Us two and no more

[missus_vegas]

once a couple fall into a rut where they 95% of the time hang out wid each other and dont hang out seperately with friend or even as a group...how dem fall outa dat?

wat if u dont feel like fi hang out wid nobaddy else? does dt mean something wrong wid you or is just mabye you outgrow ur current friend?

is there such a thing as outgrowing friend dat u have had for years?

[diabolical_Tanya]

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Vegas I am going to give you the other persons perspective

I had (notice how mi seh had) a girlfriend. When she was single we hung out all the time. Talk or email every day during work and talk in the evening or go out/hang out.

as soon as shi fine man mi noh hear from her. As soon as shi have man trouble shi blow up mi phone. when shi single again it was back to the way things were.

then I came to my senses an drop her like a hot potato.

I have a nex friend (you met her) when she first got married I hardly ever saw her or hear from her. but then after the first year or so we fell back in to a routine. I understand that she has family obligations and that her husband an kids come first. I also understand that when she gets a break from those obligations, sometimes she just wants to be by herself.

She knows that I will always be there for her when ever she needs me regardless if we don't speak for a month or a year.

THAT is what true friendship is.

I also know that if I ever need her she will be there.

[missus_vegas]

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well dat make me feel better.

most my friend have dem bf or live wid dem bf etc few have small children and i do notice seh dem no call as much wen dem and dem man a gree. and dem i find understand more wen mi no talk o dem.

the ones that are single we have almost completely drifted.

the problem i am having is that mi just dont really want to talk to them...like for instance di gal mi an har did have dat email issue...she just want to talk bout her dates and dis new man or dat new man and mi cyan badda wid dem deh tory deh more time. plus har aize hawd and mi cyan badda waste mi good good docta phill advice pan har

den mi have some weh mi jus feel like interlectually we no compatable ne more. dem still talk like wen we were kids and mi cyan badda wid di foolishness nemore. i dotn want to just party an spend all mi money pan clothes and starbucks ne more...

den mi have some weh every minit dem a beg mi siting and mi feel very used cus mi cyan seh no to a fren.

den the one weh commin by tonite...mi and she have more of an understanding but at the same time mi know she only ago talk bout effery...and i pisseess me off dat she wasting her life away working some dead end job and all she can tlak bout is her dead end job or her day dreaming unrealistic goal. and she only force up inna mi wen she and her man nah gree too tuff etc... which i can understand cus mi know how it go wen u an ur man sweet u no want deal wid no baddy.

i look back into few years ago wen all i wanted to do was run up and dung wid nebody who wanted to go ne where...and now mi so picky and choosy

[missus_vegas]

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and i feel guilty bcus wen i do make time to hang out its if the mr is out of town or if we nah gree...and that in itself is usuary to my friends

for instance tonite, if he were home meeda tell har seh fi go bout har business....well not quite like dat but u know wah mi mean.

[julie*mango]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: missus_vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body">once a couple fall into a rut where they 95% of the time hang out wid each other and dont hang out seperately with friend or even as a group...how dem fall outa dat?

wat if u dont feel like fi hang out wid nobaddy else? does dt mean something wrong wid you or is just mabye you outgrow ur current friend?

is there such a thing as outgrowing friend dat u have had for years? </div></div>

i don't hang out with my frenz anymore...

miss it but i have new responsibilities so the thursday to sunday clubbing ting get cut....'

[missus_vegas]

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you know i dont really see my mom go out wid ne friends....she will talk on the phone to one chatabox fren weh she alway put pan speaker and all leave di room and di ooman no know...but mi no see har wid no bussam friends. she have her churh ladies dem but she only talk to dem sunday and dats it

i always just use to tink seh is a ole people ting and old people dont like go no weh etc.




mi too young fi turn into an old people

[missus_vegas]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs___Diabolical</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: missus_vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body">once a couple fall into a rut where they 95% of the time hang out wid each other and dont hang out seperately with friend or even as a group...how dem fall outa dat?

wat if u dont feel like fi hang out wid nobaddy else? does dt mean something wrong wid you or is just mabye you outgrow ur current friend?

is there such a thing as outgrowing friend dat u have had for years? </div></div>

i don't hang out with my frenz anymore...

miss it but i have new responsibilities so the thursday to sunday clubbing ting get cut....'

</div></div>

yes but u ahve kids. i dotn have chick nor chack fi response fah. where u like that even before your kids?

one girl actually insulted me wen i told her i cant go out for dinner cus i have to go make my husband dinner. she made a comment like seh HE is forcing me to come and cook. which is not the case at all.

[julie*mango]

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er....no...I was a party animal right up to di day mi conceive di firstborn

[CeaBee]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> told her i cant go out for dinner cus i have to go make my husband dinner </div></div>

but that sound a way though....she never get fi understand that u not going out because u *want to* make u husband dinner.

i dont think she meant to insult u. (or whatever it is u seh she did do..i haffi guh back and read the post)

[missus_vegas]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Lurkah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> told her i cant go out for dinner cus i have to go make my husband dinner </div></div>

but that sound a way though....she never get fi understand that u not going out because u *want to* make u husband dinner.

i dont think she meant to insult u. (or whatever it is u seh she did do..i haffi guh back and read the post) </div></div>

i did tell her i cant go bcus i had to go make him supper. maybe i should have said i cant bcus i want to make him dinner...

but wat i mean is how mi fi leff gawn wid har fi dinner while mi man no have nothing fi eat dat no rite i have to make arrangement for him as well.

aldoe wen mi bex wid him and slam door go weh and no geem nothing fi eat mi never ting bout wat rite or no rite

[CeaBee]

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[JAmerican Ooman]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsDiabolical___</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
She knows that I will always be there for her when ever she needs me regardless if we don't speak for a month or a year.

THAT is what true friendship is.

I also know that if I ever need her she will be there. </div></div>

tru ting dis

[Fyah]

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For the sustainance of any relationship, association with people outside of the relationship is necessary and required.

In the early stages of relationships, people get lost in its glitz and glamour but nothing lasts forever. A man cannot give you everything you want in a relationship. Your true friends will be there everytime to fill the gaps and believe me, men detect and judge women by the friends they have. Some men are abusive just because they know that you do not have a support system, so it is important to maintain your friends.

Adults should take the time to choose their friends (as they choose everything else) and filter out those who do not add value. There is a difference between a friend and a generic acquaintance. Real friends are rare, and the issues you encounter with generic acquaintances would never crop up with true friends.

Place people in their right boxes and you would eliminate most of your issues.

[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SPOTS</div><div class="ubbcode-body">For the sustainance of any relationship, association with people outside of the relationship is necessary and required.

In the early stages of relationships, people get lost in its glitz and glamour but nothing lasts forever. A man cannot give you everything you want in a relationship. Your true friends will be there everytime to fill the gaps and believe me, men detect and judge women by the friends they have. Some men are abusive just because they know that you do not have a support system, so it is important to maintain your friends.

Adults should take the time to choose their friends (as they choose everything else) and filter out those who do not add value. There is a difference between a friend and a generic acquaintance. Real friends are rare, and the issues you encounter with generic acquaintances would never crop up with true friends.

Place people in their right boxes and you would eliminate most of your issues. </div></div>