Do all relationships go through a natural ebb and flow?

[Tulip]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Well yeah. I have certainly been through ups and downs before but have never felt this numbness before. Never felt quite this lukewarm or indifferent before in any of my good or bad relationships in the past. </div></div>

btw, in my opinion, 'ebb and flow' in a relationship, is not the same as 'numbness' or worse, 'indifferen(ce)'...

Indifference is the signature of a dead relationship. </div></div>

I realized from about the second response back that I probably didn't use the best choice of words with &quot;ebb and flow&quot;. It is more serious than that. I guess I'm trying to see if well [censored] I don't know what I'm trying to see. I guess I'm just trying not to be hasty.

[rie]

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if your not feeling it, maybe it's time to move on? Real marriages are through thick and thin but if your not married yet, move on...

Some marriages last forever , some can't handle how thick the drama gets or the thin lean times. All I got to say it better be based on true friendship, because love will not conquer all.

[Wendy]

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Look like it's time for a heart to heart talk Tulip

[CyberPhobic]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: JamBrit</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Hey Tulip....

How long have you guys been together? Are you married? Why do you suspect he doesn't love you?

Ultimately, it takes effort to keep a relationship going and to keep the fire burning.....sometimes we get caught up in the daily mundane/routine things in life and end up taking each other for granted....Another important key to a successful relationship is, communication. </div></div>

We have only been together a little over two years and we are not married. It is not his feelings I am doubting but rather my own. We don't have the best communication going on as compared to relationships of the past. I don't know how to get the fire back burning for myself. I am not altogether convinced that I can. </div></div>

If di feeling did real, it wood be consistent suh IMO, di honey gone outta di moon.

Dallyhouse mash up so juss Keep it moving...on to di nexx one.

[JamBrit]

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Hey Tulip.....hope you've come to some sort of resolution to your dilemma. IMO, if you're feeling this way at this early stage of your relationship, maybe you need to cut your losses now and not prolong the inevitable.

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Is it normal to be deliriously in love at one point and then feel ambivalent about the person some time later? Perhaps trudging through the valleys is what commitment is all about.

What are your thoughts?
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awww hell *Marie run gawn look up weh ambivalent mean*

[Stormmey]

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Ambivalence is a state of having emotions of both positive and negative emotions or having thoughts or actions in contradiction with each other.

Right ya now I will just jump to the negative cause I wone expire a man

[Tulip]

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I got quiet in my thread because I didn't really know what to say. Had to take some time to think once again. I'm trying to work it out, but I don't think I'm up for it. Life is too short. I think I just made a bad choice and need to push on.

[Skelly]

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[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Ambivalence is a state of having emotions of both positive and negative emotions or having thoughts or actions in contradiction with each other.

Right ya now I will just jump to the negative cause I wone expire a man </div></div>

i was just mess'n around Stormmey

Most think it's normal, personally I don't think so. Then again I think a lot of expectations regarding relationships are just unreasonable.

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I got quiet in my thread because I didn't really know what to say. Had to take some time to think once again. I'm trying to work it out, but I don't think I'm up for it. Life is too short. I think I just made a bad choice and need to push on. </div></div>

We are supposed to tell you to hang in there, that things will get better, but .........

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marie_K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stormmey1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Ambivalence is a state of having emotions of both positive and negative emotions or having thoughts or actions in contradiction with each other.

Right ya now I will just jump to the negative cause I wone expire a man </div></div>

i was just mess'n around Stormmey

Most think it's normal, personally I don't think so. Then again I think a lot of expectations regarding relationships are just unreasonable. </div></div>

I know, I just got carried away

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I got quiet in my thread because I didn't really know what to say. Had to take some time to think once again. I'm trying to work it out, but I don't think I'm up for it. Life is too short. I think I just made a bad choice and need to push on. </div></div>

[Jazz]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I got quiet in my thread because I didn't really know what to say. Had to take some time to think once again. I'm trying to work it out, but I don't think I'm up for it. Life is too short. I think I just made a bad choice and need to push on. </div></div>


(((((Tuls))))) you are the one in the relationship - mi know that inside you already know - nuh true?

[Tulip]

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Yeah Jazz, I know what I have to do. (Rolls eyes. What a mess.)