Vent: Interracial Dating

[Tropicana]

Re: Vent: Interracial Dating

Very simple. There is as <span style="font-weight: bold">SEVERE </span> shortage of partners for Black women in North America...<span style="font-weight: bold"><span style="font-size: 14pt">very severe</span>.</span>

BTW, I never said disown. I said withdraw all financial support and disinherit him. It's his Black mother, father and grandparents who have sacrificed to provide him with private school, soccer, hockey, horse riding when he was younger, summer camp and now university. We didn;t do al of this to get him set in life fe go spend it all on some White woman. Nothing personal.

I have never been opposed to interracial marriage or dating per se but until the playing field is leveled for Black women, I think we as Black mothers are foolhearty not to encourage our sons to marry Black women. It can't be our men marrying everyone else and few men of other races marrying Black women. I will never support that.

[Compry]

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<span style="font-style: italic">Like how yuh not talking to mi, hopefully you'll ignore my response.</span>

I actually see what you're saying. <span style="font-style: italic">Don't go quoting this part, claiming that I agree with you by the way.</span> Anyway, I understand why you feel the way that you do. Now...something to think about. What if the Austrian parents had a similar mindset to yours? What if they had an encounter with a black person and decided that their son cannot date or marry black for whatever their reason is?

Tropi, your argument is no different from those who will not hire a particular race, date a particular race or drink from the same tap as a particular race. They all have their reasons and kill dem dead, they won't change it.

You can't have your cake and eat it too. You cannot claim it's OK for a black woman to date a white man but it's not OK for a black man to date a white woman. Wah kinna argument dat?

[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">We didn;t do al of this to get him set in life fe go spend it all on some White woman. Nothing personal.</div></div>
You have a son in college? Me too. They *always* do what their parents expect them to do, don't they?

[Tropicana]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compray</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="font-style: italic">Like how yuh not talking to mi, hopefully you'll ignore my response.</span>

I actually see what you're saying. <span style="font-style: italic">Don't go quoting this part, claiming that I agree with you by the way.</span> Anyway, I understand why you feel the way that you do. Now...something to think about. What if the Austrian parents had a similar mindset to yours? What if they had an encounter with a black person and decided that their son cannot date or marry black for whatever their reason is?

Tropi, your argument is no different from those who will not hire a particular race, date a particular race or drink from the same tap as a particular race. They all have their reasons and kill dem dead, they won't change it.

You can't have your cake and eat it too. You cannot claim it's OK for a black woman to date a white man but it's not OK for a black man to date a white woman. Wah kinna argument dat?






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We will have to agree to disagree on this one.

Cousin Compry. I am not ignoring you but I do have 2 bones to pick with you.

[Tropicana]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gungo</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">We didn;t do al of this to get him set in life fe go spend it all on some White woman. Nothing personal.</div></div>
You have a son in college? Me too. They *always* do what their parents expect them to do, don't they? </div></div>

He can do what he likes...but I will not be footing the bill.

I repeat:

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I have never been opposed to interracial marriage or dating per se but until the playing field is leveled for Black women, I think we as Black mothers are foolhearty not to encourage our sons to marry Black women. It can't be our men marrying everyone else and few men of other races marrying Black women. I will never support that</div></div>



Only when the playing field is level and men of other races stop discriminating against Black women will I change my POV. Why should the White women always have the advantage and the Black women always be at the bottom of the totem pole? It astonishes me that Black wowmen, especialy those who are single, can support the status quote even though it works against us.

[Compry]

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Look how long yuh sey dat yuh have bone fi pick wid mi. Since yuh nuh pick dem yet you might as well figive mi fi whateva it was. Life too shawt mi Cousin.

[Tropicana]

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This backs up what Xavier posted:

<span style="font-weight: bold">Dating 101: Dealing With the Race Factor</span>

By dating editor Arnold Chao

Exclusive to Yahoo! Personals

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/single...he-race-factor/

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> A recent study on racial preferences of online daters provides some interesting findings. Based on profile-searching criteria set by singles using Yahoo! Personals, the UCI case study reveals that gender plays an important role in interracial preferences: </div></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14pt"><span style="font-weight: bold">Asian American men are the least preferred mate for Caucasian women </span></span>

<span style="font-weight: bold">and</span>
<span style="font-size: 20pt"><span style="font-weight: bold"><span style="color: #FF0000">African American women bear the brunt of discrimination from Caucasian men.</span></span></span>


<span style="font-style: italic">This bears repeating... </span>


<span style="font-size: 26pt"><span style="font-weight: bold"><span style="color: #000099">African American women bear the brunt of discrimination from Caucasian men.</span></span></span>
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UCI researchers say that &quot;the stereotypical images of masculinity and femininity shape dating choices&quot; and are a contributing factor.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The cross-cultural revolution is not going to be launched on the Internet dating scene, where people often follow racial stereotypes when looking for love, the researchers said.</span>

