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Okay here is the situation a friend of mine has started to face. I have given her my opinion but I would also like to provide a man's POV.
<span style="font-weight: bold">Questions</span>
- Do you think this man is just being friendly or is he seriously starting to make a move to try to get her to drop her baggy? (If so, what parts of his behaviour are warning signs that she should be careful.)
- What other warning signs should women look out for to alert them to the fact that married male colleagues have intentions that are not honourable?
<span style="font-weight: bold">Background</span>
She has known this man for about a year. His company hires her company and she has done some work overseas for them. Okay everything started really professionally. She had an initial business meeting with him last year when the firm for which she works was just starting to do business with the firm for which he works. His family was here so, after that, he met the wife the children and his wife had her over for dinner. He came back a couple of months later with his family and he invited her to go out for lunch with his family. In fact, when he is here, he always invites her for dinner and lunch to discuss business and network. The wife doesn't normally come. The wife was supposed to join them for dinner at a restaurant the last time she was her but one of the kids go sick and she coudln't come. So far so good.
<span style="font-weight: bold">Current Situation</span>
Lately, he has been coming more often. He is setting up some business links for his company here in North America. So, he has purchased a condo and will be coming over about once a month from now on. Apparently he won't be bringing his family very often. The last time he was here, he came by himself. He invited my friend to dinner once and lunch twice. He wanted to see her every day. He invited her to a concert. They didn't end up going as there was no performance for a couple of weeks. He said he needed to swim as his back was hurting. He swims and works out regularly back home. He wanted to swim in fresh water so he begged her to go with him to swim in the lake. He complained that his wife never goes swimming, camping or to work out with him. He also said his wife is starting to get nervous about him since now he is travelling on his own and away more often.
Anyway, they went swimming but when the swimming was over, and he changed, he didn't put his shirt back on. This bothered her. Apparently he is good looking and well built as he works out. They went for a walk and he suggested <span style="font-weight: bold">SHE</span> also take off her shirt and walk in her sports bra since it was so hot.
She was shocked. She didn't do it. She figures she should turn down any more swimming invitations. He has made comments about how nice and full her lips are a couple of times.
The whole thing sounds fishy to me especially the swimming, shirtlessness, sports bra suggestion, and comments about the lips.
- So gentlemen, what is your take on this?
- Is this guy just being friendly to a business associate or does it sound like he is gearing up for more?
- Would she be wise to turn down future dinner invitations or ask her boss to assign someone else to handle the account?
No she isn't blonde but she is well endowed.
<span style="font-weight: bold">Questions</span>
- Do you think this man is just being friendly or is he seriously starting to make a move to try to get her to drop her baggy? (If so, what parts of his behaviour are warning signs that she should be careful.)
- What other warning signs should women look out for to alert them to the fact that married male colleagues have intentions that are not honourable?
<span style="font-weight: bold">Background</span>
She has known this man for about a year. His company hires her company and she has done some work overseas for them. Okay everything started really professionally. She had an initial business meeting with him last year when the firm for which she works was just starting to do business with the firm for which he works. His family was here so, after that, he met the wife the children and his wife had her over for dinner. He came back a couple of months later with his family and he invited her to go out for lunch with his family. In fact, when he is here, he always invites her for dinner and lunch to discuss business and network. The wife doesn't normally come. The wife was supposed to join them for dinner at a restaurant the last time she was her but one of the kids go sick and she coudln't come. So far so good.
<span style="font-weight: bold">Current Situation</span>
Lately, he has been coming more often. He is setting up some business links for his company here in North America. So, he has purchased a condo and will be coming over about once a month from now on. Apparently he won't be bringing his family very often. The last time he was here, he came by himself. He invited my friend to dinner once and lunch twice. He wanted to see her every day. He invited her to a concert. They didn't end up going as there was no performance for a couple of weeks. He said he needed to swim as his back was hurting. He swims and works out regularly back home. He wanted to swim in fresh water so he begged her to go with him to swim in the lake. He complained that his wife never goes swimming, camping or to work out with him. He also said his wife is starting to get nervous about him since now he is travelling on his own and away more often.
Anyway, they went swimming but when the swimming was over, and he changed, he didn't put his shirt back on. This bothered her. Apparently he is good looking and well built as he works out. They went for a walk and he suggested <span style="font-weight: bold">SHE</span> also take off her shirt and walk in her sports bra since it was so hot.
She was shocked. She didn't do it. She figures she should turn down any more swimming invitations. He has made comments about how nice and full her lips are a couple of times. The whole thing sounds fishy to me especially the swimming, shirtlessness, sports bra suggestion, and comments about the lips.
- So gentlemen, what is your take on this?
- Is this guy just being friendly to a business associate or does it sound like he is gearing up for more?
- Would she be wise to turn down future dinner invitations or ask her boss to assign someone else to handle the account?
No she isn't blonde but she is well endowed.
Now what would ever give you that idea. I notice though the other men are staying FAR away from this thread. 
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