When your "adult" child brings their SO home

[R_C]

My friend has a 19 year old son who, like many offspring of our diasporic people, seems to be having trouble finding his way in life (another subject for another thread). So she is telling me how she woke up one Saturday morning and went downstairs to make her usual cup of coffee only to find a young lady in there rummaging around in her kitchen closet, looking the way one does when one has recently gotten out of bed. An before they could exchange greetings and she had any opportunity to ask who she was, di gyal (she said "RC, mi seh 'gyal' because that is what she was&quot cut har eye after mi and went back into the son's room.

What would be your next move as the mother?

[kia027]

Re: When your "adult" child brings their SO home

1) have the mother had a discussion with the son about SO's and sleepovers?
If not then

1) mother and son need to have an agreement on the sleepover policy

2) mother needs to tell son when he brings an SO over the polite thing the SO should do when caught is to at least say good morning

[julie*mango]

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mi wudden entertain dat at all...a wudda call him sed time an tell him fi tek him "guest" out a mi house weh mi a pay fah

[twiney]

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What Kia said and if you kotching at mi yaad from day one you know sleepovers not allowed so if u want to have sleepovers go pay rent a street ...

[ILP]

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well...as no one not sleeping ah my yaad unless mi know dem, dis kinna scenario not gwine happen.

but in case god tarry...sed time she start cut har eye...she naw gwine mek it back into any bedroom. das juss plane outta ardah fi real.

[nattydreadgirl]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">well...as no one not sleeping ah my yaad unless mi know dem, dis kinna scenario not gwine happen.

but in case god tarry...sed time she start cut har eye...she naw gwine mek it back into any bedroom. das juss plane outta ardah fi real. </div></div>

[kia027]

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but what if the adult child is paying their share of rent ?

dat is why mi think the discussion must take place?


if the mother at work, there must have been times when he has snuck girls in dat is why dem need to come clean

as fi the cut eye .. yes mi would walk in him room and have a discussion wid BOTH a dem

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">well...as no one not sleeping ah my yaad unless mi know dem, dis kinna scenario not gwine happen.

<span style="font-weight: bold">but in case god tarry...sed time she start cut har eye...she naw gwine mek it back into any bedroom. das juss plane outta ardah fi real.</span> </div></div>

this is the part that is lost on me cause my mouth would have flown open and called her [censored] back in front of me before she could have made it back to the boy's bedroom. Matter of fact I would have marched in there with her and ask my son what the hell is this doing in my house...

[Nylah]

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paying rent or not, that was disrespectful how the child behave. I would still haul him up for allowing that.
yes, the mom needs to talk to the son but I just cant imagine someone disrespecting her like that in her own kitchen.

And for what reason other than being ghetto with no manners....

[twiney]

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Maybe that's the crowd he's hanging out with why he had to move home

[R_C]

Too many SO's under the same roof ?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Twiney</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Maybe that's the crowd he's hanging out with why he had to move home </div></div>

Seet deh now.

Well anyway, she asked the young lady to leave her house an light into the bwoy who proceeded to tell her that he was a &quot;big man&quot; and that she can't pick his friends for him. Furthermore....here it comes..doesn't she have her friends overnight too so what's the big deal ?

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Rollin_Calf</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Twiney</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Maybe that's the crowd he's hanging out with why he had to move home </div></div>

Seet deh now.

Well anyway, she asked the young lady to leave her house an light into the bwoy who proceeded to tell her that he was a &quot;big man&quot; and that she can't pick his friends for him. Furthermore....here it comes..doesn't she have her friends overnight too so what's the big deal ? </div></div>

The child doesnt value his life too tough eh?

[R_C]

Re: Too many SO's under the same roof ?

A soh dem tek step these days Nylah

[ILP]

Re: Too many SO's under the same roof ?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Rollin_Calf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Seet deh now.

Well anyway, she asked the young lady to leave her house an light into the bwoy who proceeded to tell her that he was a &quot;big man&quot; and that she can't pick his friends for him. Furthermore....here it comes..doesn't she have her friends overnight too so what's the big deal ? </div></div>

well afta mi stop laugh. mi gwine oblige mi eediat son by checking im temperature. cah surely im would be ill ahn in need of mi attention. after mi mek im realize that my name on the paperwork for the house ahn not fi im...den mi would remind im wid a swift bax cross im mouth that not everyting is for everybody. him would then be invited to look for im own place. den im can bring any amount of SO's there.

[Bizzy]

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Out of order

19 yo @ dat

That boy nuh look like him respect his mom to begin with or else him would knwo better than fi a do dem ting deh...him just brazen wid it so...so why would the chick feel like shi fi treat har no better.

Him need f come out him madda house...go stay inna dorm if him in college or go look wuk an fine him own place..

not even inna my big ole age mi would bring man inna mi madda place fi grine

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Rollin_Calf</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Twiney</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Maybe that's the crowd he's hanging out with why he had to move home </div></div>

Seet deh now.

Well anyway, she asked the young lady to leave her house an light into the bwoy who proceeded to tell her that he was a &quot;big man&quot; and that she can't pick his friends for him. Furthermore....here it comes..doesn't she have her friends overnight too so what's the big deal ? </div></div>