A Friend of the Opposite Sex Who ...

[halfwaytree]

... remains "just a friend" only because they are married to someone else.

If they were not married they would quickly find out that you have feelings for them.

What would you do if you found out that said friend's marriage was in trouble? Would you try to give them advice (as a friend would) on how to at least try to heal their marriage or let your own selfish desires rule your actions by trying to expedite the break up in any way you could?

[sistacaf]

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gih dem the said supportive friend advice and do so with integrity

if u a try influence anything, then if them come to you that would be manipulating & taking advantage of them emotions.... ill-gotten gains.

'sides, they would need some down time if the marriage breaks up, they can't just go from one to the next. they will need to take time to chill and heal and refresh themself or else it would just be a rebound.
And during that time they wih need them freind to be there for them ... that would also be the best way to get closer with them if that's what u lookin for. but they haf to come around to that themself, free & clear, if u want it to be real

conversely if dem work things out and the marriage <span style="font-style: italic">doesn't</span> break up, then them will only resent u if you had tried to expedite a breakup. or they may feel weird/uncomfortable bein around you. that might could spoil the friendship altogether.

chillax and bide your time and be the best friend u can in a honest way. if is meant for you it will come to you.

[halfwaytree]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">gih dem the said supportive friend advice and do so with integrity

if u a try influence anything, then if them come to you that would be manipulating &amp; taking advantage of them emotions.... ill-gotten gains.

'sides, they would need some down time if the marriage breaks up, they can't just go from one to the next. they will need to take time to chill and heal and refresh themself or else it would just be a rebound.
And during that time they wih need them freind to be there for them ... that would also be the best way to get closer with them if that's what u lookin for. but they haf to come around to that themself, free &amp; clear, if u want it to be real

conversely if dem work things out and the marriage <span style="font-style: italic">doesn't</span> break up, then them will only resent u if you had tried to expedite a breakup. or they may feel weird/uncomfortable bein around you. that might could spoil the friendship altogether.

chillax and bide your time and be the best friend u can in a honest way. if is meant for you it will come to you. </div></div>

That sound like good advice!

[sistactry]

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me wudda just tan far from dem,

<span style="font-weight: bold">chillax and bide your time and be the best friend u can in a honest way. if is meant for you it will come to you </span>

[Emperah]

Re: A Friend of the Opposite Sex Who ...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Curmudgeon_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">... remains &quot;just a friend&quot; only because they are married to someone else.

If they were not married they would quickly find out that you have feelings for them.

What would you do if you found out that said friend's marriage was in trouble? Would you try to give them advice (as a friend would) on how to at least try to heal their marriage or let your own selfish desires rule your actions by trying to expedite the break up in any way you could?

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Yes David you gwaan, mek yuh nuh jus senn him off to war so him cyan dead an yuh cyan have har fi yuhself

even aftah dem ting deh he was supposedly still beloved of God


But in reality de universe is a circle.

[Compry]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">gih dem the said supportive friend advice and do so with integrity

if u a try influence anything, then if them come to you that would be manipulating &amp; taking advantage of them emotions.... ill-gotten gains.

'sides, they would need some down time if the marriage breaks up, they can't just go from one to the next. they will need to take time to chill and heal and refresh themself or else it would just be a rebound.
And during that time they wih need them freind to be there for them ... that would also be the best way to get closer with them if that's what u lookin for. but they haf to come around to that themself, free &amp; clear, if u want it to be real

conversely if dem work things out and the marriage <span style="font-style: italic">doesn't</span> break up, then them will only resent u if you had tried to expedite a breakup. or they may feel weird/uncomfortable bein around you. that might could spoil the friendship altogether.

chillax and bide your time and be the best friend u can in a honest way. if is meant for you it will come to you. </div></div>

Agree with you.

[Tulip]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SistaCtry</div><div class="ubbcode-body">me wudda just tan far from dem,

<span style="font-weight: bold">chillax and bide your time and be the best friend u can in a honest way. if is meant for you it will come to you </span>


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You took the letters right off my fingertips.


You may not be able to control how you feel, but you can control how you behave.

[sistacaf]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> You may not be able to control how you feel, but you can control how you behave.</div></div>

BRILLIANT tulip.

[turtledude]

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I think that if the woman starts confiding in you instead of trying to work things out with her husband through a councelor or whatever....you will eventually end up with a problem on <span style="font-style: italic">your</span> hands.

[SandiF]

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Elaborate more on this tdude... I am curious.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: turtledude</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I think that if the woman starts confiding in you instead of trying to work things out with her husband through a councelor or whatever....you will eventually end up with a problem on <span style="font-style: italic">your</span> hands. </div></div>

[quodlibet]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: turtledude</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I think that if the woman starts confiding in you instead of trying to work things out with her husband through a councelor or whatever....you will eventually end up with a problem on <span style="font-style: italic">your</span> hands. </div></div>

Sometime that is true, because she start to compare who listen better, who 'get' her more, then it creep on from there - but that is sometime, not all the time...