Advice needed......

[Suesumba]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: St_Bess</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
St Georges - Take your time there is no need to rush into another marriage. I remembered when you first came on the board how proud you were of M. and your two boys also your step daughter. You spoke highly of her then - continue to do so she is the mother of your children. As someone who was married for 36 years and now divorced for nearly 9, I would like to advise you to take this time for yourself there is no need to jump into another marriage, this is your life not a Hollywood movie set. This new woman you spoke of her like you were 16 years old - take a break from marriage. Wishing that everything works out especially for the children. <span style="font-weight: bold">Does your soon to be ex-wife logs on to JA.COM? Are you posting this thread for her to read?</span>

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wow! you said things.

[STGC85]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">[quote=St_Bess]
<span style="font-weight: bold">Does your soon to be ex-wife logs on to JA.COM? Are you posting this thread for her to read?</span>

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I could care less what she sees or reads brother. Anything I say here about her I will tell her to her face. Frankly, I could care whether she comes or goes, lives or dies........Harsh, but I despise and resent the heck out of that woman.

Thanks for the advice.....makes sense :-)

[CyberPhobic]

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DWL!

BUTSEEYAH!!!!!

[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: STGC85</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I could care less what she sees or reads. Anything I say here about her I will tell her to her face. Frankly, I could care whether she comes or goes, lives or dies........Harsh, but I despise and resent the heck out of that woman. </div></div>

This is exactly why you need a breather from a serious commitment right now. Just a gentle suggestion. Take care

[Tropicana]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: STGC85</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">[quote=St_Bess]
<span style="font-weight: bold">Does your soon to be ex-wife logs on to JA.COM? Are you posting this thread for her to read?</span>

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I could care less what she sees or reads brother. Anything I say here about her I will tell her to her face. Frankly, I could care whether she comes or goes, lives or dies........Harsh, but I despise and resent the heck out of that woman.

Thanks for the advice.....makes sense :-)

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Since you asked for advice, let me give you some. When children are involved guess what? It's not about you. You picked her, you married her and you had kids with her. To get on here and bash the mother of your children is very destructive and unhealthy.

If you can't get over your resentment, you really do need to get therapy. Unless you want to end up with really screwed up kids, the two of you need to have the <span style="font-weight: bold"><span style="text-decoration: underline">maturity</span></span> to work together as a team. You don't have to like each other or be friends but peaceful co-existence is essential and you will have to work together as a team at the very least until the children finish university. It means putting egos aside and basically just growing up and acting like a responsible adult. Trust me, I learned this within months of separating from my ex and we have worked together and cooperated all these years to raise our son.

It sounds like the last thing that you should be doing is jumping into another relationship....not when you have so much unresolved bitterness and anger.

[mountaingal]

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wise words, tropicana.

[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MGee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">wise words, tropicana. </div></div>
yes, tropicana, wise words

<span style="font-style: italic">in your last response in this thread, not the previous ones </span>

[missus_vegas]

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wat a piece a drama.

hey did u ever do ur trip report with sweet ting as u call her...or oonuh no go yard yet?

[Skelly]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MGee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">wise words, tropicana. </div></div>

tritto

[Yuriatin]

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The last thing - the VERY last thing you need to be doing now, is discussing marriage or engagement - with ANYONE.



<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: STGC85</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Ok, so me and the woman are in the process of getting a divorce. We've been separated since November of last year and believe me it was long overdue!! Final hearing to be rid of her for good is in November (cyaan cum soon enough).

So, the new lady in my life wants to get engaged.......................like right now!!
We've been together now going on 6 months and YES, we are pretty serious. (It's too bad I didn't bump into her a long time ago).

What are your thoughts? </div></div>

[Tropicana]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body">wat a piece a drama.

hey did u ever do ur trip report with sweet ting as u call her...or oonuh no go yard yet? </div></div>

Spare us. Please don't encourage him.

[DearK]

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Some very eloquent thoughts from Tropicana. I also agree with Peasie that the venom spouted at your soon to be ex suggests deeper unresolved feelings that should be addressed before even considering another serious r/ship.

STG- why do you think your current lady is so intent on marriage right now, after being with you for 6 months?