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Dear Pastor,
I like the work that you are doing. Please keep it up. I am a 35-year-old man and I am having problems with my wife. I have never met anybody in my life who lies like this woman. She does not work. She cannot hold a job. I almost got myself in trouble after one neighbour told me that my wife always has different men coming to the house when I am not there. I asked her about it and she cursed me.
One day after I came home from work and went into the bathroom, I saw a used condom in the toilet. I called her and asked her what it was doing there. She said she did not know. I boxed her and she ran. I told her to pack her things and leave. Pastor, we do not use condom with each other, so it means that what the neighbours were saying was true and the condom should have been flushed, but it was not.
I give this woman everything but sex seems to be her problem. I found out the name of the man she had sex with. I cannot trust this woman and I will never forgive her.
R.P., St James, Jamaica
Dear R.P.,
Don't get yourself in trouble. Allow this woman to go. You will never be able to trust her again. She should not have brought another man into the matrimonial home. Your neighbours told you about the different men who used to visit the house when you were not there. Perhaps you did not believe them because not all neighbours speak the truth. But, the condom in the toilet bowl caused you to believe that what they were saying was true.
I do not know if you will ever be able to forgive your wife. The question is, does she want you at all? If sex is her problem, perhaps she has found you to be inadequate in that area. Some women, like some men, are not satisfied with having just one partner.
May I suggest that if you believe you both can forgive each other, that you consider going to see a family counsellor? I wish you well. But, I warn you, do not physically abuse this woman, you will get yourself in trouble.
Pastor
I like the work that you are doing. Please keep it up. I am a 35-year-old man and I am having problems with my wife. I have never met anybody in my life who lies like this woman. She does not work. She cannot hold a job. I almost got myself in trouble after one neighbour told me that my wife always has different men coming to the house when I am not there. I asked her about it and she cursed me.
One day after I came home from work and went into the bathroom, I saw a used condom in the toilet. I called her and asked her what it was doing there. She said she did not know. I boxed her and she ran. I told her to pack her things and leave. Pastor, we do not use condom with each other, so it means that what the neighbours were saying was true and the condom should have been flushed, but it was not.
I give this woman everything but sex seems to be her problem. I found out the name of the man she had sex with. I cannot trust this woman and I will never forgive her.
R.P., St James, Jamaica
Dear R.P.,
Don't get yourself in trouble. Allow this woman to go. You will never be able to trust her again. She should not have brought another man into the matrimonial home. Your neighbours told you about the different men who used to visit the house when you were not there. Perhaps you did not believe them because not all neighbours speak the truth. But, the condom in the toilet bowl caused you to believe that what they were saying was true.
I do not know if you will ever be able to forgive your wife. The question is, does she want you at all? If sex is her problem, perhaps she has found you to be inadequate in that area. Some women, like some men, are not satisfied with having just one partner.
May I suggest that if you believe you both can forgive each other, that you consider going to see a family counsellor? I wish you well. But, I warn you, do not physically abuse this woman, you will get yourself in trouble.
Pastor
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