Touchy subject

[missus_vegas]

ok...one night stands/ flings/ casual sex/ friends with benefits that accidentally ( or seeminly so) produce a child that the man does not want...


Lets say a relationship liek one of the above or similar resulted in a pregnancy and the man CLEARLY stated that he is not ready/does NOT want the child and suggest abortion.

as we know abortion is the womans choice so if she carries dat child knowing the man did not want it is if fair for the father?

yes he shouldn't have had casual unprotected sex...but sometime mi sarry fi SOME a di man dem cus dem really no have a "choice" over something that will in essence change their life...i knwo that there are alot or maybe jsut a few single moms on here and please my intent is no to offend or start a riot


What about with married/committed couples...what if the couple discuss tings and cannot agree on how many if any kids to have...wat if di man say he is not ready for or does not want nemore children...den di wife/gf purposely breed...is he still responsible

and yes he shouldn't have trusted her with the resonsibility of BC...an i know technically u are responsible fi di seed u sew..but u get mi drift.


dese situations happen every day....one a my co-worker have a fren weh him a move out leff him wife and a go rent dem basement bcus of the above situation. dem have 3 kids already weh dem can hardly afford... first was planned i think then she "accidentall" got pregnant wid the 2 youngest rite back a one anedda so basically she has been on permanent mat leave (we have it fi say is bcus she dont want to work mek she want to keep on a breed breed so)....after the 3rd child was only few months old she said she wanted another and he said absulutely NOT...few monts later she announce say she pregnant.since den di man mussi mek appt fi go get fixed but him still leaving her bcus he tinks she keep getting pg on purpose ....by time him done pay out child support to her him can bearly rent out di basement weh him plan fi rent....

i hear dese stories and i think really....people really do dese tings...and it makes mi just fraid of life itself cus as u quint ppl can change and u whole life is one hot mess

[twiney]

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1. scenario with the married man weh breed him wife 3 time and a chat tripe bout the ooman breed pon purpose cannot be compared with accident ... unless she tell him lie say she deh pon birth control and him have unprotected sex with her him just as responsible and when him done pay child support him fi sleep inna hi cyar

2. When I was younger my friends and I had a saying if wi no si the man as a potential father for our children we would not have sex with them even with protection (those days we trusted no man to protect us so slim chance of it happening anyway)... If it's a friends with benefit/one nite stand or whatever and u decide to have your baby even if the man say him no want it then you should be willing to take care of your child. Personal view in my single days I made sure that anybody that was going to get any was as strict or stricter than me when it came to protection and we discussed if an accident should happen what them views was ...thank God it never came to that.

[missus_vegas]

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it is a fact dat she breed pan purpose man she stop tekking he pills on purpose...but wah mi a say doe him a ediat. bcus she did it the 2nd...3rd and u mek she ketch u a 4th time... it tek 4 times before him decide fi get fixed. i dont know if he has since told her him going to dweet dis all happend in the fall and my co worker was telling me dat him getting fixed behind the wife back....

its just one big mess... but when women like she have a ruff life mi no feel sarry fi dem cus dem spread dem bed hard.

[twiney]

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She stop tek the pill pon purpose and him still a jook har without nutting him did want the next 3 pickney ... him want a kick inna him batty bout move out ... him need fi stay wid har so him can spen time with him pickney them ... that deh pums mussi sweet bad fi him know she going breed and still a tek chance

[missus_vegas]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Twiney</div><div class="ubbcode-body">She stop tek the pill pon purpose and him still a jook har without nutting him did want the next 3 pickney ... him want a kick inna him batty bout move out ... him need fi stay wid har so him can spen time with him pickney them ... that deh pums mussi sweet bad fi him know she going breed and still a tek chance </div></div>

he did not know seh she nah tek it. mek u so hawd fi understand

last time i heard he was planning to move but contemplating it due to lack of finance. plus he does love his kids i am sure.

and how he even found out she pg is true fb...
him and my co worker's SO work together and a so the two couple dem become frens. and di ooman dem deh pan each odda fb.

one day di wife put a status seh &quot; husband is gonna be a daddy&quot;

my co-worker den call up har SO ans ask if if husban tell him say wife pregnant

den my coworker's SO go ask di man seh wait...how u never tell mi seh u ooman abreed...so comes di man hear seh him owna wife weh him a share pillow wid a nite time a breed

she need a rhatid kick and she need har belly sterilize if u ask me.

[twiney]

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she do it one time and him mek she do it 2 more time ... find a fool use a fool ...

[goldilocks]

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If a man knows that he does not want a child, he should take the proper steps to make sure that no accidents will happen, which does NOT include taking the woman's word for it that she is on the pill or whatever.

When I decided I was done having children, mi get tie off. case closed. I just let baby fadda know that I was done, and if he want any more him haffi go find someone else. (Of course, I made my decision partially based on his total lack of help and support with the two children we already had.)

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: goldilocks</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I<span style="font-weight: bold">f a man knows that he does not want a child, he should take the proper steps to make sure that no accidents will happen, which does NOT include taking the woman's word for it that she is on the pill or whatever.</span>

When I decided I was done having children, mi get tie off. case closed. I just let baby fadda know that I was done, and if he want any more him haffi go find someone else. (Of course, I made my decision partially based on his total lack of help and support with the two children we already had.) </div></div>



well put

[missus_vegas]

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weh di man dem deh?

[LusciousJohnson]

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scurred