In spite of these findings, there's always an exception to the norm, and I should know as an ABC (American-Born Chinese) who met and married another type of ABC (American Brazilian Caucasian -- yes, I just made that up). Like any couple we've had our ups and downs, but we've somehow managed to bond well for almost a decade.</div></div>
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For those of you involved with a date -- or mate -- of a different race, check out these obstacles of interracial dating and ways to overcome them.
You should consider that citizens in most U.S. states were legally banned from marrying outside of their race until 1967.</div></div>

Compare and seeit deh:

Black Husband/Black Wife 3,965,000
Black Husband/White Wife 286,000
White Husband/Black Wife 117,000
White Husbabd/Asian Wife 530,000
Asian Husband/Balck Wife 6,000
White Husband/White Wife 50,224,000

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Dating Obstacle #2. The Stereotypes From Mass Media
Can you blame the TV producers and advertisers for playing it safe by catering to the majority? After all, they measure what appeals to a mass audience and go with what we're familiar with. It's no mystery that stereotyping the population is much easier than representing eclectic subgroups within our population. As an expected result of this, the general public absorbs oversimplified images of various ethnic groups -- and how they pair up -- in every media imaginable. </div></div>

[LiteBlonde]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Black Husband/Black Wife 3,965,000
Black Husband/White Wife 286,000
White Husband/Black Wife 117,000
White Husbabd/Asian Wife 530,000
Asian Husband/Balck Wife 6,000
White Husband/White Wife 50,224,000</div></div>

Well, ain't that some [censored]?

Me? As I've said before, it seem to always be the black man or black woman who's front and center and bending over backwards to CHANGE FOR and be extremely ACCOMODATING to whites and almost NEVER the other way around.

These same blacks who are busy <span style="font-weight: bold">shucking and jivin</span> are the first to reject and vilify independent thinking blacks who put them foot down and are bent on doing what they feel is right for their children. Too sad to be funny.

Those who are in the &quot;discovery&quot; stage would rather die than to speak the truth about how them really feel, but they can only fool some.

[blugiant]

Re: Vent: Interracial Dating

tropicana onlee

fii yu yeyes onlee


tropicana yeyes onlee

[Tropicana]

Re: Vent: Interracial Dating

Thanks blu.

That is from what Xavier shared. This part:

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">•Men don’t write black women back. Or rather, they write them back far less often than they should. Black women reply the most, yet get by far the fewest replies. Essentially every race—including other blacks—singles them out for the cold shoulder.</div></div>


This is SO true. That is why I put them down every chance I get. I don't who the hexodous they think they are:
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•White guys are <span style="font-weight: bold">EDIT</span>, but fairly even-handed about it. The average reply rate of non-white males is 48.1%, while white guys’ is only 40.5%. Basically, they write back about 20% less often. It’s ironic that white guys are worst responders, because as we saw above they get the most replies. <span style="font-weight: bold"><span style="font-size: 14pt">That has apparently made them very self-absorbed. </span></span>

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Remember back when you said that the White North American raised men who shoewed an interest in Black women tended to be of poor quality and I argued with you about that. you re 100% right. They are typically (not in all cases but typically) flawed and no White woman in her right mind would want them. Maybe some Balck women are so desperate as to settle for a White guy who is uneducated, scrawny, earring, with long greasy hair, tattos and dutty beer baseball cap turned backwards...not me baby.

Fabulous articles Xavier and blu.

Good luck to her:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/laysia82/journal/

[Tropicana]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Me? As I've said before, it seem to always be the black man or black woman who's front and center and bending over backwards to CHANGE FOR and be extremely ACCOMODATING to whites and almost NEVER the other way around.

These same blacks who are busy shucking and jivin are the first to reject and vilify independent thinking blacks who put them foot down and are bent on doing what they feel is right for their children. </div></div>



We haven't interacted much dotcom but I am pleased to make your acquaintance and I look forward to getting to know you better. You seem like a very together lady.

[Derek]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> source </div></div>

[Derek]

Re: Vent: Interracial Dating

Have I ever, ever seen a black professional footballer in England, out and about with a black woman?

[britisha]

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DWL

**aye Papi** *aye sah*

[britisha]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: _______</div><div class="ubbcode-body">who cares who waan deh wid who? if a woman caan fine a man mi sure is not because a di color a dem skin...dere is someone out there for everyone...is high time black women stop limiting demself to dem own race as di man dem nuh limit demself dese days.... </div></div>

Well said, but for me. if *I* were looking a man, he gats tuh bi black or no way Jose....mi juss believe, di daawkah di choklit, di sweetah di taste...just an opinion, just an opinion. ..an den aggen, tuh each his own.