Keep their man/marriage intact?
My daughters, husband and friends had this discussion last night and the outlook for young people who are anticipating a "normal" life with a future family is not bright.
Our summary:
There are so many articles, tv show and advice books that are suppose to provide women with the solution to keeping their men.
--remain the woman your husband married
--strive to be the woman he wants to and not has to come home to
--keep him by doing what he wants, when he want and how he wants
--be there for him, morning, noon and night, sick or sin, thick or thin
--instruct him on how to love and make love to you
--wear makeup - plenty of it
--wear sexy lingerie, shoes, clothes and hairdo
--don't say this or that could lower his self-esteem
--love his kids (if they come with kids)
--love his mama'anem
--tell him 24/7 how much you love, adore, respect, support and appreciate him, and that life would just be worthless without him
--don't appear too needy, never cry and/or accuse him of anything
The list goes on and on. Could this be the reason why so many women are having problems with their men? Could it be that the men are reading the same advice columns and are therefore taking advantage and not doing their part to keep the unit?
Things seem to be getting out of hand and regardless of the advice columns, books, therapists etc. that many have incorporated in the past 20 years, does not seem to be effective. Why are more men not subjected to the same process in keeping the relationship healthy.
Is it time to go back to basics where men should just know what to do and if they do not the women just leave them to their nonsense?
Does anyone else think that there is some merit to this? Probably not, but the truth prevails.
My daughters, husband and friends had this discussion last night and the outlook for young people who are anticipating a "normal" life with a future family is not bright.
Our summary:
There are so many articles, tv show and advice books that are suppose to provide women with the solution to keeping their men.
--remain the woman your husband married
--strive to be the woman he wants to and not has to come home to
--keep him by doing what he wants, when he want and how he wants
--be there for him, morning, noon and night, sick or sin, thick or thin
--instruct him on how to love and make love to you
--wear makeup - plenty of it
--wear sexy lingerie, shoes, clothes and hairdo
--don't say this or that could lower his self-esteem
--love his kids (if they come with kids)
--love his mama'anem
--tell him 24/7 how much you love, adore, respect, support and appreciate him, and that life would just be worthless without him
--don't appear too needy, never cry and/or accuse him of anything
The list goes on and on. Could this be the reason why so many women are having problems with their men? Could it be that the men are reading the same advice columns and are therefore taking advantage and not doing their part to keep the unit?
Things seem to be getting out of hand and regardless of the advice columns, books, therapists etc. that many have incorporated in the past 20 years, does not seem to be effective. Why are more men not subjected to the same process in keeping the relationship healthy.
Is it time to go back to basics where men should just know what to do and if they do not the women just leave them to their nonsense?
Does anyone else think that there is some merit to this? Probably not, but the truth prevails.
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