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<span style='font-family: Arial Black'>Ten Years and Two Kids Later...
He wrote: "Hi Pat, my name is Alan and i was hoping to get some advice from you. My wife and I will be married 10 years next month and we just bought a new house for us and our two children. One 8 years old and the other 6. However, I'm not sure that I want to stay into the relationship any longer. We have had our difficulties in the past and i really haven't been happy with the marriage for quite some time now.
I'm not one to just go out and cheat on my wife, and i didn't. Not physically. I met this woman online and we began talking. The more we talked online the more we became very interested in each other. We have sent pictures of ourselves to one another, and she is very beautiful. We have talked many times on the phone and we both love the time we spend talking to the other
We both have fallen in love with the other and are talking about getting together soon.
We only live three hours apart. I told my wife about her last week in an argument and as you could imagine things didn't go well. After days of arguing and my mind spinning out of control, I almost left, but didn't. I damaged more of my marriage and broke the heart of the other woman because I didn't leave my wife yet.
The woman and I are still talking (which my wife thinks that I broke it off) and are still in love with each other. The woman is 23, single and she also has two kids (3 and 7 mo.). She is in a abusive relationship. I keep thinking about this woman all the time and we still talk thru instant messenger and by phone daily.
My wife is trying to make the marriage work, but my heart is with the other woman. I love my wife but I'm not in love with her, if that makes any sense to you. I'm just looking for happiness in my life. I don't want to lose my kids tho. They are the best things that ever happened to me.
Pat, I love this other woman very much and I know she would make me happy. She already has. I'm worried about the kids and going thru a divorce. I am also scared financially if I leave my wife. There's a big mortgage(which her and the kids would probably have to move because she couldn't afford the morgage) and child support I would have to pay including a monthly rent for an apartment. I don't know what to do.
I can't let the other woman go because we are very much in love with each other. Or, am I just being selfish and not thinking about my wife and kids' lives. I just want to be happy. If there's any advise you could give me, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you
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