Speaking of Married menz

**Bizzy** · 03-04-2010, 02:10 PM

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unu a talk like say is only man alone step out on dem marriage

If de man/woman have dem proper spouse a dem yaad an go out to look someone else then YES dem is to blame.

If a ooman/man gets told "hey, mi have mi spouse at home, but mi a look a ting pon de side" and the other person accepts and goes along then is still de CHEATER fi get blame.

If a man/woman married and someone outside dem marriage know dem married an a run dem dung an dpresha dem an dem give in. Is STILL the CHEATER fi get blame! The homewrecker is a dirty , evil ,wicked person but annuh dem say no vows an a live life wid nuhbaddi else.

If a man/ooman married, but seperated or going thru divorce (really n truly) and go fine smaddy else then I don't think that's cheating so no blame nuh deh fi nuhbaddi at all..

**Nylah** · 03-04-2010, 04:50 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BiziBubbla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">unu a talk like say is only man alone step out on dem marriage

If de man/woman have dem proper spouse a dem yaad an go out to look someone else then YES dem is to blame.

If a ooman/man gets told "hey, mi have mi spouse at home, but mi a look a ting pon de side" and the other person accepts and goes along then is still de CHEATER fi get blame.

If a man/woman married and someone outside dem marriage know dem married an a run dem dung an dpresha dem an dem give in. Is STILL the CHEATER fi get blame! The homewrecker is a dirty , evil ,wicked person but annuh dem say no vows an a live life wid nuhbaddi else.

If a man/ooman married, but seperated or going thru divorce (really n truly) and go fine smaddy else then I don't think that's cheating so no blame nuh deh fi nuhbaddi at all.. </div></div>

plus you see how men (or women) chat in order to get around the above....the come say things like:

1. If I would have known she was going to be like this I wouldnt have married her (or him)

2. I only married her because that is what was expected of me at the time and she is who I thought I wanted.

3. I have changed but she refuses to change and/or grow emotionally/spiritually...take your pick

4. I am only staying because of the children. I fell out of love with her a long time ago

So it is easy for the other woman to justify being with him because...well, he is so hard done by isnt he? And it is more palatable for the next person to reconcile what they are doing with a married person. But it still all amounts to the same thing...the married person chatting [censored] or not telling the truth is to blame. Once you spend a minute getting to know them you start to feel sorry for the spouse...if you pay good attention and you see it doesnt begin or end with the spouse sitting at home......

it makes no difference if the lie is about his wife or husband, or if the lie is that they have no wife or husband. <span style="font-weight: bold">Same lie and still in their court with the one who is stepping out on their spouse.</span>

**MarieK** · 03-04-2010, 05:38 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Once you spend a minute getting to know them you start to feel sorry for the spouse..</div></div>

you know I'm so glad u commented on this. The girls and I were having a conversation about this one is married to a man she needs to get rid of in conversing about his ex we noticed a pattern, the way he speaks of his ex is an indication of how he will treat and respect you.

If a man is married and he cannot find one good thing to say about his wife while he is trying to get into your panties then that is an indication he's manipulative, willing to do anything to get what he wants.

If a married man even discusses his wife, it is usually an indication of his lack of loyalty. There is no respect being given to the woman who stood before him and God and vowed to love and respect him and in some cases the bearer of his children.

(same goes for women too)

If a married man is quick to tell you intimate details about his wife, think on this, what is he going to tell the world about you when the new eh hem comes along.

The reason many people blame the other woman is because she is such an idiot to believe the crap being fed to her, she should know better, society thinks.

Personally, I don't blame the other woman, I pity her, because 9 times out of 10 if a wife exit gracefully, the husband will spend the rest of his life living in the past and the new woman will spend the rest of her life trying to refocus his attention on the present which is her. 10 times out of 10 they both end up miserable and guess who gets their revenge. lol.

**Wendy** · 03-04-2010, 05:45 PM

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True .. Dats why mi can respect when a man/woman know dem reach di en of the "rope" in dem relationship an call it troots an pack it in an move on instead a criss/cross and get tangled up ina wan nex man/woman pan di side.

Mi did read di article and it basically implied that when someone steps out of the marriage he/she looking for something that is lacking (at least most of the time). Is ieda people ago mek up dem mine fi work fi pre-empt dem partner having to satisfy dem needs elsewhere (sorta like "cheat proof" the relationship) or people have to come to the realization that the likelyhood of someone cheating is greater if there is some feeling of neglect from either partner.

**Nylah** · 03-04-2010, 05:56 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">True .. Dats why mi can respect when a man/woman know dem reach di en of the "rope" in dem relationship an call it troots an pack it in an move on instead a criss/cross and get tangled up ina wan nex man/woman pan di side.

Mi did read di article and it basically implied that when someone steps out of the marriage he/she looking for something that is lacking (at least most of the time). Is ieda people ago mek up dem mine fi work fi pre-empt dem partner having to satisfy dem needs elsewhere (sorta like "cheat proof" the relationship) or people have to come to the realization that the likelyhood of someone cheating is greater if there is some feeling of neglect from either partner. </div></div>

Thank you.

instead of flapping your gums about your spouse and making them out to be a villan, leave them!!!

Or if you are unhappy with whatever it is, step up and do what you need to do to fix or work on the marriage and stop chatting ish about the person cause mi nuh wan ere ie

marriage is a partnership not a disney movie, so both people do need to work on keeping it going and secure. But if one chooses to blame the other and cheat instead of looking for a solution within the marraige, the blame is in their court. period.

