Sooooo...He's gay.....And????

[diabolical_Tanya]

my GF's BIL just came out to her and her husband.......

wonder if mi shold post dis in faith an unreasonable.......

Their parents (the brothers) are Pentecostal sittinnedda...one a dem JA church weh noh wear pants and head haffie cover and all those pious tings.....

My GF and her hubby are christian but more liberal than his parents are they are friends with me so that says enough

No wife or kids is involved in this coming out of the BIL (he is in his 20-30)


what would you do/say in this situation?

A) as the friend on the outside looking in...

b) the Brother....

c) the sister in Law who is hated by the mother....

[Derek]

Re: Sooooo...He's gay.....And????

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> A) as the friend on the outside looking in...</div></div>
'You'd better keep that quiet...'

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> b) the Brother.... </div></div>
'What's wrong with you, man?'

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> c) the sister in Law who is hated by the mother.... </div></div>
'So you is a real mammy's bwoy den?'

[kia027]

Re: Sooooo...He's gay.....And????

A) as the friend on the outside looking in...
<span style="color: #FF0000"> to say to the family? What can be said? He is who he is no?</span>
b) the Brother....
<span style="color: #FF0000"> Well I guess it is time to excommunicate him from the family. You know how jamaican community standards apply ..</span>
c) the sister in Law who is hated by the mother..
<span style="color: #FF0000"> You may have just moved up in rank.. or moved down if the m-i-l gwine fine a way to mek this your fault. Your revenge could be to google the evidence to show that the gay gene comes from the mother </span>

My honest answers are I do not know but would recommend a LG family support group for them to talk with to help them understand and cope.

[Tulip]

Re: Sooooo...He's gay.....And????

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">A) as the friend on the outside looking in...</div></div>

Continue to stay on the outside looking in, keep my mouth shut, and stay out of it.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">b) the Brother....</div></div>

Be supportive of my brother and let my parents know how I feel about it when asked. I would not bother getting into any big arguments with them because that would be a waste of time.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">c) the sister in Law who is hated by the mother.... </div></div>

Be supportive of BIL and refuse to speak with the parents about it at all. Also I'd be secretly chuckling to myself at how bent out of shape the MIL must be over this. Bet she didn't see that one coming lol.

[DearK]

Re: Sooooo...He's gay.....And????

So ahve the parents been told yet? How/when did brother know he is gay? Is he or has he ever been in a relationship&gt;?

[quodlibet]

Re: Sooooo...He's gay.....And????

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
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what would you do/say in this situation?

A) as the friend on the outside looking in...

b) the Brother....

c) the sister in Law who is hated by the mother.... </div></div>



A) &quot;Blouse and Skirt my yout - no pun intended... &quot;

B) &quot;Mi bredda, mi love you still - butawhadiraa...&quot;

C) &quot;Well some say that these things are genetic, so who knows...&quot;

It might be a little uncomfortable for him at first...
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BTW, where i the BIL living - farrin or yard?