How long should you wait before...

[Wendy]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i didnt say how long should *I* wait. b/c im gonna do what i wanna do regardless to what anyone says or thinks. it was simply a question for discussion and <span style="color: #990000">yes part of my personal business i allowed for sake of conversation</span> and to attempt to get more opinions.</div></div>

Sad to day this but... that is when you open up yourself for comments like that. Yuh did a gwaan good when you kept it generic.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">Certain tings are on a &quot;need to know&quot; basis and wid lurkers around dat doan need to know - mi err on di side of &quot;kibba mi mout&quot;
<span style="font-size: 8pt">But's that's just me </span></div></div></div>

[Wendy]

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Now Fancy... back to the question at hand. You live life only once, you gonna know when it is the right time. If you decide to wait it out an the other person feels differently, I would ask some questions about why getting married at X month is so important. The response to the question may give you insights that none of us here can provide.

[sistactry]

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FancyCat,

biggg tings a gwaan, if dem man waan married u, married him, so me say!!!

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: WeNdY_PeNdY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Now Fancy... back to the question at hand. You live life only once, you gonna know when it is the right time. If you decide to wait it out an the other person feels differently, I would ask some questions about why getting married at X month is so important. The response to the question may give you insights that none of us here can provide. </div></div>

which goes back to the questions I posted wayyyy up so. If they are ok with the questions and based on what they see about the person, time is relative.

a rabbi once said u can determine if you can marry a person after 8 dates but remember the families did screenings via the matchmaker which saves a lot of time

[Wendy]

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LOL Or do like Burger King says

[Skelly]

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Just make sure he's

[RichD]

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[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">...you get married to someone you've been seeing?


i know all situations are different so general opinions/advice welcomed.

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Hi Fawncie

marry them after living with them for one or two years

you're welcome.

[Yuriatin]

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Fancy - I don’t have a <span style="font-style: italic">“negative view on things”</span> on the question / the post. Because I have a differing view or response on a subject, doesn’t make it “negative”. It’s just different.

I said “no disrespect” because oft time people think you dis’ing them or something. Wha day yah smaddie come pan di board ah talk o him juss discova seh in is Jamaican an im wife nuh like iee an nah tek it well. Mi sugges maybe dem fi guh counslin – im blaze up an cuss mi tuh baxcide. Man!

Anyway – what I’m saying to you is, that in deciding when or if to marry someone, there is no finite answer. Boardities don’t know your relationship with your partner and all the intricacies that it holds. Asking about when to marry is almost like asking <span style="font-style: italic">‘when should I have a baby’ </span>or ‘<span style="font-style: italic">should I buy that house down the block’
</span>
There’s a boat load of tips that peeps can give you but a great deal of it is moot because the decision has to be based on one’s specific situation.

I’ve found oft times when people ask whether or not they should walk down the aisle or when they should or if or whatever, they really already KNOW the answer – deep down they know the answer in their gut.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well i dont know whats weird about it? to ask ppl for their general opinion on how long you should wait to get married?

what basis is &quot;thats a red flag right there?&quot;
why should there be a red flag b/c i ask how long do ppl wait before they get married?
what is the red flag? what is the problem?

im still stuck on how this is weird?

i dont take it as disrespect b/c there will always be someone to have a negative view on things. but this is a discussion board so i dont see where the problem comes in to discuss on the board about how long ppl should wait to get married.

i didnt say how long should *I* wait. b/c im gonna do what i wanna do regardless to what anyone says or thinks. it was simply a question for discussion and yes part of my personal business i allowed for sake of conversation and to attempt to get more opinions.

smh

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Yuri_</div><div class="ubbcode-body">This all sounds weird ...

And if you have to come on a chat board to broach this kinda question - that's a red flag right there.
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No disrespect Fancy ...
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
yuh seet

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="font-weight: bold">unoo doan ave a lick a sense</span>


Fancy to answer your question..there is no right time...my parents waited 36 years to get married an now dem caan stan one anadda...well...more mom than dad...i waited 3 years before i got married to di man...i think that was fair amont of time to figure out if we should or shouldn't proceed...dat is time enough fi si di red flags and decide if u waan live wid di red flags or not... </div></div>

Skells
3 years good...so mek mi tell yuh...di man waan wi fi marry inna May </div></div> </div></div> </div></div>

[Stormmey]

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Fauncy.....

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: WeNdY_PeNdY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i didnt say how long should *I* wait. b/c im gonna do what i wanna do regardless to what anyone says or thinks. it was simply a question for discussion and <span style="color: #990000">yes part of my personal business i allowed for sake of conversation</span> and to attempt to get more opinions.</div></div>

Sad to day this but... that is when you open up yourself for comments like that. Yuh did a gwaan good when you kept it generic.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">Certain tings are on a &quot;need to know&quot; basis and wid lurkers around dat doan need to know - mi err on di side of &quot;kibba mi mout&quot;
<span style="font-size: 8pt">But's that's just me </span></div></div></div>


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u right...but it wasnt that serious for me so thats why i just threw it in there but again u right...i forgot where i was for a minute

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: WeNdY_PeNdY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Now Fancy... back to the question at hand. You live life only once, you gonna know when it is the right time. If you decide to wait it out an the other person feels differently, I would ask some questions about why getting married at X month is so important. The response to the question may give you insights that none of us here can provide. </div></div>

good answer

im not really looking for others insight to help with my situation. i dont need help
i just wanted to know in general how long ppl tend to wait before getting married

[CeaBee]

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ok i would wait two years.
unless me a look money..then 2 months

[LusciousJohnson]

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das wa mek mi lub yuh

thanks SistaCtry yuh den pon mi guest list


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SistaCtry</div><div class="ubbcode-body">FancyCat,

biggg tings a gwaan, if dem man waan married u, married him, so me say!!!




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[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: WeNdY_PeNdY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Now Fancy... back to the question at hand. You live life only once, you gonna know when it is the right time. If you decide to wait it out an the other person feels differently, I would ask some questions about why getting married at X month is so important. The response to the question may give you insights that none of us here can provide. </div></div>

which goes back to the questions I posted wayyyy up so. If they are ok with the questions and based on what they see about the person, time is relative.

a rabbi once said u can determine if you can marry a person after 8 dates but remember the families did screenings via the matchmaker which saves a lot of time </div></div>

Kia