to have to quit entirely, but the only way he won't drink is if he is driving. So therefore I encourage him to drive and then this never happens, not much fun for him however. Although I usually have a great time because then I don't have to babysit him! If we cab it or go with a dd, then usually by 11pm the party is over and it's my job to try to get us home.
...I have been a [censored] about, always am and nothing changes. I've said ultimatums and they work, temporarily. That is the problem is that all fixes seem temporary to the point that I have realized that he won't stop excessive drinking because he can't. He says he wants to but his actions proof different over and over again. I know that the only way for him to stop is to want to stop and guite frankly I don't think he wants too. I really think he believes it's my problem and that I should just relax and chill out, not be such a clown as he call me when I get upset! He's not abusive physically but his attitude sucks and he can just plain be a ****en [censored]...
I'm getting upset just writing about this and it does suck and I don't know what to tell you except to never settle for his crap to the point that you are completely miserable. I've tossed the idea of leaving around and it's heartbreaking because it seems so extreme but I believe it may be the only way for me to end the cycle, to remove myself. It's to the point after over 10 years that I have to decide if this is something I want to live with for the rest of my life....? It's a big guestion and I know if he doesn't quit drinking period then my life will always be this way. So....now I'm just praying that he will get it, see it, figure it out and grow up already or [censored] do I have to leave, cause that ****en sucks!! He's such an awesome guy in all ways and I love him soo much, all except this. But it's happening one-three times a week sometimes more or less but the point it is still happening.
I gotta go, this whole thing just drains me, really it sucks the life from me...
Good luck, really and stay strong girlfriend cause another excuse to party lays on the horizon"
Disclaimer: Please note the quotes around the post.
I happened upon it somewhere else. I will not be needing sympathy, but I'm sure this woman does.
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