SIGH!!!!!

[Cultcha]

Maybe others can relate...

I find sometimes when you try and do something for someone (another adult) not because it is required of you but because you just feel it is a nice thing to do and you get in a habit of doing it for them.

Let's say for instance if I'm making breakfast for myself, there is little extra effort to make another serving for your spouse too, right?

Well one day you might not feel up to eating breakfast so you don't make any at all, next thing you know your spouse gets all upset and have a hate on for you because you didn't make them breakfast.

What is up with that????
\o/

I'm not the maid, cook or butler.

Honestly, sometimes I think you are better off to treat people without much thought and do the very least you can for them. That way, they will not expect much from you and you won't disappoint them.

[Peasie]

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In a marriage, or some similar social arrangement, adults need to communicate with each other in a mature manner.. So, in the above example, you could have said, "I'm not up for any breakfast this morning. You good on your own, Sweetie?" The adult response to that should be, "Thanks, Babes, I'm good. I guess I got used to our little morning routine. Are you OK otherwise? How about I fix something for you?"

Suddenly stopping a little considerate act without explanation is cause for a "What's up?" kind of response from your spouse. Responding with huffing and puffing and hating is just immature.

[RichD]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: KF_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Let's say for instance if I'm making breakfast for myself, there is little extra effort to make another serving for your spouse too, right?

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i hope yuh never tell dem sey the only reason yuh do it was because it nuh tek much effort.

[missus_vegas]

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LOL u know its true. little things like dis cause big problems. As PZ say its just communication. but we dont always think of it at the time we expect ppl to read our minds and just know.

[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="font-weight: bold">Suddenly stopping a little considerate act without explanation is cause for a &quot;What's up?&quot; kind of response from your spouse.</span> Responding with huffing and puffing and hating is just immature.</div></div>

If you've always done it....stopping without &quot;notice&quot; is gonna get a reaction. Sorry that the response was negative. It's not about the mind reading, but all about the chatting.

[DearK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RichD</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: KF_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Let's say for instance if I'm making breakfast for myself, there is little extra effort to make another serving for your spouse too, right?

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i hope yuh never tell dem sey the only reason yuh do it was because it nuh tek much effort. </div></div>


That always ruins it!

[CyberPhobic]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: KF_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Honestly, sometimes I think you are better off to treat people without much thought and do the very least you can for them. That way, they will not expect much from you and you won't disappoint them. </div></div>

Mi agree widd dis tuh a certain extent. Is not dat yuffi chreat dem widdout much thought ennuh, is juss dat yuh nuffi mekk peeple get use tuh ennyting.

Dem wi tekkit fi grantid and den get spwile and fiesty widdit. Wat wurss sometime is wen dem wood'n even tink of returning di fayva.

Juss tekk a deep breath nuh matta wat di ungrateful smaddy sey, an juss sey &quot;yes dear&quot;.

If dem still inna awgyument, dis is wat mi do, mi juss <span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">bun dem, tekk man pan dem, tekk di house an cyar an run dem!</span> </span>

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[missus_vegas]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CyberPhobic</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: KF_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Honestly, sometimes I think you are better off to treat people without much thought and do the very least you can for them. That way, they will not expect much from you and you won't disappoint them. </div></div>

Mi agree widd dis tuh a certain extent. Is not dat yuffi chreat dem widdout much thought ennuh, is juss dat yuh nuffi mekk peeple get use tuh ennyting.

Dem wi tekkit fi grantid and den get spwile and fiesty widdit. Wat wurss sometime is wen dem wood'n even tink of returning di fayva.

Juss tekk a deep breath nuh matta wat di ungrateful smaddy sey, an juss sey &quot;yes dear&quot;.

If dem still inna awgyument, dis is wat mi do, mi juss <span style="font-style: italic"><span style="font-weight: bold">bun dem, tekk woman pan dem, tekk di house an cyar an run dem!</span> </span>

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mek mi mek sure quote dis b4 u edit it.

[DearK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: KF_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Maybe others can relate...

I find sometimes when you try and do something for someone (another adult) not because it is required of you but because you just feel <span style="font-weight: bold">it is a nice thing to do and you get in a habit of doing it for them.</span>
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What would be some reasons why aperson doesnt feel like being nice anymore?

[twiney]

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ILP &amp; PZ unno have a point ... if mi say to Mr Twiney mi nah mek bfast this morning u on your own is a different reaction than him come down the stairs and the counter bare...

[Cultcha]

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Yah. I guess the point is dat if I do something thoughtful for you, once, twice, ten times, one hundred times, be thankful fi dem times and don't get all bent out of shape if one day mi nuh feel like doing di little tings dat you have grown accustomed to.

My parents raised me to not expect anything from anyone. If someone does you a favour, be grateful and show your appreciation but never expect it.

Anyway, I think she had time to think about her reaction because when I got home last night from work she had a gift waiting for me. It was a small, inexpensive gift but it was her way of saying she was sorry and it meant a lot to me (not the gift itself, the acknowledgement).

[Peasie]

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So how was the make up sex?

[RichD]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So how was the make up sex? </div></div>

good for him..

[Cultcha]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RichD</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So how was the make up sex? </div></div>

good for him.. </div></div>

I have a bad cold, she's affraid to catch it, so nuttin gwaan!

[missus_vegas]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: KF_Milo</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RichD</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So how was the make up sex? </div></div>

good for him.. </div></div>

I have a bad cold, she's affraid to catch it, so nuttin gwaan! </div></div>

this really made mi Laugh Out Loud!
doggy style