a fix for black marriage

[Blackstar*]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I can somewhat relate...I have been questioned about whether my kids were mine... </div></div>
It even happens when both parents are black...

[jah_yout]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">black men are currently high up on the charts of unemployment, under-employment, incarceration, sickness, etc.

due to social conditions it's logical that there is a far less eligible pool of black man to be married;

the black community's problems are far greater than just being married </div></div>

Yes we understand that but for the purposes of this article that appeared in the Wall Street Journal does what this man says make any sense? </div></div>

a lot of what the article says seems downright silly to me;
stuff about a man not knowing their hair or matching skin tone for babies, etc.
silly stuff....
society seems to think getting married will solve everything, like a magic cure...
marriage can only help a lost people so much...
if the people regain consciousness, marriage -in whatever form (such as co-habiting) will logically increase

[Skelly]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BlackStar</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I can somewhat relate...I have been questioned about whether my kids were mine... </div></div>
It even happens when both parents are black... </div></div>yes I am aware but I dont think the looks of disbelief and disdain accompanies such questions when both parents are the same race. I don't know how to explain it. They adore the kids but the body language towards me suggests something else. And this is mostly by other blacks..sigh

[kia027]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BlackStar</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I can somewhat relate...I have been questioned about whether my kids were mine... </div></div>
It even happens when both parents are black... </div></div>yes I am aware but I dont think the looks of disbelief and disdain accompanies such questions when both parents are the same race. I don't know how to explain it. They adore the kids but the body language towards me suggests something else. And this is mostly by other blacks..sigh </div></div>

are the blacks who make these comments recent jamaican immigrants?

[evanovitch]

truth be i watched in disbelief some of the couple

flying out of MoBay di odda day...dem <span style="font-weight: bold">black</span> women were good looking n dem men were laffable..fi real...of note was dat fi di most pawt, di women maintained a good distance between dem n di man dem...almost as if dem neva wan fi walk too close since dem see di oddity of di man dem looks in di broad daylight too

sarry but a so it look fi real...

[Skelly]

Re: a fix for black marriage

recent? i don't know..but jamaican immigrants? yes.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BlackStar</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I can somewhat relate...I have been questioned about whether my kids were mine... </div></div>
It even happens when both parents are black... </div></div>yes I am aware but I dont think the looks of disbelief and disdain accompanies such questions when both parents are the same race. I don't know how to explain it. They adore the kids but the body language towards me suggests something else. And this is mostly by other blacks..sigh </div></div>

are the blacks who make these comments recent jamaican immigrants? </div></div>

[missus_vegas]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: mangoskin</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">[quote=Dear K][quote=Kia]discuss



your quote was not the hair section but yes that was distracting and I wonder if it was even worthy of comment. I mean do white women married to black men wonder if the sound of the blow dryer daily on their hair is something to worry about?
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i have a gf who married to a white guy and he didnt know black women didnt have pink nipples but dem happlily marrid as far as i can see </div></div>oh he was limited in his porn choices! </div></div>

dem is both christians and as far as i know (nah swear fi nobaddy) were both virgins.

[Suesumba]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BlackStar</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I can somewhat relate...I have been questioned about whether my kids were mine... </div></div>
It even happens when both parents are black... </div></div>yes I am aware but I dont think the looks of disbelief and disdain accompanies such questions when both parents are the same race. I don't know how to explain it. They adore the kids but the body language towards me suggests something else. And this is mostly by other blacks..sigh </div></div>

are the blacks who make these comments recent jamaican immigrants? </div></div>

...or just plain stupid?

[sistactry]

Re: a fix for black marriage

what a stress,

den, u have mixed cultures, and dat to me is always a sell out, a just so it go, straight!!!

one a dem gween haffe bow or sell out, but someting haffi gi

[Skelly]

Re: a fix for black marriage

yes Sue..all wen mi a travel wid dem...dem always haffi awks if a fi mi pickney dem inna immigration...this was di sole reason mi go change my last name few years ago...

[MarieK]

Re: a fix for black marriage

when men smell desperation, despite their race, they run

[Feenix]

Re: a fix for black marriage

So does that mean that neither of them can be an individual and one of them is going to be the door mat in the relationship?

[Nunya]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marie_K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">when men smell desperation, despite their race, they run </div></div>

[SandiF]

Re: a fix for black marriage

uh? you really think mixed culture is a sell out?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SistaCtry</div><div class="ubbcode-body">what a stress,

den, u have mixed cultures, and dat to me is always a sell out, a just so it go, straight!!!

one a dem gween haffe bow or sell out, but someting haffi gi

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[sistacaf]

Re: a fix for black marriage

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">What explains this marriage gap?</div></div>

because a high percentage of men (regardless of race or culture) are still controlled by their own primal instincts..... they want a woman who recognizes that the MAN is the sole 'leader', a woman who will always defer to them, without question, and without backchat. (like dem wife is dem child) (don't get me started, LOL)

Many men just aren't interested in a woman who can be equally as successful and powerful as themself; many feel that a strong assertive woman is too &quot;mannish&quot; or &quot;aggressive&quot; -- they cannot understand, or make the distinction, between <span style="font-style: italic">assertive</span> vs. <span style="font-style: italic">aggressive</span>. They are more attracted to, and will therefore choose, a more traditional type of woman to wife - as that 'fits' with their view of what a woman and wife is 'supposed' to be.

thus, the highly educated, strong, successful, powerful women are chosen LESS for marriage -- as the majority of men still prefer, and will choose, the women who prefers to marry and keep the home in the traditional way, over the woman who, say.... is a lawyer, a CEO, or maybe owns her own company...who defers to no one, and expects the same kind of respect at home that she has at work, as a co-leader &amp; partner in the marriage and home.