Questions to ask

[kia027]

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mi noh rememba asking none a dese questions.... [img]/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]

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I did.. I basically interviewed de menz dem fi de position [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[MrsBlue]

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<font color="blue">Oooh, good questions. Watch me print the list and run call [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img] for the answers. BRB... </font>

[butterflydiva]

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mi noh rememba asking none a dese questions.... [img]/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]

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I did.. I basically interviewed de menz dem fi de position [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[/ QUOTE ] I did the same thing to a previous guy and he said he felt like he was on a job interview and maybe he should've brought references from some of his last girlfriends. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[butterflydiva]

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before tying de knot..aight how much a oonu actually ask dese questions? Who's sarry they didn't? [img]/forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]Oonu agree wid the liss?

Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:

1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?


http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/17/fashio...agewanted=print

[/ QUOTE ]One more question: Would he/she submit a hair and urine sample(for drug testing)and also would they be willing to take a polygraph test.

[kia027]

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mi noh rememba asking none a dese questions.... [img]/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]

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I did.. I basically interviewed de menz dem fi de position [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[/ QUOTE ] I did the same thing to a previous guy and he said he felt like he was on a job interview and maybe he should've brought references from some of his last girlfriends. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

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they dont realise they are being interviewed if it is one question a week [img]/forums/images/graemlins/bannana_purple.gif[/img]

Married the guy who passed the interview [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70409-waytogo.gif[/img] MrKia [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70373-kiss.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img]

[CeaBee]

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Maybe me should go and ask him now.....but suppose him noh pass [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]

[Yvonne N.]

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before tying de knot..aight how much a oonu actually ask dese questions? <font color="green">Mekk shure dese topics come up in cahnvershan; they do not have to be direck questons </font> Who's sarry they didn't? [img]/forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

Oonu agree wid the liss? <font color="green"> Yes </font>

Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying

Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:

1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver? <font color="green"> Had a male fren who turn out to be the primary caregiver...well, put it dis way...him noh longer wid us..on dis side.</font> [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70384-praying.gif[/img]

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh? <font color="green"> Have to agree on joint account or separate accounts and on how the pool will work from which bills will be paid. Easy fi identify di stingy one dem... </font>

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores? <font color="green"> A housekeeper will always be a great asset...and her assistants. </font>

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental? <font color="green"> You need to watch what they do and NOT what they say...then when it gets a little cloudy, you may ask a few questions for clarification...as in...did you mean to throw dat pot at me? ...or ask dat girl fi har number when mi stan up hereso?</font>

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect? <font color="green"> Some persons are more demonstrative than others so you have to monitor rather than ask questions...plus...watch how the family operates with emotions. </font>

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears? <font color="green"> Do not be traffic-director but at the same time, try to meet his needs as well as yours through gentle conversation with ultra genteel questions. </font> [img]/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom? <font color="green"> If you both use the timer and watch Leno to fall asleep then... </font>

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints? <font color="green"> This is the ultimate test...pay attention to how you both handle differences of opinion ...the sulking...the whining...and the malice...</font> [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education? <font color="green">HAve to sort out which church and could be tricky. It starts with the bride getting married at <u>her </u> church ... </font>

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends? <font color="green"> Hopefully you will be moving in similar circles but, if not, be most open to your mate's choices. Get to meet them and study them. Be close to the ones who treat your mate respectfully and keep the others at a polite distance. </font>

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship? <font color="green">Should there ever be an issue, bring out your broughtupsy...never pit mate against parent and force mate to choose. Negotiate. </font>

12) What does my family do that annoys you? <font color="green"> Identify and then try to use humour to dismiss. ..without latching on to the disgust. If it's terrible, limit exposure.</font>

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage? <font color="green"> Pets...? Somebody has to try. </font>

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move? <font color="green"> Make the questions focus on the advantages and disadvantages on the job for your mate. Factor in the other matters afterwards. </font>

15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face? <font color="green">Watch what a mate does and not what a mate says. Be as wise as a serpent and as harmless as a dove. BE observant. </font> [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]


http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/17/fashio...agewanted=print

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[7777]

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actually she's not a sista..she's Jewish and he's a WASP

im wuk...but is a freelance sports photograpa..an not good at marketing imself



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me noh mean sista as in color of the skin..
me mean sister, as in just being female, and feminine.. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

[CeaBee]

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There is in no way, form or fashion dat ooman must be the main breadwinner..

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suppose the ooman just happens to be in a more luctative field than her husband?

Also, my former boss was a very on the go, high powered executive. She was the kind of person that I don't feel would ever be happy staying at home. Her husband on the other hand, was a very laid back guy, who was content staying home with their child. That kind of relationship worked for *them*...

[7777]

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There is in no way, form or fashion dat ooman must be the main breadwinner..

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suppose the ooman just happens to be in a more luctative field than her husband?

Also, my former boss was a very on the go, high powered executive. She was the kind of person that I don't feel would ever be happy staying at home. Her husband on the other hand, was a very laid back guy, who was content staying home with their child. That kind of relationship worked for *them*...

[/ QUOTE ]hey, u dont think I can relate to this situation..
actually, I can.
but, and I say, but, I know the perils of trying to be superwooman and not allowing your husband to tek lead....[img]/forums/images/graemlins/70402-thinking.gif[/img]
da man ya, him can find himself a nite job doe..
no excuses.. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70392-silly.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70390-shhh.gif[/img]
Me is talking bout a man wha lazy enoh and want the ooman fe go out there and work, work, work, while him just a siddown and do nutten....
Aka...the ooman being the main breadwinner..

My hubband woulda never allow me fe work,work, work.. and him noh find sinting,...
even if a fe work a McDonnalds or run gypsy cab. A soh him tan.
All when my husband retire, me tell him fe stay home, and relax, and nope, him not doing it..
Him seh him cant just noh work, him haffe find sinting fe do..even if a one *lazy man job* [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]...him haffe wuk and kep himself busy..

Me have a friend down south deh,(fe u part a town) wha husband is just lazy,no wuk, no clean house, no cook, nor wash..
a just she a do everything, and him a siddown and do nutten all day..
She a de main breadwinner [img]/forums/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif[/img]
A she haffe come home and cook cus him cant find job inna IT wha him did a do.... [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70400-talktohand.gif[/img]
me tink him a use dat as *excuse*..
Me, if a did my mister......
him ooldnt eat [img]/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]

[MrsBlue]

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<font color="blue">Oh, hell no. I don't mind being the money-earner. That works for me because I'm certainly not the house-cleaner. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img] But I'll be damned if I'll be the money-earner, dinner-cooker, homework-checker, child-discipliner, house-cleaner and husband-[censored] too.

Something will have to go. And somehow I get the sense that it will be the husband-[censored] job. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] </font>

[7777]

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Blue, u noh know by now dat this is a clean board..
no cussing allowed..

[CeaBee]

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<font color="blue">Oh, hell no. I don't mind being the money-earner. That works for me because I'm certainly not the house-cleaner. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img] But I'll be damned if I'll be the money-earner, dinner-cooker, homework-checker, child-discipliner, house-cleaner and husband-[censored] too.

Something will have to go. And somehow I get the sense that it will be the husband-[censored] job. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] </font>

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i [censored] agree wid u too [img]/forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img]

[MrsBlue]

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Blue, u noh know by now dat this is a clean board..
no cussing allowed..

[/ QUOTE ] <font color="blue">Certainly, that's why it gets censored. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img] </font>

[tsophra]

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me fren concern is about being her been the wan having a steady (an yes..higher)income [img]/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]