For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagues

**neutral** · 08-18-2009, 08:50 AM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

- So gentlemen, what is your take on this?
- Is this guy just being friendly to a business associate or does it sound like he is gearing up for more?
- Would she be wise to turn down future dinner invitations or ask her boss to assign someone else to handle the account?

No she isn't blonde but she is well endowed. </div></div>

The guy most definitely is after some baggy dropping sessions,he crossed the line between business and intimate friends a long time ago when he showed an interest in seeing her everyday.
And the clues are there as plain as can see,the talking about what the wife wont do,compliments about the lips,suggesting she goes shirtless,I mean,..what the hell kind of business get together is that when you`re both shirtless and one of you is obviously packing a hard on with intention to use it if given half a chance.

Surely if your friend has any savvy she will have caught on quite early on that mr shirtless is slowly working himself towards suggesting the baggy should come down....he certainly didnt buy that big ole condo to rattle around in it all by his lonesome.

Everything he`s said and done so far have all been classic man wanting to get into baggy moves.

**Tropicana** · 08-19-2009, 02:01 PM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> The guy most definitely is after some baggy dropping sessions,he crossed the line between business and intimate friends a long time ago when he showed an interest in seeing her everyday.

<span style="font-weight: bold">And the clues are there as plain as can see</span>,the talking about what the wife wont do,compliments about the lips,suggesting she goes shirtless,I mean,..what the hell kind of business get together is that </div></div>

Doesn't sound like any kind of a business meeting I've ever heard of.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> when you`re both shirtless and <span style="font-weight: bold">one of you is obviously packing a hard on with intention to use it if given half a chance.</span> </div></div>

Man what he's packing is so hard and of such a size that you can see it from the other side of the pond, I don't know how SHE missed it. Well luckily she didn't take off her shirt but likely he got a good glimpse of everything he wanted to see when they were swimming and was hoping for another view.

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Surely if your friend has any savvy she will have caught on quite early on that mr shirtless is slowly working himself towards suggesting the baggy should come down....</div></div>

And that's the rub. To be honest, I didn't see it coming either until she told me that they had gone swiming.

With a client, ALONE!! She thought it was <span style="font-weight: bold">really</span> because his lower back was sore. One of my male friends says that the sore back thing is another standard ploy. Next thing he would be asking her to massage it for him to provide relief. To be honest, I also just saw the lunches and dinners as him being frineldy and sociable especially since the wife has cooked dinner for her and joined them with the kids for 1 lunch. The comments about her lips and taking off her top were WAY over thet top.

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he certainly didnt buy that big ole condo to rattle around in it all by his lonesome.</div></div>

True and he did make a point of telling her that he would be coming once a month WITHOUT HIS WIFE AND KIDS FROM NOW ON!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Everything he`s said and done so far have all been classic man wanting to get into baggy moves</div></div>

Well, apparently, a new male account manager has now been assigned. Hopefully, this client doesn't swing both ways and start trying to work his way into im brief.

**Sinco01** · 08-19-2009, 03:39 PM

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He got his eyes set on her ..
She would be wise to ask her company to assign someone else to his account ..

Unless she is interested in being his "companion" when wifey is not around ..

**Tropicana** · 08-19-2009, 03:49 PM

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Reminds me of a time <span style="font-weight: bold">I </span> didn't see something coming.

One time I was in Ochi staying in some condos with my family. There was a specific watch I had purchased in Jamaica and I had lost it. So, I went around to all the jewellry stores.

When I went into one store, the owner (a Jamaican but not Black) and I recognized each other. We had seen each other at the condos in the elevator a couple of times. I told him what I was looking for. He had the exact watch that I wanted but the price was more than I was willing to pay. I told him I would have to think about it. He said he was heading back to the condos and offered me a ride. I thought he was just being friendly. Everyting was fine during the ride. I thanked him and we went our separate ways.

