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Dear Pastor,
I am a 21-year-old Jamaican <span style="font-weight: bold">attending college </span>in the United States. I am writing to get your advice on what action I should take in regard to my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for three-and-a-half years.
Throughout that time we have shared three birthdays which are all mine, two anniversaries, and three Valentine's Day, etc but he has never once bought me anything. He always says there were things he can do but he never does. He's what we would describe as 'full-a- mout'.
Somehow in the back of my mind, I think he's taking advantage of me because of how excited he gets when I say I got him something or <span style="font-weight: bold">I'm coming home</span>. <span style="font-style: italic">His questions are</span>, "<span style="font-weight: bold">What are you gonna bring?, I want this, I want that." </span>You see, he didn't finish high school, and he is hardly ever employed (sometimes I think he just doesn't want to work.) He's accustomed to having women take care of him.
Seeing that I'm in college, people keep telling me that I should leave him alone. I love him with all my heart and it's so hard to even imagine breaking up with him. Nevertheless, things got worse. <span style="font-weight: bold">He never calls, so I'm basically the one maintaining our relationship</span>. He says that he is not cheating and that much I can believe, because his mom would have told me.
<span style="font-weight: bold">I know I sound really pathetic,</span>
but when is it OK to give up your soul, your life, your love just because you are an educated woman making and educated choice?
M.M., Wisconsin, United States.
Dear M.M.,
I wish to tell you that if you don't give up this man you are going to be sorry that you wasted so much time and money on him. He does not have formal education but that has nothing to do with his attitude towards you and the relationship in general.
He is like a parasite. You might not see him that way but it is only a matter of time. You give and give and give but he gives nothing. He is not a good man and he will never make you a good husband. Drop him now!
Pastor
Dear Pastor,
I am a 21-year-old Jamaican <span style="font-weight: bold">attending college </span>in the United States. I am writing to get your advice on what action I should take in regard to my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for three-and-a-half years.
Throughout that time we have shared three birthdays which are all mine, two anniversaries, and three Valentine's Day, etc but he has never once bought me anything. He always says there were things he can do but he never does. He's what we would describe as 'full-a- mout'.
Somehow in the back of my mind, I think he's taking advantage of me because of how excited he gets when I say I got him something or <span style="font-weight: bold">I'm coming home</span>. <span style="font-style: italic">His questions are</span>, "<span style="font-weight: bold">What are you gonna bring?, I want this, I want that." </span>You see, he didn't finish high school, and he is hardly ever employed (sometimes I think he just doesn't want to work.) He's accustomed to having women take care of him.
Seeing that I'm in college, people keep telling me that I should leave him alone. I love him with all my heart and it's so hard to even imagine breaking up with him. Nevertheless, things got worse. <span style="font-weight: bold">He never calls, so I'm basically the one maintaining our relationship</span>. He says that he is not cheating and that much I can believe, because his mom would have told me.
<span style="font-weight: bold">I know I sound really pathetic,</span>
but when is it OK to give up your soul, your life, your love just because you are an educated woman making and educated choice? M.M., Wisconsin, United States.
Dear M.M.,
I wish to tell you that if you don't give up this man you are going to be sorry that you wasted so much time and money on him. He does not have formal education but that has nothing to do with his attitude towards you and the relationship in general.
He is like a parasite. You might not see him that way but it is only a matter of time. You give and give and give but he gives nothing. He is not a good man and he will never make you a good husband. Drop him now!
Pastor