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What do you think about this? If the roles were switched and it was a woman would the same advice be given?
Tell truth to wife of hubby who broke up marriage
Source: USA today -Dear Amy
Dear Amy:
My wife and I are separating after 13 years of marriage. A few months ago she said she was unhappy. Then I learned she had formed an "emotional and spiritual connection" with a married man from church, someone I know and whose children play with our children after church every Sunday.
I believe her lack of interest in working on our marital issues is tied to the fact that there is someone else already in her life, who has taken her focus away from "us."
I am torn about telling the man's wife about this "connection." Some people have advised me to tell her, because I would want to know if my wife was being secretive.
Others have said to leave their marriage alone. My wife has told me that the other man has not told his wife; he has told her that I am suspicious of them, because I met with him to talk about his relationship with my wife, and he denied anything but friendship.
Then to cover himself he made me seem like an insecure, jealous husband who has strange ideas about their "friendship." My wife excused his behavior by suggesting that I cornered him, and what else was he going to say?
Should I meet with her and tell her what I know, or leave it alone, in the belief that it will reveal itself eventually? — Wronged Husband
Dear Wronged: You are not a disinterested party to this involvement — it has a direct impact on your life and marriage, and so you should disclose it.
You did the right thing by confronting the husband. It did not go well for you but, still, you did your best to approach him and tell the truth. Even if there is no hope to save your own marriage, you should still tell the truth to the other person whose marriage is affected.
You should say, "I want you to know that my wife and I are separating due to the fact that she is involved with your husband. It gives me no pleasure to tell you this, but I thought you should know because your own marriage may also be at risk."
Tell truth to wife of hubby who broke up marriage
Source: USA today -Dear Amy
Dear Amy:
My wife and I are separating after 13 years of marriage. A few months ago she said she was unhappy. Then I learned she had formed an "emotional and spiritual connection" with a married man from church, someone I know and whose children play with our children after church every Sunday.
I believe her lack of interest in working on our marital issues is tied to the fact that there is someone else already in her life, who has taken her focus away from "us."
I am torn about telling the man's wife about this "connection." Some people have advised me to tell her, because I would want to know if my wife was being secretive.
Others have said to leave their marriage alone. My wife has told me that the other man has not told his wife; he has told her that I am suspicious of them, because I met with him to talk about his relationship with my wife, and he denied anything but friendship.
Then to cover himself he made me seem like an insecure, jealous husband who has strange ideas about their "friendship." My wife excused his behavior by suggesting that I cornered him, and what else was he going to say?
Should I meet with her and tell her what I know, or leave it alone, in the belief that it will reveal itself eventually? — Wronged Husband
Dear Wronged: You are not a disinterested party to this involvement — it has a direct impact on your life and marriage, and so you should disclose it.
You did the right thing by confronting the husband. It did not go well for you but, still, you did your best to approach him and tell the truth. Even if there is no hope to save your own marriage, you should still tell the truth to the other person whose marriage is affected.
You should say, "I want you to know that my wife and I are separating due to the fact that she is involved with your husband. It gives me no pleasure to tell you this, but I thought you should know because your own marriage may also be at risk."
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