Do you think there is a Bachelorette double standard?

[DearK]

I havent seen discussion of the finale. Not that I think there;s much viewership of members here , but there's been much talk and interviews of the couple and I havent seen it on the Board.

Do the men get away with it, and she's getting criticized for being 'loose' and other not so nice words. And then there;s what they say about him for mentioning their night of 'fiance type stuff'!

[Tropicana]

I meant to come on here and post but completely forgot. Thanks for posting this.

Yes, too bad I missed the finale. I was out that night. I missed a lot of this season as frankly after she showed up in a dress showing excessive boobage for one of the first rose ceremonies, I wrote her off as a slut. Seems I was right.

Yes, Andi got called out for being a flippin slut by one of the guys. (Yes the word applies. She with 3 guys, each one a day after the other, when she knew she was only interested in one of them. If that ain't casual I don't know what is).

Good for him

From this:

To this

Well this is awkward.Monday night's season finale of The Bachelorette featured the traditional heart-melting speeches and a swoon-worthy proposal as Andi Dorfman's romantic journey came to a close. However, it seems like the only thing people are talking about is Nick V. calling out Andi for her sexcapades in the live After The Final Rose special.
Rather than making Nick sweat it out in the final rose ceremony, Andi made the classy move of sending the Wisconsin native home the morning before the lavish affair. All seemed to be cordial between the exes until he put her on blast in the after-show for sleeping with him while millions of viewers watched from home.
"Knowing how in love with you I was, if you weren't in love with me, I'm just not sure why you made love with me," Nick stammered to a horrified Andi. Take a look at our video above to see Nick and Andi's cringe-worthy moment for yourselves!

http://www.etonline.com/tv/149015_the_bachelorette_finale_can_you_believe_nick_called_out_andi_for_sleeping_with_him/

If I was the guy she picked, I would have exited stage left and left her sitting there. DUMP HER!! She is not wife material

No there is no double standard, the men who rooks every woman ever chance they get also get criticized. What do you think happened to Juan Pablo?

[Tropicana]

He has nothing to be sorry about. I certainly don't believe in pre-marital sex so I don't support his decision to sleep with her but clearly, he was really in love with her and thought they were about to get engaged. For her, it was a casual encounter and she should be slut shamed for that.

[DearK]

He has nothing to be sorry about. I certainly don't believe in pre-marital sex so I don't support his decision to sleep with her but clearly, he was really in love with her and thought they were about to get engaged. For her, it was a casual encounter and she should be slut shamed for that.

Whoa why is he smiling/smirking in this WHOLE interview? OMG this is a complete turnaround from the finale couch! He cant even keep it in that he is so enjoying any negative attention that comes her way as a result

Your response to this is no surprise. I think we all know how you'd react to this situation. I probably should have estimated the amount of times that icon wouldve been invoked

[Tropicana]

Whoa why is he smiling/smirking in this WHOLE interview? OMG this is a complete turnaround from the finale couch! He cant even keep it in that he is so enjoying any negative attention that comes her way as a result

Your response to this is no surprise. I think we all know how you'd react to this situation. I probably should have estimated the amount of times that icon wouldve been invoked

As I am the only one on here who watches, glad to be of service.


So you honestly see nothing wrong with a woman sleeping with 3 different guys in 3 guys? Inher own words, she was in love with someone else. I say dump this slut and fast.

[Tropicana]

Call it televised heartbreak, call it televised slut-shaming, call it whatever you want, but to speak in Chris Harrison-approved superlatives, Monday evening's episode of The Bacheloretteprovoked more response than any moment on the show ever. And all because the contestants talked what they're not supposed to talk about: the sex stuff.The Bachelorette/The Bachelor is supposed to be all about love, but its most insane moments come up when sex comes into play. So during this season's finale, after Andi picked Josh (asReality Steve demonstrated ages ago by releasing a video of scorned lover Nick ranting on an airplane about her decision), we got to actually see what happens when people address how sex plays into a relationship. It was not pretty.
The writing was on the wall that Nick wasn't going to be the final pick. He didn't know that – and fair enough, how could he? Most of us have been there, where our feelings about a relationship just don't line up with the feelings of the partner we're with. What felt weird was watching the show encourage Nick's obsession with Andi, to the point where Bachelor producer tweeted about it like it was all a joke.

Watching Nick didn't feel much like a joke; clearly, this relationship was and is very real to him. So: How did we get here? Well, Andi broke up with Nick before the final Rose Ceremony, telling him she had woken up that morning and felt like something was off. Nick didn't have much to say then: he was clearly in shock. But later, after he had time to think about things, he reallywanted to talk to her. Chris Harrison really emphasized that Nick tried to get in touch with Andi multiple times, though she rebuffed him until the After the Rose special, when she contractually would have to talk to him. Who set that up, one wonders? (The producers.)Andi did take a letter of his on the second attempt, the day of the filming of the Men Tell All, which apparently outlined the things he couldn't bring himself to say when she broke up with him because he was so in shock. Before last night's episode aired, ABC posted that letter from a "mystery man" to tease the show:
Let's just call it what it was—our relationship was very much the road less traveled. I totally get that all the passion, intensity, and connections that we had were accompanied by fear and sometimes discomfort. There is a reason why very few are willing to take the road less traveled. It can be scary, challenging, and risky, but if you have the courage to take it, it usually ends up being amazing.

Nick broke the unwritten rule of the show: what happens in the Fantasy Suite stays in the Fantasy Suite. That's your time alone, off camera. You get into trouble when we find out things about that time, like when we found out that Juan Pablo told Clare, "I really loved EDITing you." But those moments are the ones where what contestants on these shows are actually like as humans is the most clear. Andi became the frontrunner to become the next Bachelorette during one of those moments with Juan Pablo, when she revealed that he talked about other girls during their Fantasy Suite time.

http://jezebel.com/the-bachelorette-why-did-you-have-sex-with-me-if-you-w-1612477200

[Tropicana]

Someone filmed Nick on the pleane after he had been dumped.

I only listend to a little bit of one of them.

[Tropicana]

Okay so men, if you proposed to a woman and found out that one or two days before that she did fi one nex' smaddy, would you dump her?