I still don't have a CLUE how he figured out where I was staying as I didn't give him my apartment number or phone number. After dinner, the phone rang. It was him. He sounded a all dreamy and said:

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My wife and 3 month old baby have gone to stay with relatives for a couple of days. Why don't you come out and join me. I've rented a movie. We can watch it together and talk about the watch too. </div></div>

Now that one came out of left field. When I hung up my Dad said "You should have said yes". I said He laughed and said "We could have shown up there together and seen the look on his face".

A friend of mine did get caught with this watch a movie business. They watched 9 - 5. The guy (a Jamaican) said "Have you seen 8 - 4?". He put it not and it was:

Well baggy did come off and ting and he never called her again after that. When seh told me I was

<span style="font-weight: bold"><span style="color: #FF0000">Disclaimer: </span><span style="font-style: italic"> Because I have been asked in the shoutbox and by PM a couple of times now.</span>

No, other than the watch bizniz, these things did NOT I repeat NOT happen to me. Surely de way mi gwan prudish onoo should a know me bettah dan dat by now. </span>

**Tropicana** · 08-19-2009, 04:12 PM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Sinco01</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

He got his eyes set on her ..
She would be wise to ask her company to assign someone else to his account .. </div></div>

A male account manager has already been assigned.
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Unless she is interested in being his "companion" when wifey is not around .. </div></div>

Sinco01, memba de time you did warn me? It was a Greek guy I went to high school with. At that time he was quite hunky and popular and I don't think he ever said boo to this skinny little Jamaican girl the whole time we were in high school (and we were in most of the same classes).

Well out of the blue he contacted me, said he was coming to Toronto on business and invited me to dinner as he wanted to network. Well by then he was married and he looked like an old man We had a pleasant dinner, he paid... not problem. 2 Weeks later he contacted me AGAIN and said he wanted to get together for another networking dinner. Memba what you said Sinco...."Watch out fi dat guy deh. De ongle ting im wan network is YOU". I didn't see that one coming. I posted because I was ticked that after ignoring me in high schol he now wanted to use my business connections.

Okay guys so I get it. Lunch is fine for business and not too often. Anything other than that is a HUGE red flag!!

Tonx.

**Derek** · 08-20-2009, 08:22 AM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagu

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Okay here is the situation a friend of mine has started to face. I have given her my opinion but I would also like to provide a man's POV.

<span style="font-weight: bold">Questions</span>
- Do you think this man is just being friendly or is he seriously starting to make a move to try to get her to drop her baggy? (If so, what parts of his behaviour are warning signs that she should be careful.)
- What other warning signs should women look out for to alert them to the fact that married male colleagues have intentions that are not honourable?

<span style="font-weight: bold">Background</span>

She has known this man for about a year. His company hires her company and she has done some work overseas for them. Okay everything started really professionally. She had an initial business meeting with him last year when the firm for which she works was just starting to do business with the firm for which he works. His family was here so, after that, he met the wife the children and his wife had her over for dinner. He came back a couple of months later with his family and he invited her to go out for lunch with his family. In fact, when he is here, he always invites her for dinner and lunch to discuss business and network. The wife doesn't normally come. The wife was supposed to join them for dinner at a restaurant the last time she was her but one of the kids go sick and she coudln't come. So far so good.

<span style="font-weight: bold">Current Situation</span>

Lately, he has been coming more often. He is setting up some business links for his company here in North America. So, he has purchased a condo and will be coming over about once a month from now on. Apparently he won't be bringing his family very often. The last time he was here, he came by himself. He invited my friend to dinner once and lunch twice. He wanted to see her every day. He invited her to a concert. They didn't end up going as there was no performance for a couple of weeks. He said he needed to swim as his back was hurting. He swims and works out regularly back home. He wanted to swim in fresh water so he begged her to go with him to swim in the lake. He complained that his wife never goes swimming, camping or to work out with him. He also said his wife is starting to get nervous about him since now he is travelling on his own and away more often.

