Should she tell her

[Hush Darlin]

Trish is Canadian born but her mom is from Barbados and her dad is from Trinidad.
Trish went to Barbados a few years ago for holiday with some family members. She met Mike and I guess they fell in love. She came back to Canada and was telling her best friend Pam about Mike and how great he was.

Pam told her to be careful and told her stories of what she had heard about people that she knew that went on holiday and fall in love. Trish and her family like the guy and soon there was a wedding that took place in Barbados. Th relationship with Trish and Pam got strained as Pam thinks Trish was moving too fast and some how she felt Mike was just an opportunist. Pam was not invited to the wedding.

Trish got pregnant and the baby was born before Mike got through to come to Canada.
During the pregnancy Pam and Trish sorta patched up their friendship. But deep down Pam still never like Mike even though she did not meet him.

Finally about 6 months after the baby was born Mike got through to come to Canada and he arrived and started working. He found some people that he knew from Barbados and started hanging out and staying out late with or liming with on the weekends or thats what he is telling Trish.

Pam found out he is cheating with a girl who she knows and she want to know should she tell Trish or let Trish finds out on her own.
I dont know Trish but Pam is someone that works close to me and she asked my advice and I told her she should do what feels right to her.
Wha unno tink she should do

[Tulip]

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I would not tell her. You know 9 times out of 10, Trish and the man are going to stay together and Pam is going to be made out to the villain.

Also, it doesn't seem like Pam and Trish are close enough for all that. I have a long standing agreement with all my closest friends so we know how to proceed. I am on the "tell me" list. It doesn't mean that I'm necessarily going to feel any obligation to break up, but you best let me know instead of having everybody in town laughing behind my back.

I have more friends on the "don't tell me" list. Whatever works for them as long as we have an understanding of the expectations.

Again in this case, I would not say one word if I were Pam and never admit to having known no matter what comes to light in the future.

[Skelly]

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mek she find out on her own....wen it comes to big ppl biz it is always best for outsiders to stay out...

[kia027]

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tell pam to get video evidence and have someone dat doan know trish send it to trish

[Suesumba]

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she shouldn't tell her anything, just pinch har side and smirk

[Emperah]

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Ask Pam what she would want done if de shoe was pan fi har foot.

[St_Bess]

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Tell Pam doan tell Trish nothing because believe me de wife <span style="text-decoration: underline"><span style="font-weight: bold">always</span></span> know bout de odda ones - always but sometimes dem just doan waan face up to it and memba when 2 head meet pan 1 pilla Pam will be the one on the &quot;outs&quot;. Who waan believe in a fairie tale a fi dem bizzness but in the meantime Pam fe mine har own bees wax.

[Emperah]

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All mi kno is if fi mi bredren si fi mi ooman outdeh a gwaan a way, mi wouldan want him fi tell mi, an mi wouldan duh de same feem. But a guess ooman different wid dese tings. Specially like how unno kno how fi get weh wid it bettah den we.

[St_Bess]

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Truse me bredda man me a woman and we women always know when our men are stepping out we may not always want to own up to it but we know AND we doan like when odda people come tell we bout eh.

[Skelly]

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cockroach doan bizniss inna fowl fight


no woman would need to tell me if my man is cheating because i would know if he was long before he actually did it...yes women are very intuitive wen it comes to stuff like that...most choose to stuff it in a far corner of their brains and pretend it never happens...others even when the truth is right in front of them always end up doubting their suspicions and then most women resign to the fact that their men still come home every night so as long as they do it in front of their faces then it is ok.

Since I can't dictate how a woman will respond to news of her man's infidelity, I do not make it my business to get involved in their marital affairs.

[Emperah]

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Big chat dat.
Unnoo tink unno would know, a wundah how much time unno tink seh unno man deh a wukk ar reach wukk late caz a who... A man could be gettin a pc from smaddy a wukk... him marrid, shi marrid suh dem kno how fi act.
Unno believe unno wouldan kno, but nuh man fu-fool an nuh kno how fi move when dem a creep an a dat mek unno kno.

A guy at work sez all is fair outside of a 50 mile radious

Den mek mi ahx unno supm, when shi come tuh de realization bout har man and den find out seh you did know all along a wundah how shi a guh feel bout you aftah dat.
How would unno feel if unno did a wear dem eh shoes?

[missus_vegas]

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mi not gettin involved a coulda even mi mumma. me mite start ask har certain questions and mek she start think bout certain tings but meeda never come out and volunteer no info.
if i am really peed off i mite cuss off the man and tell him fi straighten up an stop hurt my fren but meeda affi be really close with him as well before mi tek dem deh libatty deh. mi no able man come tump mi inna mi mout mek mi affi go get false teeth.

[SandiF]

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wonder how so many women keep with such gross disrespect... why?

know a guy who has been cheating on his wife left right and centre for the entire 24 yrs they've been married. he literally keep his harem on his facebook page. his wife included. sometimes i wonder if she nuh know but if they are married for so long... she must know but keep a blind eye thus condoning it.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: St_Bess</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Truse me bredda man me a woman and we women always know when our men are stepping out we may not always want to own up to it but we know AND we doan like when odda people come tell we bout eh. </div></div>

[missus_vegas]

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maybe dem have one a dem open ting a gwane. i say if it no bother dem dont mek it bother u. she must know wat she a get out a di deal.

[Skelly]

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or maybe she jus satisfied wid a warm body beside her a night time....


mi kno one sick puppy right now weh despite finding 2 movie tickets and lipstick pan har man shut collar on 2 separate occassions still deh wid him