Is it wrong?

[Serenity82]

Nowadays it's not too safe to keep one man or to marry because that man only needs to cheat once to bring home a disease to you, even one of the deadly ones. Also, you may let down your guard with him and you may do things without protection becaus e you think you can trust him.

I'm 27 and a virgin, very strict in my morals. I'm considering getting what they consider a special buddy to do things with occasionally but I feel so bad about it. I don't know why but I feel so guilty and dirty and scared of sex period. I do however want to experience it and also just have a lover.

Is getting a safe lover I meet occasionally such a big sin? I guess that's what's really weighing on my mind that something awful will come out of it or hurt me since he's not my husband or man I plan to marry.

[Tanesha]

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S82 since you have waited this long...wouldn't it be better to find love and have that person be your first....

Are you actively dating?

[Tanesha]

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also sweetie...get yourself a toy...like a bullet that provides (oh crap G rated board) I was going to give you some advise but they will probably censor it...anyway it is not inserted but provide stimulation...you can get some pleasure/release that way....

sex is still precious despite what popular culture would have you believe with the right someone it is magical, beautiful an downright earth shaking....

[Serenity82]

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S82 since you have waited this long...wouldn't it be better to find love and have that person be your first....

Are you actively dating?

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No, I'm not dating and it's hard for me to meet someone given I'm in this part of VA and have no car. If I was still in NY it would be easier to meet someone but not here and also because I don't care to go to clubs.

[Serenity82]

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also sweetie...get yourself a toy...like a bullet that provides (oh crap G rated board) I was going to give you some advise but they will probably censor it...anyway it is not inserted but provide stimulation...you can get some pleasure/release that way....

sex is still precious despite what popular culture would have you believe with the right someone it is magical, beautiful an downright earth shaking....

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Yeah I guess you're right. I just miss the affection one gets with a man too. But It's probably best to invest in some toys. hmmm [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

[Tanesha]

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what about online dating...I have read on here that people do find love/companionship that way...give it a try there probaly is a guy saying the same things you are

[Tanesha]

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well goodnight S82...I hope you find someone soon [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[MrsBlue]

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<font color="blue">It has nothing to do with it being a sin. It has to do with it being something very intimate that you'll want to share with someone special. You only have one first time, babe.

Having an "occasional" person, I think would be more dangerous than a steady because he may be occasional with you and occasional with others, too.

Men can be rotten, miserable bastards, but they can be faithful as well. Don't let yourself fall into the thinking that every man is a dog. It's not true. If you go through your life thinking that every man is going to cheat on you, you're setting your relationships up to fail from the start.

There's nothing dirty about sex. When you're with someone and you feel like it's time, go for it. In the meantime, like TT said, get a toy and get comfortable with yourself and what you like. Your first time will be much more enjoyable if you already have the confidence of knowing what you like.

[img]/forums/images/graemlins/70459-hugs.gif[/img] No "occasional" buddy. </font>

[MrsBlue]

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what about online dating...I have read on here that people do find love/companionship that way...give it a try there probaly is a guy saying the same things you are

[/ QUOTE ] <font color="blue">No online dating, either. You're not ready for that. You have to have a very good ability to wade through idiots and psychos, and even then it's still risky. </font>

[Serenity82]

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well goodnight S82...I hope you find someone soon [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

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thanx, you too! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70459-hugs.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[Serenity82]

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<font color="blue">It has nothing to do with it being a sin. It has to do with it being something very intimate that you'll want to share with someone special. You only have one first time, babe.

Having an "occasional" person, I think would be more dangerous than a steady because he may be occasional with you and occasional with others, too.

Men can be rotten, miserable bastards, but they can be faithful as well. Don't let yourself fall into the thinking that every man is a dog. It's not true. If you go through your life thinking that every man is going to cheat on you, you're setting your relationships up to fail from the start.

There's nothing dirty about sex. When you're with someone and you feel like it's time, go for it. In the meantime, like TT said, get a toy and get comfortable with yourself and what you like. Your first time will be much more enjoyable if you already have the confidence of knowing what you like.

[img]/forums/images/graemlins/70459-hugs.gif[/img] No "occasional" buddy. </font>

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You made some very good points. Thanks so much and goodnight!

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[Tanesha]

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what about online dating...I have read on here that people do find love/companionship that way...give it a try there probaly is a guy saying the same things you are

[/ QUOTE ] <font color="blue">No online dating, either. You're not ready for that. You have to have a very good ability to wade through idiots and psychos, and even then it's still risky. </font>

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then how is she supposed to find someone BigBluey [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70402-thinking.gif[/img]...she said there are no dateable men near her...

oh...maybe a coworker/friend knows someone [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

[Suesumba]

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serenity do NOT have sex. it is a dirty sin and god will punish you by giving you poom poom cancer [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[praktful]

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serenity do NOT have sex. it is a dirty sin and god will punish you by giving you poom poom cancer [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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[Gen]

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serenity do NOT have sex. it is a dirty sin and god will punish you by giving you poom poom cancer [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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