My Friend

[Stormmey]

Well I am flabergasted, (little background)so I have a friend and we have been friends since kindergarden. We are both in our twenties I have never been attracted to him look on him as I would a brother and thought he felt the same way about me.

Anyway out of the blue he said to me Stormmey (a mean no preface of a sexual argumentor anything) would you give me one of your panties so I could sleep with it on my face

[censored]!! a mean the guy never even made a pass at me in all the years I have know him. Suddenly this, so I backed away from him and ran to my car and drove away.

I am still in shock

[Tulip]

Re: My Friend

Oh boy. That's a serious shock there.

Two of my best friends are men who I have known since 3rd grade. I think of them as family as well and they are both handsome, but I could never be attracted to them because I do think of them like brothers.

Now on the other hand, they say it is best to be friends first so it is not exactly the worst idea ever in some cases. (In my case, the idea alone makes me want to vomit.) Regardless, if he is really your friend, you are going to have to talk about what happened and figure out how to proceed from here. Good friends are hard to find so you can't just dash them away when they make a mistake.

[Dr.Dudd]

Re: My Friend

You did the right thing This keep your distance from him.

He needs counseling and probably more.

[KgnJa69]

Re: My Friend

As a jesture of good friendship, recognize that your "friend" need some intervention, but I would suggest the following:

Call him and suggest that you meet him for lunch; discuss the inappropriatenes of his request and show some emphaty. Remember, you guys are (were) friends from way back and he needs you now. Gentle remove your half day old worn panty and hand it to him and insist that he gets help.

Now, that's a true friend!

[Stormmey]

Re: My Friend

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Godfather</div><div class="ubbcode-body">As a jesture of good friendship, recognize that your &quot;friend&quot; need some intervention, but I would suggest the following:

Call him and suggest that you meet him for lunch; discuss the inappropriatenes of his request and show some emphaty. Remember, you guys are (were) friends from way back and he needs you now. <span style="font-weight: bold">Gentle remove your half day old worn panty and hand it to him</span> and insist that he gets help.

Now, that's a true friend! </div></div>

Godfather take this for the above bolded

Seriously though peeps I just do not want to face him or speak with him right now. It's like my brother saying something like this to me. He needs to take his fetish to someone that is not like a sister to him.

[Stormmey]

Re: My Friend

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dr.Dudd</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You did the right thing This keep your distance from him.

He needs counseling and probably more. </div></div>

Doc D!! you think I should be scared wondering what else is going on under that calm exterior of his. You know I haven't told anyone else of this going to call the parents and tell them just in case.

[Tulip]

Re: My Friend

So you're not just grossed out or shocked, you are frightened. That's a whole different thing altogether. I would definitely tell enough people if I were scared of him. Once you've told your parents or his, there is no turning back though. Good luck to you, be safe, and I hope everything works out.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Doc D!! you think I should be scared wondering what else is going on under that calm exterior of his. You know I haven't told anyone else of this going to call the parents and tell them just in case.

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[Stormmey]

Re: My Friend

Tulip, at the time I was not alarmed more like shocked and grossed out. When I think about it now all time of scenarious like someone (male)stealing your underware. Peeking Tom someone like that and didn't have a clue that he was harbouring thoughts like this. He is like the guy next door type clean cut and thing.

[Tulip]

Re: My Friend

It is hard to fathom how I would feel in this situation. I think when you brought up the brother comparison (even though I feel the same way about my friends), I really had to step back and be like whoa, that is creepy.

I might not be that concerned about him having a pantie fetish, but I would be concerned that I never detected he didn't look at me in the same sibling fashion that I looked at him. So against my first post, I think space is in order (as Dr. D suggested) so you can evaluate what is really going on. I still think eventually you and he have to resolve the situation, just not right this minute.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Tulip, at the time I was not alarmed more like shocked and grossed out. When I think about it now all time of scenarious like someone (male)stealing your underware. Peeking Tom someone like that and didn't have a clue that he was harbouring thoughts like this. He is like the guy next door type clean cut and thing. </div></div>

[Marielle]

Re: My Friend

How weird.....I would be shocked and creeped-out too.....

You need to contact him and have a serious &quot;boundaries issue&quot; talk. Don't be frightened, you have to let him know he definately crossed yours. If you leave it hanging in the air, he might draw the conclusion you are contemplating it - yikes!!


The reason 99% of my male friends are gay - never a problem!
It's like having a girlfriend, you can talk about and ogle men all day long

I did have this issue last year, when a guy who I got on with like a house on fire suddenly out of the blue came up with wanting more....
Sadly, our relationship has changed since then. I am much more held-back with him now. Almost cool.....

Remember, When Harry met Sally and she says &quot;you can't have a friendship between a man and a woman, cos s*x always gets in the way&quot;.
Seems to be my experience.