An Age/Race thang...

[Nunya]

So this woman (black, in her 30s) has been approached by a coworker (white, beahly 20).

He likes her and would like to get to know her better. She's told him, gently, that he's too young, and that she doesn't date coworkers.

He's told her that he waited to approach her until he knew for sure that he would be leaving the company. He'll be leaving in a week or so.

So she went back to the 'you're too young' thing. He asked her if he was older if she'd go out with him. She didn't know what to say.

According to her, he's hot. She can't understand why he's approached her when he could prolly have any little white girl out there. She's no dog but I am getting the feeling that she doesn't really thing herself worthy? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

Anyway...

[Nunya]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

... she went out with some friends after work to Jack Astor's I think. And ran into him there. She introduced him to her friends and their eyes all bugged (cause he's hot [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img] )

He was with some friends and they were having a good time, watching the hockey game or supm yelling at the screen, laughing and cursing and what not. From the corner of her eyes, she observed that he was a little reserved. He was nursing a beer, cheered when his team did sumpn right and laughed a little. But he wasn't raucous like his friends.

Her friends wanted to know why she didn't just give it a go. The very same friends who had thought she was right to say no to dis likkle white bwoy - course this was before they saw him and they all decided that if she didn't want him, they would 'try him' [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img] ...

She went out to the car for something (yeah ~lol~) and he happened to go outside at the same time [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img]

Next thing she knows, they are locking lips rouna cawna... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/blush.gif[/img]

She thinks if either one had a rubber, it would've happened round deh [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek.gif[/img]

In any event, things were left sorta anti-climatic. She cant stop thinking about him (apparently he's a great kisser [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img] ) but she's sure there wouldn't be any point to it all (the age/race thing) - she's sure it would peter out ~lol~ and she isn't looking to be anybody's mommy...

I'm thinking she should just call him an dun. She hasn't got his number, but she could easily get it from work. He hasn't got her number and though he'd asked her for it again that night at Jack's, she neva gi im...

Wha oonuu tink? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

If she is looking to have fun and thats it.....give him a call. Besides that, anything serious will not come from this....trust me I am talking from experience. When it come down to it.....these young boys can't handle what comes after the lovin......the race is not even the issue.

Tell her to have fun with him..............

[CeaBee]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

she looking for a serious relationship right now? if so, den noh bodda call him, cause with that age difference (him bearly in him 20s), then probably looking fi different tings right now.

[ILP]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

daht she should do what she wants.

She should however do all the normal things that people do when they decide they are tempted to have sex with someone new (in a parking lot), but not having a condom was all that stopped them.
Like find out more about him [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

[Nunya]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: iluvportland</div><div class="ubbcode-body">daht she should do what she wants.

She should however do all the normal things that people do when they decide they are tempted to have sex with someone new (in a parking lot), but not having a condom was all that stopped them.
Like find out more about him [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img] </div></div>

~lol~

Well, ascarding to her, this wasn't normal behaviour fi har (an mi ten fi believe har) but she say de sparks de chemistry knock har fi six.

Part a de reason why she neva gi im har numba afta dat, is dat she did embarrass. I guess she act a certain way at work an suddenly she rouna back burger joint a ack like ho...

[Nunya]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: coolbeans</div><div class="ubbcode-body">she looking for a serious relationship right now? if so, den noh bodda call him, cause with that age difference (him bearly in him 20s), then probably looking fi different tings right now. </div></div>

Yeah, she is looking for a serious longterm relationship. She's never given him the chance to see if he's looking for the same. She assumes that because he's so young, he isn't.

This is why mi tink say she should call im. Mi nuh tink it fair dat she assign certain qualities to him base pan jus im age. Im might surprise har. An fram de way she a galang, she need fi jus call im aready... damn...

[julie*mango]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

I think I would do a hit and run on that one...don't seem like the makings of a long term relationship.

[Nunya]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_28</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If she is looking to have fun and thats it.....give him a call. Besides that, anything serious will not come from this....trust me I am talking from experience. When it come down to it.....these young boys can't handle what comes after the lovin......the race is not even the issue... </div></div>

Some young men are mature enough to handle it, I think... Personally, I would never go out with someone that young... but then again, I have never been attracted to younger men...

[ILP]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think I would do a hit and run on that one...don't seem like the makings of a long term relationship. </div></div>

yuh is smaddy muddah now yuh mussin talk like daht [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

[julie*mango]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: iluvportland</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think I would do a hit and run on that one...don't seem like the makings of a long term relationship. </div></div>

yuh is smaddy muddah now yuh mussin talk like daht [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>

Well being so I vehemently agree with what TLC said:
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If she is looking to have fun and thats it.....give him a call. Besides that, anything serious will not come from this....trust me I am talking from experience. When it come down to it.....these young boys can't handle what comes after the lovin......the race is not even the issue.

Tell her to have fun with him.............. </div></div>

[Night Nurse]

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Mi hooda go farrit. Wat wood race/age/love hoff tuh do widdit? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

Mi hooda geeem someting fi mekk him want tuh do nutt'n but fi spenn awwf him likkle pay check dem pan mi, buy di hexpensive bag and boot dem whe mi like an can hawdly affowd. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img]

Shoooot, him soun like him is man enuff fi learn life lessons hearly an mi wood 'position' miself fi teach him. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img]

[Nunya]

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*red yeye ooman is a chroble to a man
even if im young white and ongle 21* [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img]

[ReggaeGirl2000]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

She should go for it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img]

[JM1]

Re: An Age/Race thang...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He was with some friends and they were having a good time, watching the hockey game or supm yelling at the screen, laughing and cursing and what not.</div></div>

This guy is likely to be working through some fantasy about Black women. This is fairly common among his demographic. I'm sure he will be reporting to his loud mouth buddies what it was like. If she is comfortable being a part of that process then who are we to judge ? She is a grown woman and hopefully knows what she is getting into.