To Condom Or Not To Condom

[R_C]

Should men travel with a condom on every date "just in case" ? How do women interpret your just happening to have one on you if things happen to get hot and heavy ? That you are being responsible ? That the date was a set up and the evening was just about sex after all was said and done ?

And women, if the man takes out his condom before you have indicated that tings a goh gwaan, how do you react ? ("a weh yuh a goh wid dat ?&quot Is that a welcome sight ? Create some awkwardness if you had no such plans ? When should a condom be introduced into the mix. We all know when it is too late Is it ever too soon ?

And do you expect the man always to be the one to have the condom or do you keep your own supply just in case ?

And men, what if the woman reaches into her purse and hands you one before YOU indicated that yuh tings dem was ready ? No pressure or performance anxiety right ?

[Skelly]

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Should men travel with a condom on every date &quot;just in case&quot; ? <span style="font-weight: bold">yes so should women...in various sizes in case the guy need ...an adjustment</span>

How do women interpret your just happening to have one on you if things happen to get hot and heavy ? <span style="font-weight: bold">You came armed...some might think you presumptious..some might think yu jus erring on di side of caution...it depends</span>

That you are being responsible ? That the date was a set up and the evening was just about sex after all was said and done ?<span style="font-weight: bold"> wah mi jus seh
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And women, if the man takes out his condom before you have indicated that tings a goh gwaan, how do you react ? mi nuh like dat....<span style="font-weight: bold">im look too eager...mek mi at least tek off mi baggi fuss before yu assume seh yu getting none</span>

(&quot;a weh yuh a goh wid dat ?&quot Is that a welcome sight ? Create some awkwardness if you had no such plans ? When should a condom be introduced into the mix. We all know when it is too late Is it ever too soon ? <span style="font-weight: bold">See above</span>

And do you expect the man always to be the one to have the condom or do you keep your own supply just in case ? <span style="font-weight: bold">I always have a stash baybee
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And men, what if the woman reaches into her purse and hands you one before YOU indicated that yuh tings dem was ready ? No pressure or performance anxiety right ? <span style="font-weight: bold">mi curious fi hear dah wan yah</span>

[diabolical_Tanya]

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unprepared men are a turnoff

Funny story from my younger days

Had a boops from outta town that came in on bizniz.
So we meet up at the hotel, went and had dinner and the plan was to have a lil sumn sumn before heading to the club to meet up with friends.

So things are on and popping and he gives me the condom saying you open it and put it on I rip the thing and the condom flys out and lands on the carpet. and we both fall out laughing

No worries, he hands me another one

SAME thing happens

3 times

too bad it was a 3 pack

Wi juss put on back wi clothes an head to the club, with a stop on the way to restock.

Later he was smart enough to take care of things himself

To this day I can't open a condom with out thinking of that night

((((EJ)))) miss how you made me laugh

[DearK]

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the hotel didnt have alittle gift store? lol

[quodlibet]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: R_C</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Should men travel with a condom on every date &quot;just in case&quot; ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">Quod: Yes</span></span></span></span>

How do women interpret your just happening to have one on you if things happen to get hot and heavy ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: Shouldn't be a problem</span></span></span></span>

That you are being responsible ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: Well, she was getting hot and heavy too - and we aren't teenagers</span></span></span></span>

That the date was a set up and the evening was just about sex after all was said and done ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: Good warning sign for me that she may have other issues or she wasn't mentally ready for it to get this far either - either way mi dodge the bullet, cause mi nah go a jail fi hol dung an tek weh</span></span></span></span>
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And men, what if the woman reaches into her purse and hands you one before YOU indicated that yuh tings dem was ready ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: Depends on what she pulls out, badman no wear any an any ting</span></span></span></span>

No pressure or performance anxiety right ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: No star, if she ketch mi before di time, den she jus help pump up di bicycle tire till wi ready fi ride</span></span></span></span> </div></div>

[diabolical_Tanya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> the hotel didnt have alittle gift store? lol </div></div>yes but by that time wi did late so ...juss put it off fi later

[Pepper]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">unprepared men are a turnoff

Funny story from my younger days

Had a boops from outta town that came in on bizniz.
So we meet up at the hotel, went and had dinner and the plan was to have a lil sumn sumn before heading to the club to meet up with friends.

So things are on and popping and he gives me the condom saying you open it and put it on I rip the thing and the condom flys out and lands on the carpet. and we both fall out laughing

No worries, he hands me another one

SAME thing happens

3 times

too bad it was a 3 pack

Wi juss put on back wi clothes an head to the club, with a stop on the way to restock.

Later he was smart enough to take care of things himself

To this day I can't open a condom with out thinking of that night

((((EJ)))) miss how you made me laugh </div></div>

After the second time, he should have just done it himself.

