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Hit it and quit it. It’s a mantra playas live by but what
happens when the roles are reversed and the mama macks control the cards in the deck. Are men really equipped to sharing women as women have become adapt to sharing men since the age of time. Most males believe in a fair exchange but mostly when it’s in their favor. We all want our cake and love to eat it too but what happens when the fellas are the ones emotionally attached and can’t let go.
Can men really deal with being a side-piece or something for the moment? Livesteez recently posted the question to several men and here’s what they had to say:
I’ve had a few HLFs, man. Homie/Lover/Friends. And the women were all cool. We kicked it, drinked, smoked or whatever… went out and partied and all that and we had sex at times too. It was a mutual understanding and when I was in a relationship, they understood that too and respected that a relationship between us wasn’t in our future. They knew what time it was when I couldn’t get right back at them when they called and didn’t try to blow me up either. Hell, they even gave me advice on my relationships and gave me their womanly perspective with what problems I told them about. So there are women who can have flings and keep it moving. You just have to establish that line from the jump. – David, 32, Promoter
Women can have flings and keep it moving. I was dating this woman one time and we had been going out for about a few months. I had several other prospects on the team as well and I thought she was getting attached. Just when I was about to cut her loose I saw her on a date with this other guy. They were hugged up and everything like she did with me. I didn’t confront her at the time but I spoke with her a few days later and bought the situation up. She flipped game and told me she knew I was seeing other people and why was I tripping. To this day, I still don’t know why I was bugging like that but I’ma keep it real. I think I started having feelings for her once I discovered I wasn’t the only one she wrapped up into. – Tyrone, 29, Music A&R
I’ve never dated a woman who could have a fling and keep it moving. There was something always emotionally there and they had feelings. It might not have been “this is the guy I’m going to marry” feelings but they were attached. I’ve heard of the reverse scenario but never had it happen to me personally. When I messed around, it was definitely always a creep mission. But if we can do it, I guess women have the ability to do it too. I just find most women emotionally connect with you before they sleep with you. So its always been a chance of me breaking someone’s’ heart or leaving some type of emotional scar even if it’s a little scratch. – Donté, 32, Advertising Director
Yeah I’ve dated many cool ladies like that. Some might call it casual dating but with me and my situations, we just enjoyed each other’s company. Especially during college, we all knew what time it was. Wasn’t no strings attached and they weren’t ho’s either. It’s just the type of situation it was and as long as you protect yourself, it’s nothing wrong with her being “free.” I wish it remained that way because as you get older, the women I come across eventually want to be married and have kids and that’s in the back of their heads even if they don’t say it after we go out a few times. Sometimes it’s harder to break away even if you establish the grounds up front. The older women get, the more emotionally attached they become. But on the flip side, it was this one woman I was really feeling and I thought we were connecting. I ended up putting more time into her than she was into me. She had me caught up for a second because I wasn’t ready to move on. I thought it was something there but for her, it was just a moment in her life and I was thinking it was going to become a lifetime. Looking back though, I did the same thing to several woman myself so I got to accept it. It’s not malice but the hurtful feelings still remain a little. – Robert, 28, Sales Coordinator
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