Rules in relationships

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If i tell him to stop calling my phone then she gonna be mad at me.</div></div>


for how long? until he gets a cell phone for himself?

[loops]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">by allowing him to use your phone to keep tabs on her, it comes across that you are supporting this relationship but by coming on here it seems that you don't support it. If <span style="font-weight: bold">you </span> think the relationship is unhealthy, then you have to stand up for what you believe is right no? </div></div>

U right. I do think this relationship is unhealthy. I came on here to vent
And i feel stuck in the middle and there's nothing i can do about it. If i dont allow the calls he gonna get mad at her, then she gonna get mad at me for not giving her the phone when he calls cuz when she get home she gonna have to hear his mouth about why he couldnt reach her on my phone.

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and THAT is what is soooooooo wrong about all this. it's not a threesome.

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">by allowing him to use your phone to keep tabs on her, it comes across that you are supporting this relationship but by coming on here it seems that you don't support it. If <span style="font-weight: bold">you </span> think the relationship is unhealthy, then you have to stand up for what you believe is right no? </div></div>

U right. I do think this relationship is unhealthy. I came on here to vent
And i feel stuck in the middle and there's nothing i can do about it. If i dont allow the calls he gonna get mad at her, then she gonna get mad at me for not giving her the phone when he calls cuz when she get home she gonna have to hear his mouth about why he couldnt reach her on my phone.

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this may sound harsh but it may be a wake up call for her that this is not the right person for her

[diabolical_Tanya]

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Fancypants can't you just &quot;lose&quot; your phone for a few days

[Xavier]

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When 2 people sleep together in the same bed &quot;yuh nuh&quot; know whey dem a chat bout. When you are in the middle he or she could easily say &quot;So an So seh dis tideh bout yuh&quot;. Dem war a guh pop.

Not trying to be Dr Phil or anything but here is an approach. Sit your friend down and let her know being in the middle is pressure and you want to talk to them both. This way she is not slighted.

Then sit them both down and let them know how you feel and you will not be in the middle anymore.

Be there for your friend as a sounding board but be careful of advise.

[julie*mango]

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I still say to leave them alone. Stay out of man and woman argument.

[chitowngirl]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: _______</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I still say to leave them alone. Stay out of man and woman argument. </div></div>
hear! hear! <span style="font-style: italic">mek dem kip fi dem own drama</span>

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: loops</div><div class="ubbcode-body">sorry Fancy....you are, indeed, in the middle.

you are aiding him in his dysfunction with this phone business....tell him to stop calling you. he's using you to keep tabs on his woman...it's sick...and it's not alright.

<span style="font-weight: bold">he needs to get his own phone</span>. </div></div>

my thoughts exactly

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: loops</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if she's mad at you, then she's WRONG too. she can stick her head in the sand if she wants, but that doesn't mean you need to support her idiotic ways....by supporting it, you're condoning it...albeit under protest.

get some spine girl...if you lose her friendship, it will be for the right reasons. </div></div>

i hear u. i just dont wanna lose our friendship. Overall she is a very nice person. I just don't agree with her decisions with regard to men. I dont think our friendship should be over because of a man and i dont really want it to be over either

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If i tell him to stop calling my phone then she gonna be mad at me.</div></div>


for how long? until he gets a cell phone for himself? </div></div>

i have no idea for how long. i honestly dont think that will make him get a phone since he has her phone ALL the time. I mean he has it more than her. I think SHE would have to actually WANT to have her phone before the idea of him needing to get his own phone would come up.

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Fancypants can't you just &quot;lose&quot; your phone for a few days </div></div>

that would be hard to play off since my phone is practically attached to my hand

they both know that i dont leave the house without my phone. Too many important ppl call for it to be &quot;lost&quot; for a few days. Actually, when i the phone company was shipping my replacement phone i had to borrow one of her old phones that was off and have them activate it until my new phone came for the simple fact that i HAVE to have my phone at all times.

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Xavier</div><div class="ubbcode-body">When 2 people sleep together in the same bed &quot;yuh nuh&quot; know whey dem a chat bout. When you are in the middle he or she could easily say &quot;So an So seh dis tideh bout yuh&quot;. Dem war a guh pop.

Not trying to be Dr Phil or anything but here is an approach. Sit your friend down and let her know being in the middle is pressure and you want to talk to them both. This way she is not slighted.

Then sit them both down and let them know how you feel and you will not be in the middle anymore.

Be there for your friend as a sounding board but be careful of advise. </div></div>

You are so right about that. Thanks Dr. X That is really good advice.
And if she can't see what I mean by this approach then like someone already said maybe we shouldnt be friends

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: chitown</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: _______</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I still say to leave them alone. Stay out of man and woman argument. </div></div>
hear! hear! <span style="font-style: italic">mek dem kip fi dem own drama</span> </div></div>

i hear ya Ladies.

I dont input on their arguments at all. I mean she is my friend so i dont wanna just leave her alone. i dont even deal with him much besides when he calls looking for her. i think he can kinda tell i dont like when he calls but it doesnt stop him from calling whenever he feels like it. I mean i promise it got so bad that i had to change the ringtone for her because i got tired of hearing it so much.

I think i will try X-man's approach and that way they both will know the business. I think there might be some tension for a minute on their part but hopefully they will get over it quickly and i can go back to getting my own calls and not her calls from him on a daily basis.

i mean if there was an emergency or something i wouldnt have a problem with him calling but just to be checking on her

[diabolical_Tanya]

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wonder if dem have a 12 step program for your phone addiction?

[LusciousJohnson]

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Hush