do we owe our spouses sex

[RichD]

Are we still swooning over the smooth-talking, ever elusive, charismatic catch? Mr. Perfect, Mr. Right, My One-And-Only?

Maybe so, but most of us fall for real men -- with thinning hair or a little paunch, with a broken tooth that's never been fixed, with a tendency to posture when provoked and ramble when tired. And if we're lucky, he has a hankering for us that seems insatiable -- at first.

We're delighted, we're flattered, and we reciprocate -- finding his fervor and his foibles endearing. We adore them. We marry them.

And then things change. We change.

So let's get right to the heart of the matter -- sex, followed by babies, and work-life challenges we can't possibly imagine until we're mired in them, as we muddle through the months and years of little ones fussing, job worries, and schedules that grind us down.

Hubby?

Sometimes he gets short shrift. Often, he gets no sex.

The rest of it

[SandiF]

Re: do we owe our spouses sex

It's the woman that is getting short shrift with having to deal with men who have low sex drive; penile problems; ejaculation problems...coming in <= 3 mins. Most times the poor woman just can't be bothered to have sex with a man that comes before she can even eke out an orgasm.

I mean why these articles keep putting the blame on the woman.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RichD</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Are we still swooning over the smooth-talking, ever elusive, charismatic catch? Mr. Perfect, Mr. Right, My One-And-Only?

Maybe so, but most of us fall for real men -- with thinning hair or a little paunch, with a broken tooth that's never been fixed, with a tendency to posture when provoked and ramble when tired. And if we're lucky, he has a hankering for us that seems insatiable -- at first.

We're delighted, we're flattered, and we reciprocate -- finding his fervor and his foibles endearing. We adore them. We marry them.

And then things change. We change.

So let's get right to the heart of the matter -- sex, followed by babies, and work-life challenges we can't possibly imagine until we're mired in them, as we muddle through the months and years of little ones fussing, job worries, and schedules that grind us down.

Hubby?

Sometimes he gets short shrift. Often, he gets no sex.

The rest of it

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[Skelly]

Re: do we owe our spouses sex

or Sandi maybe dem wife just pist...when mi pist at di man believe u me him nah get none...no matter how much mi ile a ride mi him nah get none..

thats the worst feeling ever..being pist at yu SO an yu waan some but yu caan get none cah yu pist..lol

[DearK]

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Yes the assumption is that the wife is the one who 'gets cold'. Did you read the case of the french woman who sued (and won) because her hubby 'failed to provide sex' Marriage means agreement to a 'shared communal life... which includes sexual relations' Should we include this in the vows?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-yvonne-k-fulbright/suing-over-sex-now-thats-_b_951758.html

[Tulip]

Re: do we owe our spouses sex

Short answer - yes, we owe the spouse sex.

The best sex may not come with who makes the best spouse. Sad but true.

[applepie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">or Sandi maybe dem wife just pist...when mi pist at di man believe u me him nah get none...no matter how much mi ile a ride mi him nah get none..

thats the worst feeling ever..being pist at yu SO an yu waan some but yu caan get none cah yu pist..lol </div></div>

But Skelly you a short change yourself....give it up it has nothing to do with the arguement you might be having

[DearK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Short answer - yes, we owe the spouse sex.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The best sex may not come with who makes the best spouse</span>. Sad but true. </div></div>


I want to hear more about this!

[jah_yout]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Short answer - yes, we owe the spouse sex.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The best sex may not come with who makes the best spouse</span>. Sad but true. </div></div>


I want to hear more about this! </div></div>

everyone knows this is true...
the myth has made marriage into a concept where your spouse is the perfect everything for you...
that is simply fantasy

[Skelly]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: applepie</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">or Sandi maybe dem wife just pist...when mi pist at di man believe u me him nah get none...no matter how much mi ile a ride mi him nah get none..

thats the worst feeling ever..being pist at yu SO an yu waan some but yu caan get none cah yu pist..lol </div></div>

But Skelly you a short change yourself....give it up it has nothing to do with the arguement you might be having </div></div>

So dat him can tink mi get ova wateva mi ave him up fah? streups!!!

[Skelly]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Short answer - yes, we owe the spouse sex.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The best sex may not come with who makes the best spouse</span>. Sad but true. </div></div>


I want to hear more about this! </div></div>

everyone knows this is true...
the myth has made marriage into a concept where your spouse is the perfect everything for you...
that is simply fantasy </div></div>

I've found myself at a crossroads where I could have had the perfect man but the sex was lame, versus a not so perfect man wid di wickedest ride...

sorry if mi fi dweet again...mi remains single an play both a dem

[Peasie]

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Nobody should <span style="font-style: italic">owe</span> anybody sex whether they are married to each other or not. Sex in marriage is not currency that you exchange or owe your spouse. Once couples start thinking or talking that way, that marriage is so over. Just sayin...

[SandiF]

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must be you one know of such a myth re marriage. no marriage is perfect and we are all aware of that. no (one) partner is perfect and we are all aware of that. no myth abound on either.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Short answer - yes, we owe the spouse sex.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The best sex may not come with who makes the best spouse</span>. Sad but true. </div></div>


I want to hear more about this! </div></div>

everyone knows this is true...
the myth has made marriage into a concept where your spouse is the perfect everything for you...
that is simply fantasy </div></div>

[SandiF]

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you just have to know how to play your cards

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Short answer - yes, we owe the spouse sex.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The best sex may not come with who makes the best spouse</span>. Sad but true. </div></div>


I want to hear more about this! </div></div>

everyone knows this is true...
the myth has made marriage into a concept where your spouse is the perfect everything for you...
that is simply fantasy </div></div>

I've found myself at a crossroads where I could have had the perfect man but the sex was lame, versus a not so perfect man wid di wickedest ride...

sorry if mi fi dweet again...mi remains single an play both a dem </div></div>

[Diplomat]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It's the woman that is getting short shrift with having to deal with men who have low sex drive; penile problems; ejaculation problems...coming in &lt;= 3 mins. Most times the poor woman just can't be bothered to have sex with a man that comes before she can even eke out an orgasm.</div></div>


On a serious note, I do not believe we &quot;owe&quot; our spouses sex. It should be something that is mutually looked forward to, mutually shared, and mutually beneficial. Anything outside of that is &quot;work&quot;.

[Suesumba]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ChurchDude</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
On a serious note, I do not believe we &quot;owe&quot; our spouses sex. It should be something that is mutually looked forward to, mutually shared, and mutually beneficial. Anything outside of that is &quot;work&quot;. </div></div>

...in a perfect world this is the right answer. in the real world of real/imagined slights, porn, infidelity, etc. it just doesn't work like that.