what do u think of this

[MarieK]

A Westchester judge is holding up a couple's wedding by refusing to lift an order of protection against the would-be groom for allegedly beating his future wife.

The man, identified only as Paul L. in court papers, allegedly put his fiancée in a headlock and slammed her into a wall in March, leaving her with a bloody nose and facial cuts.

An order of protection was issued based on a deposition from a neighbor.

The bride-to-be did not sign a complaint against her boyfriend and still planned to get married on May 12.

But that's going to be difficult since Tuckahoe Village Justice David Otis Fuller Jr. is refusing to rescind the stay-away order, saying the woman is still in danger.

"The defendant and the victim may be upset if their plans to marry are delayed by the stay-away being in place," Fuller wrote in a decision filed Tuesday.

"But the order of protection is intended to protect the victim from potential harm even if she is not averse to the risk."

Paul L.'s lawyer told the judge the couple had spent a lot of time and money planning the wedding and are expecting guests from out of town - but Fuller refused to budge.

"The defendant and his fiancée, though, were aware of the impediment as the wedding day approached and continued with their plans in spite of it without any indication that the stay-away would be lifted," Fuller wrote.

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national...l#ixzz0nDZ3jQH6

[sistacaf]

Re: what do u think of this

i think she's stupid.

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">allegedly put his fiancée in a headlock and slammed her into a wall in March, leaving her with a bloody nose and facial cuts.</div></div>

i agree I cannot think of a time when under any circumstances this kind of behavior can be excused

[sistacaf]

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yah, you touch me ONCE -- and that's IT. i gone.

how she so toopid she nah realize this will only get worse with the pressures of marriage?

i don't necessarily think the judge should have any right to legislate their relationship, but i DO think he's the only one with a drap a dyam sense.

he cares more about her well-being than she does her own damself.

SMDH

[FrenchTickla]

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i prefer this judge compared to di one who agreed to allow di perp to go down city hall, get marriage license, skip di 24-hr waiting period and married him and di victim knowing dat di defense lawyer already claimed dat dem doing it so dat she cannot be forced to testif gainst him.

sounds like an episode of svu but a real ting

[Jazz]

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Well if a judge can refuse to marry an interracial couple I don;t see why not take a stand here so to - even if the woman is a stupid heifer who refuses to takes steps to protect herself

[sistactry]

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what a lala, raatid, no man, me cudda see if de man did slap har up a likkle, but headlock and dem tings deh, no sah, him vielent baddd, next ting u know im we do a Chris Brown pan har~~

seriously, everybody a walk round stress now a days, so u really haffe careful who fah cawn u tep pan~~ raaaa

[Hush Darlin]

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mi wouldnt sey she foolish she is just weak
until you are in the situation you will never understand why she wants to stay in the relationship that is abusive.

[sistactry]

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no Sweets, she choopid, u know say sometimes u haffe listen to ur head and not ur heart, head fe over rule heart any day, every time.....u tan deh listen to heart sometimes, dog yammm ur suppah, so a so u fe smart and nuh choopid~~

[Hush Darlin]

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Anty until you are in her shoes you will never understand...I have to give God Thanks everyday that I am still alive.

[sistacaf]

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sweetsopp i give thanks that you are too. i too have been in those shoes, but at the same time, the minute i realize seh it was going down that road, i got out - before i got physically damaged. i could see all the red flags and didn waste no time stickin up under no mean abusive person. all that crap bout &quot;But i love him&quot; is bare nonsense. love went out the window the second he started down that road cause somebody who does that to me does not 'love' me. and i cannot in return 'love' a somebody who does that to me or to any person in them life. is bare jerry springer stupidness.

so mi still seh she stupid. anyone who chooses to keep getting abused, either physically or verbally or mentally or whateva - is. <span style="font-style: italic">especially</span> if them not marrid yet. she has a choice. and she <span style="font-style: italic">can</span> choose to not enter into an abusive situation..

i just have no patience with ppl who choose to go into a situation where they well know they gonna get hurt, when they have a brain and should use it. Sympathy, yes. Empathy - no. cause that choice is one i would <span style="font-style: italic">never</span> make.

[Bizzy]

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Him slam har head into a wall and shi still waan married him?

So none a fi har fambly nuh do a ting bout dis??

Mi memba one time, mi cousin babyfadda clabba har up inna de house an den put har outta fi har owna yaad fi tan up inna de rain. likkle time pass b4 de ressa de auntie and cousin dem kick dung de door an mash him up

And den when him get betta de male relatives dem tek it to him again

dyam outta orda...de guest dem a de wedding should go jus fi knock out him watsitnat an done

[sistactry]

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serious ting man, dat a one joke me nuh mek, but some ooman too needy and waan married and rayray....hell wid dat ish, me mah, no bra, if u no have family, or u a hit rock bottom for any reason, go find a good church and hold ur corners....but leave dat ish alone, when u eye get twist up, it cant go back, or wuss u dead and left him a road a walk up and down and a find next victim, i mean ooman~~

nuh love me cant see inna dat, a only need me see inna dat....and to hell wid dat ish,

Sweets, me know me luv, sometimes its easier said dan done, but.....

[quodlibet]

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He just got a peek into an extremely dysfunctional situation - that is two dysfunctional families merging, I dont wrong him

[missus_vegas]

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di judge fi low di ooman mek she galang go marrid afta ano him a tek di lick dem. she no must know how much licks she can bear.maybe di man promise har say him nah beat har again. i tink she just need fi go tek a class about how to cover yuh face wen licks a drop