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1) Your friend is jealous of you. Jealousy is very toxic to a friendship. A jealous friend will want to cut you out of their life because they really want what you have and can't stand to be around you anymore. A good friend will want what you have, but will see you as an inspiration/role model, and engage in healthy competition with you.
2) Your friend is a 'doormat'. It gets tiring to always be with someone who is so easily influenced.
3) Your friend isn't there for you. It is sometimes hard to believe, but a true pal is there for the life-changing moments in your life, (when you need the support). Sometimes you find that the friend you thought would be by your side isn't there for you at all.
4) Your friend is draining you. If you feel that you've given all your energy to them, psychologically and emotionally, and receiving nothing in return, then it is time to end the relationship.
5) You don't share the same values or the same world view. It's a red flag that this isn't the right friend for you if you don't respect them for who they are.
6) The relationship offers no return on investment. This is similar to a friend who is draining you - but this isn't just an emotional give and take. If you are the one calling your friend to make plans or go out of your way to be with them, and they make no attempt to do the same, then why continue the one-sided trend. End it.
7) Your friend has some illicit past-times. Do you want to be associated with someone who is morally unjust? That's a judgement call on your part.
<span style="font-weight: bold">How to Disengage</span>
If any of these signs describes one of your friendships, it's likely to be a toxic relationship that is burdensome to not just your sanity, but your friend's as well. You could deliberately distance yourself and let the relationship fizzle, but it's best to renegotiate the relationship and improve the friendship. Have a honest conversation to reveal how you feel. You'll risk losing this person, but the reward could be improving the quality of the friendship. An if that does not work, walk away without a grudge.
2) Your friend is a 'doormat'. It gets tiring to always be with someone who is so easily influenced.
3) Your friend isn't there for you. It is sometimes hard to believe, but a true pal is there for the life-changing moments in your life, (when you need the support). Sometimes you find that the friend you thought would be by your side isn't there for you at all.
4) Your friend is draining you. If you feel that you've given all your energy to them, psychologically and emotionally, and receiving nothing in return, then it is time to end the relationship.
5) You don't share the same values or the same world view. It's a red flag that this isn't the right friend for you if you don't respect them for who they are.
6) The relationship offers no return on investment. This is similar to a friend who is draining you - but this isn't just an emotional give and take. If you are the one calling your friend to make plans or go out of your way to be with them, and they make no attempt to do the same, then why continue the one-sided trend. End it.
7) Your friend has some illicit past-times. Do you want to be associated with someone who is morally unjust? That's a judgement call on your part.
<span style="font-weight: bold">How to Disengage</span>
If any of these signs describes one of your friendships, it's likely to be a toxic relationship that is burdensome to not just your sanity, but your friend's as well. You could deliberately distance yourself and let the relationship fizzle, but it's best to renegotiate the relationship and improve the friendship. Have a honest conversation to reveal how you feel. You'll risk losing this person, but the reward could be improving the quality of the friendship. An if that does not work, walk away without a grudge.
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