Just don't get hurt

[Marilyn]

My loving and well meaning girlfriends say when we talk about the newness of a potential love affair. My mother ( who suffered her share of hurt) used to say the same.

My question is....is their some anti- getting hurt spray that I do not know about?? Some armor perhaps, some liquid I can drink that will keep me from loving, caring too much???

I think I am missing something. If a person could AVOID getting hurt, I am sure they would, the only way I know, sure fire, is just stay home alone with my dogs and not try to engage in love at all.

[sistacaf]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">is their some anti- getting hurt spray that I do not know about?? </div></div>

nope. IMHO, you r right - the only way to do that is to not engage atall. but shutting oneself off to avoid pain also shuts oneself off from the possibility of having the joy.... telling someone 'just don't get hurt', IMHO is really them showing that they care about you, - but it doesn't have much practical meaning. cause of course if it was up to us, of COURSE we would not move in a way to get weselves hurt.

so in other words, ya gotta play to win - which means takin a chance, every time.

sucks don't it?

[loops]

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well at this point...i know virtually nothing about dating...but i would suggest

1. not allowing your relationships to be the be all end all to your happiness. in other words...continue with your life and JUST DATE

2. expect less

3. oh poo...i had another pearl of wisdom...but i forgot it.

[Seveen]

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don't ask me

[Marilyn]

Re: Just don't get hurt

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: loops</div><div class="ubbcode-body">well at this point...i know virtually nothing about dating...but i would suggest

1. not allowing your relationships to be the be all end all to your happiness. in other words...continue with your life and JUST DATE

2. expect less

3. oh poo...i had another pearl of wisdom...but i forgot it. </div></div>

Loops you know mi love you bad bad right...but don't you hurt me nuh

[Marilyn]

Re: Just don't get hurt

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">is their some anti- getting hurt spray that I do not know about?? </div></div>

nope. IMHO, you r right - the only way to do that is to not engage atall. but shutting oneself off to avoid pain also shuts oneself off from the possibility of having the joy.... telling someone 'just don't get hurt', IMHO is really them showing that they care about you, - but it doesn't have much practical meaning. cause of course if it was up to us, of COURSE we would not move in a way to get weselves hurt.

so in other words, ya gotta play to win - which means takin a chance, every time.

sucks don't it?
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You have in essence quoted my signature line &quot;over there.&quot;

[Marilyn]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">don't ask me </div></div>Sissy I love the clear headed way in which you self-evaluate

[missus_vegas]

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ahm dat song by lady wats here name weh keep playing all day....the one bout quater after on i am alone and i need you now....dat one

she say something about i'd rather feel pain dan nothing at all...so i guess all u have is dem two choice deh fi stay home wid di dogs or risk pain...but (knock of wood) if sinting happen to one a di dogs u gwine feel pain so eidda way yuh get sheg.

how positive am i eh mi shoulda just say mi no know wah fi say an exit di chread no true

[Marilyn]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body">ahm dat song by lady wats here name weh keep playing all day....the one bout quater after on i am alone and i need you now....dat one

she say something about i'd rather feel pain dan nothing at all...so i guess all u have is dem two choice deh fi stay home wid di dogs or risk pain...but (knock of wood) if sinting happen to one a di dogs u gwine feel pain so eidda way yuh get sheg.

how positive am i eh mi shoulda just say mi no know wah fi say an exit di chread no true </div></div> ihave a friend going thoough extreme dog pain as we speak..you just put it in perspective for me...feel love, risk feelng pain. No anticdote available.