[Pepper]

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Should men travel with a condom on every date &quot;just in case&quot; ? <span style="font-weight: bold">Both parties should always be prepared.</span>

How do women interpret your just happening to have one on you if things happen to get hot and heavy ? That you are being responsible ? That the date was a set up and the evening was just about sex after all was said and done ? <span style="font-weight: bold"> In this day and age, if you don't have condoms ready, the person should be very afraid </span>

And women, if the man takes out his condom before you have indicated that tings a goh gwaan, how do you react ? (&quot;a weh yuh a goh wid dat ?&quot Is that a welcome sight ? Create some awkwardness if you had no such plans ? When should a condom be introduced into the mix. We all know when it is too late Is it ever too soon ? <span style="font-weight: bold"> I would think he is not very smooth. That is like taking out the package before things get to that level.</span>

And do you expect the man always to be the one to have the condom or do you keep your own supply just in case ? <span style="font-weight: bold">Everybody needs to be prepared.</span>

And men, what if the woman reaches into her purse and hands you one before YOU indicated that yuh tings dem was ready ? No pressure or performance anxiety right ? <span style="font-weight: bold">Same thing, is like if she pull out har busom before things get there. Not smooth at all.</span>

[DearK]

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I dont understand this part... say more:





<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Quodlibet</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: R_C</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> That the date was a set up and the evening was just about sex after all was said and done ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: Good warning sign for me that she may have other issues or she wasn't mentally ready for it to get this far either - </span></span></span></span>
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[DearK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Pepper</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

And men, what if the woman reaches into her purse and hands you one before YOU indicated that yuh tings dem was ready ? No pressure or performance anxiety right ? <span style="font-weight: bold">Same thing, is like if she pull out har busom before things get there. Not smooth at all.</span> </div></div>

Pepper what lady does that??!

[quodlibet]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I dont understand this part... say more:
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Quodlibet</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: R_C</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> That the date was a set up and the evening was just about sex after all was said and done ? <span style="color: #3366FF"><span style="font-size: 11pt"><span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">: Good warning sign for me that she may have other issues or she wasn't mentally ready for it to get this far either - </span></span></span></span>
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No prob. Things getting hot and heavy, and when &quot;it just a come down to movements&quot; - I pull out a condom, and SHE has a problem with it?

If she thinks it was about sex after all - then the question is how did we get to this point in the first place?

1) She was not prepared for sex, but wanted to see how far I would take it --
MANIPULATOR WARNING - I dont like those kinds of games, it tells me she may have some deep seated issues, and may not be mature enough to deal with an adult situation, no matter how old she is.

2) She was ready for sex, but did not expect <span style="font-weight: bold">me</span> to be prepared for <span style="font-weight: bold">her</span> being ready for it
CONFUSED AND CONTRADICTORY WARNING - when she really figures out what she wants, she can let me know

3) She was looking for a little romance, and me pulling out a condom killed the 'spontaneity' of the moment
CAUGHT IN ROMANCE MOVIE WARNING - Well its all well and good if she goes ahead and gets mad and I move on, punni no short a street... Because if its just a 'knocking boots' situation, I'm willing to take a pass before the romance movie becomes a crime drama...

I'm sure I can think of a few more reasons on my way home from her place - or as I straighten up after she leaves...

so... since you asked, would i be missing something in the interaction that should make me take this another way?

[R_C]

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If I might add.

Why do some women sometimes act so surprised when a man seems interested in sex ? Granted, the sudden appearance of a condom can change the dynamics of an evening out in either direction, for it's sort of like throwing down the gauntlet (literally.....because gauntlet means &quot;a little glove&quot; in French). But isn't sex the subtext whenever you go on a date anyway ?

By the way, for men, a platonic female friend is a woman we haven't had sex with yet.

[Pepper]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Pepper</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

And men, what if the woman reaches into her purse and hands you one before YOU indicated that yuh tings dem was ready ? No pressure or performance anxiety right ? <span style="font-weight: bold">Same thing, is like if she pull out har busom before things get there. Not smooth at all.</span> </div></div>

Pepper what lady does that??! </div></div>

You would be surprised. nuff tacky people a walk road these days.

[missus_vegas]

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isnt it the norm for men to walk round wid condom inna dem wallet regardless of wedda dem have date yes or no? unless dem marrid i would say sinting wrong wid a man weh no walk wid him tings...seems to me dat from di minute dem can say di word condom dem have one a brandish inna dem wallet. all wen dem no have 10 cent fi buy one sweety dem have condom a walk wid.

i know it wasnt too long ago mi see one inna mr man wallet it look like him had it there since Noah was a bway. di it ole all the writings dem fade off an some a it stick up pan di wallet itself wen mi seet mi nearly dead wid laff. im gooda all still have it een deh i should check....if it was an new one doe a woulda hell an powder house.

[R_C]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body">....if it was an new one doe a woulda hell an powder house. </div></div>

Seet deh now ? A di sed ting meeda chat.
Aye sah.