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[julie*mango]

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Procrastinating with the Best
There are all sorts of reasons and excuses for procrastination. These may sound familiar:

I was sick.
I need time to think this through.
I work well under pressure.
I'm not in the mood.

[Jazz]

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Well if you are gonna take that tone... I won;t share any more insights with you

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: A_lil_Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well if you are gonna take that tone... I won;t share any more insights with you </div></div>

[julie*mango]

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lol...read dis
Most people procrastinate. To find out if you do, take this test.

http://dennislearningcenter.osu.edu/epl259-su2001/module-03-forms/self-survey-3-1.asp

If you ask people why they procrastinate, you possibly may hear the real reasons. More than likely, though, you will hear their excuses. When an excuse sounds believable, it has a name - rationalization. It is its believability that makes rationalizing the original mind game. It's what you do in your thinking and feeling to explain away why your actions don't match up to your values and plans. It is the excuse you give yourself for your actions. It may seem reasonable but it does not reflect the real reason.

Often what makes a rationalization so effective is that it can sound so reasonable, at least to the speaker. It is a reasonable excuse. It is the kind of thing you frequently hear from the defendant on one of the currently popular TV &quot;judge shows.&quot; Take a look at the reasonable excuses in the following example. Below are some more examples of students who use reasonable excuses to procrastinate.

[julie*mango]

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I. Reasons Why We Procrastinate (Emotional difficulties that lead to or stem from procrastination)

Your lack of self-confidence - If you do not feel you can successfully perform a task, you are likely to delay or avoid beginning the task.

Perfectionism - If you equate your self-worth with high performance, procrastination protects you against the risk of failure.

Need for Love - If you feel people will accept you only if you perform well, procrastination protects you from rejection.

Anticipating the Worst - If you can only imagine disaster as the outcome of your performance, procrastination protects you from anxiety.

Self-Judgment - If you judge yourself too harshly, procrastination protects you from feeling self-hate and shame.

Depression - If you feel overwhelmed, procrastination protects you from helplessness.

Rigid Identity - If your image of yourself is set, procrastination protects you from having to change.

Low Frustration Tolerance - If you have to wait for a reward, or someone else to motivate or inspire you, procrastination becomes the means of avoiding the hassle.

Immediate Gratification - If you just cannot stand to wait, procrastination gives you an excuse to do something more interesting. This is procrastination's supertool.

Passivity - If you really believe that you need somebody else to get you going, procrastination is the waiting you do until somebody else takes over. Some people wait their whole lives.

Hostility - If you are disappointed because life doesn't give you what you want or think you deserve procrastination becomes the means of rebellion.

It's not fair - If you really expect that all of your classes, teachers, and assignments will be fair, you will have plenty of excuses for procrastinating. The &quot;it's not fair&quot; mentality is strong in college freshmen. They assume that someone will recognize the unfairness of their situation and will rescue them. They wait and are surprised when nobody comes to their rescue. They think that the powers that be will recognize the injustice and set it right. Some people waste their whole lives waiting for justice. They die angry and self-righteous. They would have accomplished a lot, just as soon as everybody else decided to be fair.

Nobody knows how tough my life has been - If you really expect others to know or care about your past difficulties in order for you to do the work, you will have thousands of wonderful, angry excuses for procrastinating.

[julie*mango]

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II. Common Procrastination Tactics - Procrastinating with the best of 'em!

Put it off until later
Wait on something else - &quot;I can't start my paper until the professor explains the assignment better.&quot;
Choose the immediate pleasurable opportunity
Daydream about what you are going to do but don't actually do it
Lose yourself in books, magazines, TV, movies, music, entertainment, etc.
Act impulsively without thinking about intentions or consequences of your actions
Drink alcohol, do drugs, seek oblivion
Read the classics, listen to good music, do reputable, cultural activities as a substitute for acting
Develop a compulsive addiction: overeating, smoking, running - something that consumes all your time and attention
Be passive, wait for fate or circumstance to rescue you from having to act (ex. don't study very hard for a test in hopes that this one will be easier)

[julie*mango]

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III. Common Rationalizations for Procrastinating

Ignorance: &quot;I didn't know I was supposed to do that.&quot;

Skill Deficiency: &quot;I don't know how to do it.&quot;

Apathy 1: &quot;I really don't want to do this&quot;

Apathy 2: &quot;I really doesn't make any difference if I put this off.&quot;

Apathy 3: &quot;No one really cares whether I do this or not.&quot;

Apathy 4: &quot;I need to be in the mood. I'm not.&quot;

Fixed Habits 1: &quot;But I've always done it this way and it's hard to change.&quot;

Fixed Habits 2: &quot;I know I can pull this out at the last minute.&quot;

Fixed Habits 3: &quot;I work better under pressure.&quot;

Inertia: &quot;I just can't seem to get started.&quot;

Frail Memory: &quot;I just forgot.&quot;

Physical Problems: &quot;I couldn't do it; I was sick.&quot;

&quot;Appropriate&quot; Delays 1: I'm just waiting for the best time to do it.&quot;

&quot;Appropriate&quot; Delays 2: &quot;I need time to think this through.&quot;

&quot;Appropriate&quot; Delays 3: &quot;This other opportunity will never come again, so I can't pass it up.&quot;

[Jazz]

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Mary Mary quite contrary - what yuh planning to plant inna 4 days???

[Suesumba]

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soh a yu a di procrastinator? and here i was trying to help.

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: A_lil_Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mary Mary quite contrary - what yuh planning to plant inna 4 days??? </div></div>

whappen? u can read

I am tree planting in 4 days.....or having trees planted...whichever

[Jazz]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mary_Tundacloud</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: A_lil_Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mary Mary quite contrary - what yuh planning to plant inna 4 days??? </div></div>

whappen? u can read

I am tree planting in 4 days.....or having trees planted...whichever </div></div>

wah KIND AF TREEE? ongle wan kine ah tree plant inna miggle winta

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: A_lil_Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mary_Tundacloud</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: A_lil_Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mary Mary quite contrary - what yuh planning to plant inna 4 days??? </div></div>

whappen? u can read

I am tree planting in 4 days.....or having trees planted...whichever </div></div>

wah KIND AF TREEE? ongle wan kine ah tree plant inna miggle winta </div></div>


I will neither confirm or deny which said trees will be involved in the said planting of.... ohnevermind plus that kinda talk is only going to dereail Skelly's good thread...so back to the procastination topic

[julie*mango]

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Jazz is a true procrastinator

[Nylah]

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yuh seet

You see how she try to change the topic, so as to delay answering your question

I have a tendency to procastinate but it usually only involves things that affect me directly.

[Jazz]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mary_Tundacloud</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: A_lil_Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mary_Tundacloud</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Mary Mary quite contrary - what yuh planning to plant inna 4 days??? </div></div>

whappen? u can read

I am tree planting in 4 days.....or having trees planted...whichever </div></div>

wah KIND AF TREEE? ongle wan kine ah tree plant inna miggle winta </div></div>


I will neither confirm or deny which said trees will be involved in the said planting of.... ohnevermind plus that kinda talk is only going to dereail Skelly's good thread...so back to the procastination topic