have u ever been raped...

[evanovitch]

Re: have u ever been raped...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Green_Biscuit</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yes - with a gun to my head. </div></div>

dang...now dat is harsh...i take it was a stranger ....dang...now dat is really harsh...sorry fi hear dat still...dang...

[evanovitch]

Re: have u ever been raped...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelli0n</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Oh geez ((((((((GB))))))))))) ...I can't find an icon to show how I really feel right now... </div></div>

i feel u pon dis..wen i typed the post, i was typing out loud, because i realised dat someone i dated as an young adult did that to me....but dang..dat is harsh

[Hush Darlin]

Re: have u ever been raped...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DuppyBredda</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Yeah I was been rape by 22 years old female when I was 15 years old. I did have like for her potato pudding, she prepare it very
well.

She keep on baking potato pudding so offend and have me coming back for more. One day she invite mover again but this time there was no potato pudding bake.

She pin me down on the bed and I just allow her to have what she
want from me. I guest its pay back time for all the free potato pudding she give me.

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a how u lucky soh

[Nunya]

Re: have u ever been raped...

For all the ladies here who have overcome [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/notworthy.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/notworthy.gif[/img]

[ohliz]

Re: have u ever been raped...

Yup, when I was 17, in Italy.

[Green_Biscuit]

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Thanks guys. Yeah, he was a stranger, basically. I was on holiday in California in 1987. Met him in a club, when I was with a friend. She met his friend, and we all danced and talked for a long time. When the club closed, she invited both of them back to her place (I was not super comfortable, but I was the guest/visitor, and still kinda young).

The guy was claiming he was some dude, who's name escapes me, from the Patriots (the local pro football team here). I was unimpressed with that but I liked him. We all talked and talked on her balcony. He was being very forward, and even had be sit on his lap due to a lack of enough chairs. I liked him, and didn't want to seem like a prissy in front of my fiend, so I let it go. Talking continues.

The other guy disappeared (later found out he just left with their car), and then my friend went in to go to the bathroom, and never came back (passed out). So here I am, stuck with this guy, in my friend's place, and I just want to go "home" (my cousin's house a mile or two away). He asks me to take him to the bus station. I am very uncomfortable now, but I can't leave him there, either. So, I let him get in my rental car, and follow his directions. Next thing I know, I am on the Bay Bridge, on my way to Oakland. For those of you who don't know, this is a long, long bridge. I am absolutely in a panic, now, but trying to remain calm.

He gave me directions to his house, which is actually less than a mile off the bridge. I pull up to the curb, prepared to say all the niceties, etc, and get the heck outta Dodge. He pulled the keys out of the ignition.

Did I mention this man is BIG? Anyway, he won't give me the keys back and heads for the house. I am still trying to remain calm, and trying to convince myself not to lose control or be paranoid. I have no idea where I am, but I know I need my keys to get out, so I follow him.

He insists if I have a drink (maybe even tea?) that he will give me the keys. He wants to call me when he gets back to Boston, yada yada. I am trying to agree and GET OUT. Out of the blue, he tells me he wants to show me something (some sport thing) and that is when the gun came out.

Miracuously, eventually, he let me go. No idea why, but I sure thank my lucky stars. I could be dead, instead. I found my way "home".

To this day, you know what the very very hardest thing about this was? The fact that my friend referred to it a day or two later as date rape. I have never, ever, gotten over that.

Yeah, I should have been more forceful when he insisted I sit on his knee instead of stand, definitely. I was young, and stupid, and didn't want to seem uncool. But date rape?? Lemmee tell you, a gun to your head is not date rape.

As a footnote, I looked up who he said he was. The Pats player was a kicker, small guy, maybe 160-170 lbs. This guy was like 6' 2" and a good 280 lbs. Ironic, huh?

[Green_Biscuit]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ohliz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yup, when I was 17, in Italy. </div></div>

(((((Ohliz)))) God, that sucks.

[dahjah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DuppyBredda</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Yeah I was been rape by 22 years old female when I was 15 years old. I did have like for her potato pudding, she prepare it very
well.

She keep on baking potato pudding so offend and have me coming back for more. One day she invite mover again but this time there was no potato pudding bake.

She pin me down on the bed and I just allow her to have what she
want from me. I guest its pay back time for all the free potato pudding she give me.

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[DearK]

Re: have u ever been raped...

((((Ladies))))

Did anyone report the assaults, or did you just want to forget about it and move on?

[niceniss]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Green_Biscuit</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I am trying to agree and GET OUT. Out of the blue, he tells me he wants to show me something (some sport thing) and that is when the gun came out.
<span style="color: #FF0000">I'm trying to read between the lines, literally. is this where he raped you?</span>
Miracuously, eventually, he let me go. </div></div>

[niceniss]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">((((Ladies))))

Did anyone report the assaults, or did you just want to forget about it and move on? </div></div>
It depends on the assault itself and the aftershocks of it. I would bet more women on board have been raped than would admit here. The male specie can be such crude animals!

[Green_Biscuit]

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Donnika, post is at bottom of 1st page,
DK

[DearK]

Re: have u ever been raped...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
<span style="color: #FF0000">I'm trying to read between the lines, literally. is this where he raped you?</span>
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Yes Donnika.

Who does someone talk to after they've been through something like this, GreenBiscuit, seems like you told her friend and maybe because of her guilt for deserting you, she tried to minimize it? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

and if the perpetrator is a 'friend', how to relate with him, and do you tell other friends/? Did you ever hear of the person ever doing it again?

[evanovitch]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">((((Ladies))))

Did anyone report the assaults, or did you just want to forget about it and move on? </div></div>

i can honestly say dat is today mi admit it to miself...is juss like di proverbial light bulb go awn ovah mi head...fi real...u know how u date people wen u younger but it was not a physical relationship...likkle kissing , dance close...den later , going home to visit an still in touch...after watching him play tennis one day, i was waiting for him to change an he became amourous...said no, tings had changed since den..an di insistence till u on u bak being held down an juss lie passively while it goes awn...dang...dis is a lot for me to say like dis..fi real..den sayin to miself dat is not like mi neva like him one time but was not sexually active den...waieee..i am in shock saying all dis...

[Boopie2]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: evanovitch</div><div class="ubbcode-body">fi real...thinking back, u eva deh wid a man , dating an all dat, and one nite him ovapower u an have him way ..no beat up ting but u really did not want to an now dat u look bak u realise seh is him did u...but is a long time friend an u did juss put it behind u [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] </div></div>

Almost but he was skinny and I"m pretty strong in my legs so I was determined to keep them locked. He got tired and breathing heavy and looked real stupid after that I never laid eyes on him again. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] It wasn't like we weren't intimate plenty times before but I didn't feel like it that particular time and he did case closed.