Anyway, they went swimming but when the swimming was over, and he changed, he didn't put his shirt back on. This bothered her. Apparently he is good looking and well built as he works out. They went for a walk and he suggested <span style="font-weight: bold">SHE</span> also take off her shirt and walk in her sports bra since it was so hot. She was shocked. She didn't do it. She figures she should turn down any more swimming invitations. He has made comments about how nice and full her lips are a couple of times.

The whole thing sounds fishy to me especially the swimming, shirtlessness, sports bra suggestion, and comments about the lips.

- So gentlemen, what is your take on this?
- Is this guy just being friendly to a business associate or does it sound like he is gearing up for more?
- Would she be wise to turn down future dinner invitations or ask her boss to assign someone else to handle the account?

No she isn't blonde but she is well endowed. </div></div>

Pass.

**Tropicana** · 08-20-2009, 12:33 PM

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Not touching this one with a 10 foot pole eeh?

@ Derek.

**Wahalla** · 08-20-2009, 12:58 PM

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I think you should make a pass at him, have sex with him, pleasure him oraly and get on with it..

course there is still the other possibility that he wont find you attractive thus turn you down flat... Take the risk and make the pass!!!

**Dr.Dudd** · 08-20-2009, 01:18 PM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagues

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<span style="font-weight: bold">My wife and 3 month old baby have gone to stay with relatives for a couple of days. Why don't you come out and join me. I've rented a movie.</span> </div></div>
Nobody would sat that to my wife.
She wouldn't even meet anoter associate of mine unless i insist she does. . She is not that sociable anyway.
She regullarly refuse to answer the door bell much less.
That is because she can see phe person ringing it, adn if it is a stranger, he /she will remain a stranger. i have to replay the videos when I come home to see who i messed.

**Tropicana** · 08-20-2009, 10:11 PM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagu

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I think you should make a pass at him, have sex with him, pleasure him oraly and get on with it..

course there is still the other possibility that he wont find you attractive thus turn you down flat... Take the risk and make the pass!!! </div></div>

<span style="font-weight: bold">Fi de las' time DIS IS NOT ABOUT ME!</span> <span style="font-weight: bold">Everything I post about is not about</span> me.

**Tropicana** · 08-20-2009, 10:11 PM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dr.Dudd</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> :
<span style="font-weight: bold">My wife and 3 month old baby have gone to stay with relatives for a couple of days. Why don't you come out and join me. I've rented a movie.</span> </div></div>
Nobody would sat that to my wife.
She wouldn't even meet anoter associate of mine unless i insist she does. . She is not that sociable anyway.
She regullarly refuse to answer the door bell much less.
That is because she can see phe person ringing it, adn if it is a stranger, he /she will remain a stranger. i have to replay the videos when I come home to see who i messed. </div></div>

**j-can** · 08-21-2009, 12:55 PM

Re: For the Men re: relationships with married male colleagu

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I think you should make a pass at him, have sex with him, pleasure him oraly and get on with it..

course there is still the other possibility that he wont find you attractive thus turn you down flat... Take the risk and make the pass!!! </div></div>

<span style="font-weight: bold">Fi de las' time DIS IS NOT ABOUT ME!</span> <span style="font-weight: bold">Everything I post about is not about</span> me. </div></div>

We all know it's about you.....Juss sleep wid di married man if dis story is true
an get it over with.....It seems to me you dont get much...email me a picture an mi wi si if me willing to help yuh out

**Tropicana** · 08-21-2009, 03:21 PM

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<span style="font-weight: bold"> <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-size: 14pt">READ MY LIPS!!!! </span> </span> </span>

<span style="font-weight: bold"> <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-size: 20pt">THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME!!!!</span> </span></span>

**j-can** · 08-21-2009, 04:29 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

<span style="font-weight: bold"> <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-size: 14pt">READ MY LIPS!!!! </span> </span> </span>

<span style="font-weight: bold"> <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-size: 20pt">THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME!!!!</span> </span></span>

</div></div>

Yeah,Sure,Sure.........What about the picture

**Tropicana** · 08-21-2009, 04:32 PM

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