And like MMK says above sometimes when you get to know the poor spouse that is so neglected from his or her partner, you see that they are a piece of work themselves <span style="font-weight: bold">and you can start to feel bad for the spouse being cheated on......</span>

**Nylah** · 03-04-2010, 06:01 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Queen_of_d_A</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Once you spend a minute getting to know them you start to feel sorry for the spouse..</div></div>

you know I'm so glad u commented on this. The girls and I were having a conversation about this one is married to a man she needs to get rid of in conversing about his ex we noticed a pattern, the way he speaks of his ex is an indication of how he will treat and respect you.

<span style="font-weight: bold">If a man is married and he cannot find one good thing to say about his wife while he is trying to get into your panties then that is an indication he's manipulative, willing to do anything to get what he wants.</span>

<span style="font-weight: bold">If a married man even discusses his wife, it is usually an indication of his lack of loyalty. </span> There is no respect being given to the woman who stood before him and God and vowed to love and respect him and in some cases the bearer of his children.

(same goes for women too)

If a married man is quick to tell you intimate details about his wife, think on this, what is he going to tell the world about you when the new eh hem comes along.

The reason many people blame the other woman is because she is such an idiot to believe the crap being fed to her, she should know better, society thinks.

Personally, I don't blame the other woman, I pity her, because 9 times out of 10 if a wife exit gracefully, the husband will spend the rest of his life living in the past and the new woman will spend the rest of her life trying to refocus his attention on the present which is her. 10 times out of 10 they both end up miserable and guess who gets their revenge. lol. </div></div>

talk dem tings

If I could post some PMs from married men off of this board doing this very thing to serve their purpose, man oh man, some of them would need to siddung and shut up when they big up themselves around here...<span style="font-style: italic">.yeah I went there</span>

wont trust any man at the end of the day that chats [censored] about their wife cause they will do it to you eventually.

Enjoy the ride if all u are looking for is sex, but dont do it if u are looking for the love business

**Wendy** · 03-04-2010, 06:09 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I could post some PMs from married men off of this board doing this very thing to serve their purpose, man oh man, some of them would need to siddung and shut up when they big up themselves around here....yeah I went there</div></div>

Stop di Presses an shet di door!

<span style="text-decoration: line-through">Talk</span> Show di tings dem man

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">Joke mi a mek..wouden want yuh open up dat can a worms </div></div></div>

**sistactry** · 03-04-2010, 06:10 PM

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<span style="font-weight: bold">Enjoy the ride if all u are looking for is sex, but dont do it if u are looking for the love business </span>

tru wud ms lady, tru wud~~

**Nylah** · 03-04-2010, 06:11 PM

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I am just throwing corn is all cause they know who them be and I dont owe them a ting

**MarieK** · 03-04-2010, 11:41 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If I could post some PMs from married men off of this board doing this very thing to serve their purpose, man oh man, some of them would need to siddung and shut up when they big up themselves around here</div></div>

mi mumma yuh see if a neva seh mi love peeple biznizz mi wudda drap dung ded but mi cyaan duh dat an afford fi miss di mixup lawd a jeezas <span style="font-style: italic">faint weh but still conscious incase mixup stawt </span>

**Nylah** · 03-04-2010, 11:52 PM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Queen_of_d_A</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If I could post some PMs from married men off of this board doing this very thing to serve their purpose, man oh man, some of them would need to siddung and shut up when they big up themselves around here</div></div>

mi mumma yuh see if a neva seh mi love peeple biznizz mi wudda drap dung ded but mi cyaan duh dat an afford fi miss di mixup lawd a jeezas <span style="font-style: italic">faint weh but still conscious incase mixup stawt </span> </div></div>

**Nunya** · 03-05-2010, 12:23 AM

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A how dat deh one miss mi???

**neutral** · 03-05-2010, 10:11 AM

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Speaking as a married man,IF (big if) I was to stray it would be entirely for sex,nothing else,...but I would let the woman know that was what I was interested in,and that there was no question of me leaving the wife,take it or leave it.
Personally I never take off my ring,and would never do under any circumstances in order to deceive anyone about my married status,yu couldah pretty like money,my wedding ring stays firmly on.

**quodlibet** · 03-05-2010, 10:55 AM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Quodlibet</div><div class="ubbcode-body">How come I dont hear about the many oomens that purposefully look for a man who is already 'broken in' (ie in a stable relationship)? what about the oomens that dont want the effort of maintaining a 'coupled relationship' they just want the benefits? </div></div>

sex alone is no benefit.
the benefit is being able to share home, thoughts, money, vacations, goals, etc with another person.
smaddy weh settle (cah daht is all dem a do) for sex alone ahn tink is a benefit is surely delusional.

okay...carryon... </div></div>

mi nevah seh sex alone... dem can share all home, thoughts, money, goals an dem ting deh, but <span style="font-style: italic">"when im a gwaan wid im miserable self him can tek dat home to wifey"</span> - a soh mi get it, a soh mi sell it.

**quodlibet** · 03-05-2010, 10:57 AM

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BiziBubbla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">unu a talk like say is only man alone step out on dem marriage

If de man/woman have dem proper spouse a dem yaad an go out to look someone else then YES dem is to blame.

If a ooman/man gets told "hey, mi have mi spouse at home, but mi a look a ting pon de side" and the other person accepts and goes along then is still de CHEATER fi get blame.

If a man/woman married and someone outside dem marriage know dem married an a run dem dung an dpresha dem an dem give in. Is STILL the CHEATER fi get blame! The homewrecker is a dirty , evil ,wicked person but annuh dem say no vows an a live life wid nuhbaddi else.

If a man/ooman married, but seperated or going thru divorce (really n truly) and go fine smaddy else then I don't think that's cheating so no blame nuh deh fi nuhbaddi at all.. </div></div>

Inna mi younga days, a PLENTY ooman mi know who did marrid an a let off pon di side - dem jus more discreet - but dem freak flag a fly same way...

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