Would you tell him?

[ZaraJah]

I have a close Asian friend from work. He and I are into Martial Arts.

Yesterday after a session, we went for coffee and were chatting about relationships etc. He told me some pretty intimate things (I know his fiance) that were not very intrusive but deep just the same.

I thought I'd share one of my intimate stories and told him in details about a guy that I'd really grown to like A LOT, and after establishing that we were soul mates, I had the most tragic experience. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

In summary I told him that we went to Cape Cod over the summer and attempted to take our relationship to another level [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img] when he stepped out of the shower and greeted me with a "stump"...literally. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] I swear I had never seen or expected to see anything so small on a grown man in my life.

My first thought was Holy Mary Mother of God, how does he pee without wetting his legs?. I swear that was my first thought. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]

My friend fell over with laughter. I told him that I'd been traumatized and that for that reason alone, I cannot look at men the same way. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

After chatting about it for a while he then said "why don't you try a black guy?"

I was like [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] He said, "I'm serious, I don't think you'd have that problem with a black guy." I sat in silence but I just nodded and said nothing more. I kept thinking, tell him, just tell him and be done with it, afterall, he has just told you some seriously personal things. I don't know why, but I didn't tell him. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70374-lipsrsealed.gif[/img]

This morning I saw him and my internal excuse for not saying anything was, hell, he didn't know me as well as I thought he did anyway. Why, if he did, he wouldn't have made such a suggestion. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/music.gif[/img]

Would you have told him?

[diabolical_Tanya]

Re: Would you tell him?

Yes tell him...we need to kill that myth, no need for future generations to come along and still believe that nonsense [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

[Suesumba]

Re: Would you tell him?

Zarah, it's my experience that a stump can mushroom into a club. you should have given the guy a chance. if you had everything else great with him, i think it's something you both could have worked with. imagine, his penis is only 1% of his body if that. it's a small (no pun intended) thing.

however, everything i say goes out the window if you're a *size queen*.

anyway, not all black guys are huge [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img]

i don't understand him telling you to try black guys either. does that mean you don't *do* black guys? i'm confused. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]

[ZaraJah]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Aynat_SlvrTush</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yes tell him...we need to kill that myth, no need for future generations to come along and still believe that nonsense [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img] </div></div>

There is some truth there. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

[gullygirl]

Re: Would you tell him?

I think he automatically assumed that the guy was not black, because he was small.

[ZaraJah]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Zarah, it's my experience that a stump can mushroom into a club. you should have given the guy a chance. if you had everything else great with him, i think it's something you both could have worked with. imagine, his penis is only 1% of his body if that. it's a small (no pun intended) thing.

however, everything i say goes out the window if you're a *size queen*.

anyway, not all black guys are huge [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img]

i don't understand him telling you to try black guys either. does that mean you don't *do* black guys? i'm confused. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img] </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] Yes, that was a small thing. Great minds think alike, because I thought, the guy is great in all other areas [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img] so why not. Well, all I can say is, it was like asking a three man band to quickly transform into a 500 piece orchestra... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cry.gif[/img]

I am tall but not wide. I weight less than 180 lbs. Do I qualify as a size queen?

That was why I thought homeboy didn't really know me. I have never had any other interest but in black men...hence my trauma. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img]

[Suesumba]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: gullygirl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think he automatically assumed that the guy was not black, because he was small. </div></div>

ah. i see. ~~~ shaking head to remove fog ~~~ thanks GG [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img]

[ReggaeGirl2000]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
anyway, not all black guys are huge [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img] : </div></div>

So VERY true!!!

[ZaraJah]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: gullygirl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think he automatically assumed that the guy was not black, because he was small. </div></div>

Exactly. I suppose many more have bought into the "myth" than we thought. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

[ZaraJah]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ReggaeGirl2000</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
anyway, not all black guys are huge [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img] : </div></div>

So VERY true!!! </div></div>

LOL. All the ones I have been with so far had not been small in the least, and I am no spring chicken. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img]

He said his grandfather was a Cherokee, so [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70374-lipsrsealed.gif[/img] who knew?

LOL

[Suesumba]

Re: Would you tell him?

and like i've said before, black guys need to stop spredding that snit around [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] like wouldn't you prefer to be known for the size of yor intellect? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70392-silly.gif[/img]

[diabolical_Tanya]

Re: Would you tell him?

Zarah..couple things

Size Queen - A person who is only interested in the "size" of the instrument..can mean male or female.


I always hear that Native Americans were well endowed...I can only confirm that it is true for one, which means pretty much the same as "all black guys are big"

[diabolical_Tanya]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">and like i've said before, black guys need to stop spredding that snit around [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] like wouldn't you prefer to be known for the size of yor intellect? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70392-silly.gif[/img] </div></div>But clearly Sue it's not just black guys spreading it as Zarah's work out buddy is also "spreading it" as he is Asian.

[ZaraJah]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">and like i've said before, black guys need to stop spredding that snit around [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] like wouldn't you prefer to be known for the size of yor intellect? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70392-silly.gif[/img] </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] I don't think black men actually started that rumor. From what I remember, it was maliciously started by white men who aimed to keep their "fair ladies" away from the mandingo and it....uhhm...backfired.

Let's not blame the victim here.

[ZaraJah]

Re: Would you tell him?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Aynat_SlvrTush</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Zarah..couple things

Size Queen - A person who is only interested in the "size" of the instrument..can mean male or female.</div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] Thanks Aynat. I had no idea. Never heard that before so I thought it had something to do with being the number 1 in size. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] Deductive reasoning doesn't always work, does it? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70361-embarassed.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

I think women - black and white spread that rumor as well though.